Grieving tips
You could write him a letter, but take your time. Go through what happened first. You said you have cheated on him during your drug usage period. If you were intoxicated at the time it happened, is that even cheating? How about his behaviour, asking another woman to marry him only 6 months after your breakup? How was that even possible?
Don’t blame yourself for being upset and angry after your mother died! You have the right to grieve as much as you want. One doesn’t lose a mother twice in their life, so fuck off to the idea of showing restraint, even months after it happened. Instead, ask yourself what did he do to alleviate your pain….?
I believe you could not disengage emotionally because of your guilt. It is your guilt that puts him on a pedestal too. Share it with your ex in writing, then let go of it. You don’t need his approval or even his response to let go.
Don’t blame yourself for being upset and angry after your mother died! You have the right to grieve as much as you want. One doesn’t lose a mother twice in their life, so fuck off to the idea of showing restraint, even months after it happened. Instead, ask yourself what did he do to alleviate your pain….?
I believe you could not disengage emotionally because of your guilt. It is your guilt that puts him on a pedestal too. Share it with your ex in writing, then let go of it. You don’t need his approval or even his response to let go.
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Posted by saggurl88Lol. I read a great quote today... "Breakups are hard, but luckily so are other men's dicks"Posted by LadyNeptune
Rewarding cruelty with blow jobs is only going to end in more tears for you.
Lol it’s supposed to be the other way around.
He’s cruel and you tell him to make it up to you by fixing his head between your legs 🤣🤣click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptune😂🤣Posted by saggurl88Posted by LadyNeptune
Rewarding cruelty with blow jobs is only going to end in more tears for you.
Lol it’s supposed to be the other way around.
He’s cruel and you tell him to make it up to you by fixing his head between your legs 🤣🤣
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Posted by MyStarsShineI swear its not lolPosted by SubliminalsPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Subliminals
Oh, honeymoon doesn't have to be just once.
Rekindle passion and attraction are virtues.
Sounds hopeful.....how long have you been married?
Just 3 yrs lol
Honeymoon period
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But I have lost my rose colored glasses since a yr ago..
Ideas of getting divorced or separated often got thrown out during fights..
My situation is way far from honeymoon period. I didnt get the actual honeymoon.
So.
What sign are you?
IDK my father is a Scorpio and was quite the player back in the day. One thing he's always told me is he can't stand weak women who would let him use them for sex (even though he would). He said he likes strong women who don't mind telling him to go to hell and refuse him because that let him know that she wouldn't be the type to fall easily for another guy and he could trust her to be strong. That said it sounds like this guy is using you for an ego boost while scoping out the other girl. He will get to know her. Trust that he will. Stop saying weak shit like "I can't give him up". Impossible.
IDK my father is a Scorpio and was quite the player back in the day. One thing he's always told me is he can't stand weak women who would let him use them for sex (even though he would). He said he likes strong women who don't mind telling him to go to hell and refuse him because that let him know that she wouldn't be the type to fall easily for another guy and he could trust her to be strong. That said it sounds like this guy is using you for an ego boost while scoping out the other girl. He will get to know her. Trust that he will. Stop saying weak shit like "I can't give him up". Impossible.
Actually I heard just the opposite recently. From who? From the traveling people of the caravans (the people from the East - Arabs, Persians, Indians and Tibetans) that Jesus traveled with or places he traveled to from age 13 to when he returned to Israel. The Romans and Pilate wanted Jesus dead more than the Jews.
The Romans were Idol worshippers and savages. They lived by the sword, destroying anyone that they deemed in their way. Because the Christ's primary goal was to serve these savages (else how were the scriptures going to be written?). The scriptures have been modified/tilted in an incorrect direction to make the Romans look better and the Jews look worse - according to the people from the East whom Jesus spent the majority of his life with.
The Romans were Idol worshippers and savages. They lived by the sword, destroying anyone that they deemed in their way. Because the Christ's primary goal was to serve these savages (else how were the scriptures going to be written?). The scriptures have been modified/tilted in an incorrect direction to make the Romans look better and the Jews look worse - according to the people from the East whom Jesus spent the majority of his life with.
according to the people from the East whom Jesus spent the majority of his life with this is incorrect. The Romans wanted Jesus dead more than the Jews. This makes more sense to me.
I noticed this pattern among bulls with a lot of fire or air in their birth chart to be initially attracted air/fire signs in a form of short sexual connection/fling, only to have bad ending. In the beginning, we loved the fun-loving and adventurous attitude of fire/air signs, but when the relationship progresses in a more serious term, we noticed our basic differences with air/fire signs, usually ends up with air/fire signs not meeting our needs and turned us down, later break up with both sides not compromising to each other. Meanwhile, the more ‘mature’ and stability oriented Taureans with a lot of earth and water placements in their chart will prefer vanilla type relationship with another earth or water signs.
I used to be attracted to fire/air signs girls in my high school. Of course they were that typical popular cheerleader girls with a lot of hot guys approaching them, while I was just a loner chameleon that could only watch everyone from far away. I realized how my world were very different to them, so I dropped it off. Having a lot of water placements and planets conjunct my 4th and 8th house in my birth chart do not help me either, cause I always have a strong intuition that a relationship with air/fire signs won’t benefit me at all and would have totally devastated me, therefore I try to avoid any kind of sexual encounters with fire/air sign girls. Their first impression even made me a bit uncomfortable.
Is this true to you? What experiences do you have with air and fire signs in real life? Did it work out beyond casual relationship? If it did, what kind of compromise you made with them? What lessons did you got from it? From 1-10 scale, how would you recommend a relationship between bulls and air/fire signs?
Sorry I hope I don’t offend air and fire signs people here. I don’t have any hostility to air/fire signs in general. Of course, I believe there are successful relationships between bulls and fire/air signs that worked out, although not in great numbers. It’s just that we need some neutral zone where bulls and fire/air signs would filter their misunderstanding and close the trust gap between them to form a strong bond so that we could complete each other’s drawback and not end up destroying each other.
Seems like that’s all I have to state to start this thread. Hope we can have a peaceful discussion. Thanks.
I used to be attracted to fire/air signs girls in my high school. Of course they were that typical popular cheerleader girls with a lot of hot guys approaching them, while I was just a loner chameleon that could only watch everyone from far away. I realized how my world were very different to them, so I dropped it off. Having a lot of water placements and planets conjunct my 4th and 8th house in my birth chart do not help me either, cause I always have a strong intuition that a relationship with air/fire signs won’t benefit me at all and would have totally devastated me, therefore I try to avoid any kind of sexual encounters with fire/air sign girls. Their first impression even made me a bit uncomfortable.
Is this true to you? What experiences do you have with air and fire signs in real life? Did it work out beyond casual relationship? If it did, what kind of compromise you made with them? What lessons did you got from it? From 1-10 scale, how would you recommend a relationship between bulls and air/fire signs?
Sorry I hope I don’t offend air and fire signs people here. I don’t have any hostility to air/fire signs in general. Of course, I believe there are successful relationships between bulls and fire/air signs that worked out, although not in great numbers. It’s just that we need some neutral zone where bulls and fire/air signs would filter their misunderstanding and close the trust gap between them to form a strong bond so that we could complete each other’s drawback and not end up destroying each other.
Seems like that’s all I have to state to start this thread. Hope we can have a peaceful discussion. Thanks.
Posted by GC11_why not give them a hard time. we all try to get through the day and thats always stressful, so any jerk who adds to it deserves to get punked. why cant everybody be friendly?
I am not easy to dominate, and actually enjoy giving domineering people a hard time lolz.
Posted by Hamstheticsdo you watch suits? Which one would you tolerate?Posted by BumboklaatPosted by Hamsthetics
I actually feel bad for them. It's so sad that they are not able to feel alive without someone in their lives to be dominated and manipulated.
Exactly. Its a dependency problem. And most victims who dont have firm understanding of themselves will fall into the trap
I mean, it's kinda okay/tolerable if they are somewhat attractive or smart, but most of them are unbelievably stupid with big ego and their rotten personality is very obvious even to the most gullible/naive target victims.
Their inflexibility to see life in different angle and failed to recognize that personal freedom is exist will keep them miserable to be around/live with.click to expand
Posted by Hamstheticsdo you watch suits? Which one would you tolerate?Posted by BumboklaatPosted by Hamsthetics
I actually feel bad for them. It's so sad that they are not able to feel alive without someone in their lives to be dominated and manipulated.
Exactly. Its a dependency problem. And most victims who dont have firm understanding of themselves will fall into the trap
I mean, it's kinda okay/tolerable if they are somewhat attractive or smart, but most of them are unbelievably stupid with big ego and their rotten personality is very obvious even to the most gullible/naive target victims.
Their inflexibility to see life in different angle and failed to recognize that personal freedom is exist will keep them miserable to be around/live with.click to expand