Cancer man never takes initiative?
Posted by Indigo1974Perfect! So you've already communicated with him about initiating communication (texts) and he has made an effort. He likes you! Usually you have to say it a few times before it sinks in. He received your critique without retreating into his shell and catching an attitude.Posted by LadyNeptune
I don't agree that you should stop contacting him and suddenly assuming a passive roll. That's going to send the message that you are uninterested. Especially as you've said your always the one to initiate so far.
Perhaps he, understandably so, is under the impression you prefer to be the initiator as that is what you've shown him in the time you've been dating.
Just tell him you'd like him to plan the next date, and your free on x, y, and z days coming up. Then sit back and let him step up.
After a month, I think I’ve accepted that I’m driving the bus here. Every time I suggest a date, he very enthusiastically accepts. If that’s how I’m going to spend time with him, then that’s fine. Maybe I’m just so used to the traditional role of the man being the pursuer that I’m just not used to this new paradigm. I’ve read in many places that cancer man prefers to be the passive one in the relationship, and likes a bold woman who takes charge. It’s just a tricky spot because I don’t want to push him, but if I want to see him and spend time with him – which I always do, as a Libra Woman — then I need to be the one suggesting plans. I did talk to him about initiating texts, and he just explained that’s his thing and he’s gotten criticized for it before. But he’s actually really stepped up and made much more of an effort to reach out to me first, which I appreciate.click to expand
So apply that same approach here. Let him know that while you do enjoy planning outings for the two of you, you would love it if he could take control and do so once in awhile. Give him the permission to do so.
Be bold! If you can take his dick in your body you certainly can tell him what you want out of the bedroom. (Crass I know, but true).
I'd also throw out all the generalizations you've been reading about Cancer men. Don't rely to heavily on that. He will show you who he is more than embittered strangers online.
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I asked him he could come over after his gym class and stay the night. He said Yes. I was going to take part in this class too, so we go home together after.
Thurs daytime comes and he calls me telling me he has to go and sort out the mess in the house he bought for his son to live in! His son lives over an hours drive away and is 21 and studying.
His son apparently doesn't empty bins or do laundry etc so the house gets in a mess.
I then felt rejected.
However come Thurs night, I didn't feel like going to this class, as all he would do is chat for 5mins then drive off afterwards leaving me feeling worse!
So i didn't attend the class.
The very next day he didnt turn up to my class (I'm an instructor). Surprise surprise!
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Soooo he didn't come to mine Friday morning!
He did ring me though and we talked.
He told me he changed his mind and stayed home instead!
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