Pisces men - general behaviour..is this normal/usual?
Posted by chris19You got it!Posted by pooface222
I need to ask..
TWO Things.
1) Is it the normal done thing with Pisces men, to want a woman so much, that when he gets the chance to be with her...disappears?!?
Eg he's scared. Because now she's showing interest, he's scared to death and doesn't know what to do?
I've read lots of here about the Classic Pisces disappearing act in relationships.
I'm asking because this behaviour just confuses the hell out of me!
It makes me feel rejected. It makes me feel he never wanted me in the first place.
Therefore I stop bothering with him.
But..
Once I stop bothering with him, that's when he reappears and comes chasing.
Then I hold back. To stop him disappearing again. He feels hurt I'm not showing my feelings for him. Soooo..I show my feelings and POOF he's gone again!
Now..
2) Is it normal for Pisces men to be Stubborn and Selfish in a relationship.?
Eg Only wanting the relationship on Their terms. And if they don't get it their way, they get upset and feel like their potential long-term partner doesn't want them or love them.
This is an immature Pisces. I can say that I have also displayed similar behaviour in the past. It's a slippery fish. You want to chase it yet you don't want to scare it. You have to find a balance between the two. Aristotle called it the Golden Mean. When you have that Pisces it will be blissful heaven on earth. So take your time. Be patient with your Fish.
I have over 75% water placements on my chart and most of them are Pisces.click to expand
Exactly!
"You want to chase it yet you don't want to scare it. You have to find a balance between the two."
This is what I've been doing for a while! And its not easy!
Its like I have to Chase him, then Back Off. Chase him, then Back Off. Over and Over.
Because chasing makes HIM back off!
And backing off him, makes him think I don't like him/want him so he goes quiet on me.
So I have to find that balance between Chasing and Backing off.
For example I have noticed that offering him time with me, in one breath, then taking it away with the next breath, seems to work with him.
Because once I say "you don't have to, its up to you. I'd love to see you, but I guess you can't" he starts to find a way to spend time with me rather than getting lost in his normal Pisces way.
Its about grounding him.
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