Meeting your sperm donor?
This is my experience as a granddaughter of the sperm donar and the sister in law of the sperm donar.
I never knew my real grandfather. Neither did my mother. The man I knew as my grandfather legally adopted her when she was like 2 yrs old and so her birth records were sealed. My mom didn't even know her real father's name until she was in her 60s(she knew her dad adopter her but my grandmother refused to talk about her real father until then). Because I work on our family tree my mom asked if I could find her real dad now that we knew his name. It wasn't easy. My grandmother by this time was in her 80s/90s and she gave me what she could remember. I am still not able to get my moms real birth certificate because my grandmother is still alive(at 101 yrs old) however after years of trying I feel like I finally tracked the man down from the info I had only to find out he was dead and died like in the 1980s or early 90s and he lived like 30 mins away from us when he died. All my mom wanted was to "know" him. It took my grandma 60 yrs to just tell her his name. It's sooo fucked up and as a granddaughter it impacted me as well.
My niece and nephews father basically abandoned them when they were young. After my sister divorced him right after my niece was born he moved away to a different state and then left the country where he met a new woman who had a kid, married her and raised her kid as his own. My niece referred to him as the sperm donar because eventually my sister met the man who is still raising them and who they call dad even tho he left my sister. They are teenagers now. However, my sister almost went down the path of my grandmother even went as far as changing their last names to her maden name legally so they no longer have his last name which they were legally born with. His family never took interest in them but eventually my sister made an effort and contacted his family and him in order to let them know him. My niece is still interested in the family tree because she wants to know more about her father's side of the family. Unfortunately for them their father ended up dying a few years ago but they did get to meet him again b4 he died and got to know him through Facebook(he had moved to South America). He is originally from South Africa so his family is still there but I don't think the kids talk to them or know their cousins. I met his sister once after my nephew was born she came to America for that but not for my niece and they are only a year apart so my nephew has no recollection of her visit. But they did get to know their father and even tho they hated him for abandoning them I think they were better adjusted to the fact that he is dead now.
So my advice is to let your daughter know of him and meet him if he wants to meet her. But don't make any promises to her. At least let her make that decision as she gets older before he dies and she wishes she had just known him and now never will.
I never knew my real grandfather. Neither did my mother. The man I knew as my grandfather legally adopted her when she was like 2 yrs old and so her birth records were sealed. My mom didn't even know her real father's name until she was in her 60s(she knew her dad adopter her but my grandmother refused to talk about her real father until then). Because I work on our family tree my mom asked if I could find her real dad now that we knew his name. It wasn't easy. My grandmother by this time was in her 80s/90s and she gave me what she could remember. I am still not able to get my moms real birth certificate because my grandmother is still alive(at 101 yrs old) however after years of trying I feel like I finally tracked the man down from the info I had only to find out he was dead and died like in the 1980s or early 90s and he lived like 30 mins away from us when he died. All my mom wanted was to "know" him. It took my grandma 60 yrs to just tell her his name. It's sooo fucked up and as a granddaughter it impacted me as well.
My niece and nephews father basically abandoned them when they were young. After my sister divorced him right after my niece was born he moved away to a different state and then left the country where he met a new woman who had a kid, married her and raised her kid as his own. My niece referred to him as the sperm donar because eventually my sister met the man who is still raising them and who they call dad even tho he left my sister. They are teenagers now. However, my sister almost went down the path of my grandmother even went as far as changing their last names to her maden name legally so they no longer have his last name which they were legally born with. His family never took interest in them but eventually my sister made an effort and contacted his family and him in order to let them know him. My niece is still interested in the family tree because she wants to know more about her father's side of the family. Unfortunately for them their father ended up dying a few years ago but they did get to meet him again b4 he died and got to know him through Facebook(he had moved to South America). He is originally from South Africa so his family is still there but I don't think the kids talk to them or know their cousins. I met his sister once after my nephew was born she came to America for that but not for my niece and they are only a year apart so my nephew has no recollection of her visit. But they did get to know their father and even tho they hated him for abandoning them I think they were better adjusted to the fact that he is dead now.
So my advice is to let your daughter know of him and meet him if he wants to meet her. But don't make any promises to her. At least let her make that decision as she gets older before he dies and she wishes she had just known him and now never will.
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Posted by saggurl88but i do think there is some truth that getting into a man's heart involves getting into his pants as well.Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by saggurl88Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by pooface222Posted by Libra4rmTX
You get in a mans heart by getting in a mans pants
Not true.
Once you get in a mans pants, he's had you and doesn't want you anymore.
Hmmm.....I got a theory behind that that life taught me but this isnt the place for that.
All Ill say is this, its something to be said about a man who cant be satisfied.
There’s no better place then here to discuss that. I actually want to hear your theory.
I don’t believe in a guy losing interest once he’s had sex but I’m still curious about what you have to say.
I think either a girl can give it too soon and a guy loses internet cause she didn’t grab his attention in other ways or she gave it up too late and he still wasn’t interested, but was waiting around for it.
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Now the other is somrtimes as men, we dont really know how to pinpoint what it is that pulls us to a certain woman. Like you said, it doesnt matter if a woman has sex with us early or late. If tgat oomph isnt there we probably will either change or just leave. But every man has a different it factor.
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There are both men and women that like casual sex, but most will get tired of it when they realize there is no substance involved.click to expand
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Posted by saggurl88Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by saggurl88Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by pooface222Posted by Libra4rmTX
You get in a mans heart by getting in a mans pants
Not true.
Once you get in a mans pants, he's had you and doesn't want you anymore.
Hmmm.....I got a theory behind that that life taught me but this isnt the place for that.
All Ill say is this, its something to be said about a man who cant be satisfied.
There’s no better place then here to discuss that. I actually want to hear your theory.
I don’t believe in a guy losing interest once he’s had sex but I’m still curious about what you have to say.
I think either a girl can give it too soon and a guy loses internet cause she didn’t grab his attention in other ways or she gave it up too late and he still wasn’t interested, but was waiting around for it.
Well Ill first say that I believe hypersexual ppl cant be satisfied. They just have a bottomless pit. And no boundaries. Thats not the same as someone with a high sex drive. Its different. But you can tell when a person is hypersexual because they just have no boundaries. Everybody goes thru a hoe phase lol but they calm down after a while. But I have friends and exs that are just extremely sexual to where they cant be satisfied by just one partner.
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We guard our heart by remaining detached and tbh we are making a decision with every convo we have with a woman.
It just boils down to does this woman meet our ideal lady or yes, does she not grab our attention. Every man is different but yea we tend to gravitate towards the woman who can capture our mind and ignite our emotions
Yes, I completely agree. The same can be said with women and their wants.
What it comes down to is sex not being the only thing that a woman has that she can offer. Some women weigh too heavy on giving up sex and why the man was disinterested. Sex most likely had nothing to do with it.
Sex can be seen as something as easy as eating or drinking with another person. Just another layer of what is pleasurable for 2 people to enjoy.
That's why its important to actually like a person for other reasons, instead of just wondering if the sex is good. When you like multiple things about a person, it adds to the enjoyment of the company that is kept.
There are both men and women that like casual sex, but most will get tired of it when they realize there is no substance involved.click to expand
YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD!!! So often we view sex as purely phyiscal and its not. A phone conversation, a date where the vibe just hits every note, even simple eye contact. Those all can br consideted sex. Its not just phyiscal. Damn damn damn lol you just dont know thw chord you struck for ya boy with that one. Ive been saying this for a while now.
And I guess it comes down to paying attention to who youre dealing with because you may be catching feelings for someone who is a text from ghosting you. Ive had it happen to me lol and im guilty of it. With datinf everything is so fluid that its best to remain detached until you can make sure ish is truly mutual on every level. You said some impressive shit!
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There’s no better place then here to discuss that. I actually want to hear your theory.
I don’t believe in a guy losing interest once he’s had sex but I’m still curious about what you have to say.
I think either a girl can give it too soon and a guy loses internet cause she didn’t grab his attention in other ways or she gave it up too late and he still wasn’t interested, but was waiting around for it.
Well Ill first say that I believe hypersexual ppl cant be satisfied. They just have a bottomless pit. And no boundaries. Thats not the same as someone with a high sex drive. Its different. But you can tell when a person is hypersexual because they just have no boundaries. Everybody goes thru a hoe phase lol but they calm down after a while. But I have friends and exs that are just extremely sexual to where they cant be satisfied by just one partner.
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We guard our heart by remaining detached and tbh we are making a decision with every convo we have with a woman.
It just boils down to does this woman meet our ideal lady or yes, does she not grab our attention. Every man is different but yea we tend to gravitate towards the woman who can capture our mind and ignite our emotions
Yes, I completely agree. The same can be said with women and their wants.
What it comes down to is sex not being the only thing that a woman has that she can offer. Some women weigh too heavy on giving up sex and why the man was disinterested. Sex most likely had nothing to do with it.
Sex can be seen as something as easy as eating or drinking with another person. Just another layer of what is pleasurable for 2 people to enjoy.
That's why its important to actually like a person for other reasons, instead of just wondering if the sex is good. When you like multiple things about a person, it adds to the enjoyment of the company that is kept.
There are both men and women that like casual sex, but most will get tired of it when they realize there is no substance involved.
but i do think there is some truth that getting into a man's heart involves getting into his pants as well.
if the sex is terrible but you're a nice person, i don't think men will stick around (nor will women, they just might hang around a bit longer).
it's all good and well to say you need to be vulnerable, you need to show your emotions, blah blah blah, if she is a firecracker in the sack, then he is going to want to keep her around and the longer she is there, the longer she can show her other fine attributes, and then yes, into the heart she goes but if that zipper doesn't come down then having a man truly fall in love (wild devotion, climb the highest mountain, slay a dragon sort of stuff) is nigh on impossible. men too often let the little head lead them.click to expand
I need sex like I need food and a shower. I agree and think sex can be a factor in a man falling in love.
Posted by saggurl88i'm talking about the response that libra4rmtx's was wrong and the blanket rule that men will leave you after sex because he's had you.Posted by jeanePosted by saggurl88Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by saggurl88Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by pooface222Posted by Libra4rmTX
You get in a mans heart by getting in a mans pants
Not true.
Once you get in a mans pants, he's had you and doesn't want you anymore.
Hmmm.....I got a theory behind that that life taught me but this isnt the place for that.
All Ill say is this, its something to be said about a man who cant be satisfied.
There’s no better place then here to discuss that. I actually want to hear your theory.
I don’t believe in a guy losing interest once he’s had sex but I’m still curious about what you have to say.
I think either a girl can give it too soon and a guy loses internet cause she didn’t grab his attention in other ways or she gave it up too late and he still wasn’t interested, but was waiting around for it.
Well Ill first say that I believe hypersexual ppl cant be satisfied. They just have a bottomless pit. And no boundaries. Thats not the same as someone with a high sex drive. Its different. But you can tell when a person is hypersexual because they just have no boundaries. Everybody goes thru a hoe phase lol but they calm down after a while. But I have friends and exs that are just extremely sexual to where they cant be satisfied by just one partner.
Now the other is somrtimes as men, we dont really know how to pinpoint what it is that pulls us to a certain woman. Like you said, it doesnt matter if a woman has sex with us early or late. If tgat oomph isnt there we probably will either change or just leave. But every man has a different it factor.
For me its personality. I like a woman thay can talk about anything. Thats goofy. That is open minded amd a lil spontaneous. I dont like an extremely serious woman. A toxic woman that just......just......is toxic period. And that one womam that just entertains you because she is bored.
Some men like a woman that cooks and cleans and is submissive. Some men want a woman that has all the physical traits hes attracted to. Some men want a woman that has money. And sometimes we fall for a woman that we dont expect to fall for.
We guard our heart by remaining detached and tbh we are making a decision with every convo we have with a woman.
It just boils down to does this woman meet our ideal lady or yes, does she not grab our attention. Every man is different but yea we tend to gravitate towards the woman who can capture our mind and ignite our emotions
Yes, I completely agree. The same can be said with women and their wants.
What it comes down to is sex not being the only thing that a woman has that she can offer. Some women weigh too heavy on giving up sex and why the man was disinterested. Sex most likely had nothing to do with it.
Sex can be seen as something as easy as eating or drinking with another person. Just another layer of what is pleasurable for 2 people to enjoy.
That's why its important to actually like a person for other reasons, instead of just wondering if the sex is good. When you like multiple things about a person, it adds to the enjoyment of the company that is kept.
There are both men and women that like casual sex, but most will get tired of it when they realize there is no substance involved.
but i do think there is some truth that getting into a man's heart involves getting into his pants as well.
if the sex is terrible but you're a nice person, i don't think men will stick around (nor will women, they just might hang around a bit longer).
it's all good and well to say you need to be vulnerable, you need to show your emotions, blah blah blah, if she is a firecracker in the sack, then he is going to want to keep her around and the longer she is there, the longer she can show her other fine attributes, and then yes, into the heart she goes but if that zipper doesn't come down then having a man truly fall in love (wild devotion, climb the highest mountain, slay a dragon sort of stuff) is nigh on impossible. men too often let the little head lead them.
We are talking about why some guys leave after having sex.
I need sex like I need food and a shower. I agree and think sex can be a factor in a man falling in love.click to expand
Posted by Libra4rmTXSometimes being too cautious can bite you in the ass too. There are a lot of men and women who are too scared to keep trying for a connection. And most people fall for people that they can't have. It's human nature to want what's not there.Posted by saggurl88Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by saggurl88Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by pooface222Posted by Libra4rmTX
You get in a mans heart by getting in a mans pants
Not true.
Once you get in a mans pants, he's had you and doesn't want you anymore.
Hmmm.....I got a theory behind that that life taught me but this isnt the place for that.
All Ill say is this, its something to be said about a man who cant be satisfied.
There’s no better place then here to discuss that. I actually want to hear your theory.
I don’t believe in a guy losing interest once he’s had sex but I’m still curious about what you have to say.
I think either a girl can give it too soon and a guy loses internet cause she didn’t grab his attention in other ways or she gave it up too late and he still wasn’t interested, but was waiting around for it.
Well Ill first say that I believe hypersexual ppl cant be satisfied. They just have a bottomless pit. And no boundaries. Thats not the same as someone with a high sex drive. Its different. But you can tell when a person is hypersexual because they just have no boundaries. Everybody goes thru a hoe phase lol but they calm down after a while. But I have friends and exs that are just extremely sexual to where they cant be satisfied by just one partner.
Now the other is somrtimes as men, we dont really know how to pinpoint what it is that pulls us to a certain woman. Like you said, it doesnt matter if a woman has sex with us early or late. If tgat oomph isnt there we probably will either change or just leave. But every man has a different it factor.
For me its personality. I like a woman thay can talk about anything. Thats goofy. That is open minded amd a lil spontaneous. I dont like an extremely serious woman. A toxic woman that just......just......is toxic period. And that one womam that just entertains you because she is bored.
Some men like a woman that cooks and cleans and is submissive. Some men want a woman that has all the physical traits hes attracted to. Some men want a woman that has money. And sometimes we fall for a woman that we dont expect to fall for.
We guard our heart by remaining detached and tbh we are making a decision with every convo we have with a woman.
It just boils down to does this woman meet our ideal lady or yes, does she not grab our attention. Every man is different but yea we tend to gravitate towards the woman who can capture our mind and ignite our emotions
Yes, I completely agree. The same can be said with women and their wants.
What it comes down to is sex not being the only thing that a woman has that she can offer. Some women weigh too heavy on giving up sex and why the man was disinterested. Sex most likely had nothing to do with it.
Sex can be seen as something as easy as eating or drinking with another person. Just another layer of what is pleasurable for 2 people to enjoy.
That's why its important to actually like a person for other reasons, instead of just wondering if the sex is good. When you like multiple things about a person, it adds to the enjoyment of the company that is kept.
There are both men and women that like casual sex, but most will get tired of it when they realize there is no substance involved.
YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD!!! So often we view sex as purely phyiscal and its not. A phone conversation, a date where the vibe just hits every note, even simple eye contact. Those all can br consideted sex. Its not just phyiscal. Damn damn damn lol you just dont know thw chord you struck for ya boy with that one. Ive been saying this for a while now.
And I guess it comes down to paying attention to who youre dealing with because you may be catching feelings for someone who is a text from ghosting you. Ive had it happen to me lol and im guilty of it. With datinf everything is so fluid that its best to remain detached until you can make sure ish is truly mutual on every level. You said some impressive shit!click to expand
It's part of the reason why I will give a man a second chance if he comes back, with no issues or past salty behavior, because most don't realize what they have till it's gone.
I think women need to realize that men have the same feelings as women, we hear how tough men can be, but in the end we are all the same when it comes to feelings.
You just have to navigate and find the person who works with yours well.
But now we aren't talking about sex anymore, are we?
Nah
I was wearing 36 DD for years thinking it was fine but then I got measured at a little boutique and they said I was actually 34 E or F ...now I forget because that size is impossible to find anyway
I’ve been ordering 34 or 36 DDD or E (depending how they label it) though and it’s been fitting great 👍🏻
Also depends on the brand too man idk
I was wearing 36 DD for years thinking it was fine but then I got measured at a little boutique and they said I was actually 34 E or F ...now I forget because that size is impossible to find anyway
I’ve been ordering 34 or 36 DDD or E (depending how they label it) though and it’s been fitting great 👍🏻
Also depends on the brand too man idk
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You get in a mans heart by getting in a mans pants
Not true.
Once you get in a mans pants, he's had you and doesn't want you anymore.
Hmmm.....I got a theory behind that that life taught me but this isnt the place for that.
All Ill say is this, its something to be said about a man who cant be satisfied.
There’s no better place then here to discuss that. I actually want to hear your theory.
I don’t believe in a guy losing interest once he’s had sex but I’m still curious about what you have to say.
I think either a girl can give it too soon and a guy loses internet cause she didn’t grab his attention in other ways or she gave it up too late and he still wasn’t interested, but was waiting around for it.
Well Ill first say that I believe hypersexual ppl cant be satisfied. They just have a bottomless pit. And no boundaries. Thats not the same as someone with a high sex drive. Its different. But you can tell when a person is hypersexual because they just have no boundaries. Everybody goes thru a hoe phase lol but they calm down after a while. But I have friends and exs that are just extremely sexual to where they cant be satisfied by just one partner.
Now the other is somrtimes as men, we dont really know how to pinpoint what it is that pulls us to a certain woman. Like you said, it doesnt matter if a woman has sex with us early or late. If tgat oomph isnt there we probably will either change or just leave. But every man has a different it factor.
For me its personality. I like a woman thay can talk about anything. Thats goofy. That is open minded amd a lil spontaneous. I dont like an extremely serious woman. A toxic woman that just......just......is toxic period. And that one womam that just entertains you because she is bored.
Some men like a woman that cooks and cleans and is submissive. Some men want a woman that has all the physical traits hes attracted to. Some men want a woman that has money. And sometimes we fall for a woman that we dont expect to fall for.
We guard our heart by remaining detached and tbh we are making a decision with every convo we have with a woman.
It just boils down to does this woman meet our ideal lady or yes, does she not grab our attention. Every man is different but yea we tend to gravitate towards the woman who can capture our mind and ignite our emotions
Yes, I completely agree. The same can be said with women and their wants.
What it comes down to is sex not being the only thing that a woman has that she can offer. Some women weigh too heavy on giving up sex and why the man was disinterested. Sex most likely had nothing to do with it.
Sex can be seen as something as easy as eating or drinking with another person. Just another layer of what is pleasurable for 2 people to enjoy.
That's why its important to actually like a person for other reasons, instead of just wondering if the sex is good. When you like multiple things about a person, it adds to the enjoyment of the company that is kept.
There are both men and women that like casual sex, but most will get tired of it when they realize there is no substance involved.
but i do think there is some truth that getting into a man's heart involves getting into his pants as well.
if the sex is terrible but you're a nice person, i don't think men will stick around (nor will women, they just might hang around a bit longer).
Idk guys are less demanding about women bed skills
Unless he watch porn all day or somethingclick to expand
Posted by jeaneSo did you mean to quote him? Cause I'm confused.Posted by saggurl88Posted by jeanePosted by saggurl88Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by saggurl88Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by pooface222Posted by Libra4rmTX
You get in a mans heart by getting in a mans pants
Not true.
Once you get in a mans pants, he's had you and doesn't want you anymore.
Hmmm.....I got a theory behind that that life taught me but this isnt the place for that.
All Ill say is this, its something to be said about a man who cant be satisfied.
There’s no better place then here to discuss that. I actually want to hear your theory.
I don’t believe in a guy losing interest once he’s had sex but I’m still curious about what you have to say.
I think either a girl can give it too soon and a guy loses internet cause she didn’t grab his attention in other ways or she gave it up too late and he still wasn’t interested, but was waiting around for it.
Well Ill first say that I believe hypersexual ppl cant be satisfied. They just have a bottomless pit. And no boundaries. Thats not the same as someone with a high sex drive. Its different. But you can tell when a person is hypersexual because they just have no boundaries. Everybody goes thru a hoe phase lol but they calm down after a while. But I have friends and exs that are just extremely sexual to where they cant be satisfied by just one partner.
Now the other is somrtimes as men, we dont really know how to pinpoint what it is that pulls us to a certain woman. Like you said, it doesnt matter if a woman has sex with us early or late. If tgat oomph isnt there we probably will either change or just leave. But every man has a different it factor.
For me its personality. I like a woman thay can talk about anything. Thats goofy. That is open minded amd a lil spontaneous. I dont like an extremely serious woman. A toxic woman that just......just......is toxic period. And that one womam that just entertains you because she is bored.
Some men like a woman that cooks and cleans and is submissive. Some men want a woman that has all the physical traits hes attracted to. Some men want a woman that has money. And sometimes we fall for a woman that we dont expect to fall for.
We guard our heart by remaining detached and tbh we are making a decision with every convo we have with a woman.
It just boils down to does this woman meet our ideal lady or yes, does she not grab our attention. Every man is different but yea we tend to gravitate towards the woman who can capture our mind and ignite our emotions
Yes, I completely agree. The same can be said with women and their wants.
What it comes down to is sex not being the only thing that a woman has that she can offer. Some women weigh too heavy on giving up sex and why the man was disinterested. Sex most likely had nothing to do with it.
Sex can be seen as something as easy as eating or drinking with another person. Just another layer of what is pleasurable for 2 people to enjoy.
That's why its important to actually like a person for other reasons, instead of just wondering if the sex is good. When you like multiple things about a person, it adds to the enjoyment of the company that is kept.
There are both men and women that like casual sex, but most will get tired of it when they realize there is no substance involved.
but i do think there is some truth that getting into a man's heart involves getting into his pants as well.
if the sex is terrible but you're a nice person, i don't think men will stick around (nor will women, they just might hang around a bit longer).
it's all good and well to say you need to be vulnerable, you need to show your emotions, blah blah blah, if she is a firecracker in the sack, then he is going to want to keep her around and the longer she is there, the longer she can show her other fine attributes, and then yes, into the heart she goes but if that zipper doesn't come down then having a man truly fall in love (wild devotion, climb the highest mountain, slay a dragon sort of stuff) is nigh on impossible. men too often let the little head lead them.
We are talking about why some guys leave after having sex.
I need sex like I need food and a shower. I agree and think sex can be a factor in a man falling in love.
i'm talking about the response that libra4rmtx's was wrong and the blanket rule that men will leave you after sex because he's had you.click to expand