Posted by GammaArietisYes. I was the same at one point, that's why I mentioned it. 9 times out of 10 it will lead to unhealthy relationships in my experience. It attracts a certain type of person and if it doesn't, the other person will eventually realize there's an easy breakPosted by BumboklaatPosted by GammaArietisPosted by BumboklaatPosted by GammaArietisPosted by BumboklaatPosted by GammaArietisPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by GammaArietis
I’ve known them all a really long time lol. 10-20 years. 😕
My stupid ass even apologized for not meeting him at a hotel to “hang out”. Thinking I’m being a bad friend. He said “Its okay, I’m not holding a grudge but we’re not speaking anymore.” 😂
Known him since 2014
You have to look deep into the source of the problem. Usually in childhood/parents. Cause usually the girls that have mostly male friends is a sign of parental issues. It's very difficult to get over issues as adults if you don't address the source and open up the repression
Male friends are like gold digging females. They'll always be around looking for an opportunity
I don’t have mostly male friends?
But you do have some toxic ones whom you seemingly seek some type of approval but you don't want romantic relationships with. That's could be highly damaging as it puts you in a vulnerable position. Are you an Aries? They tend to give more than receive which can cause imbalance
I’m not sure how I seek approval from them. I could be wrong but I’m not giving anything or receiving anything either really. I’m just being a human and congratulating accomplishments or offering condolences. One of my friends was on a few tv shows recently. I reached out to say congrats. He said thanks. Couple exchanges and that was it. He is one that is not toxic. Another friends Dad just died. I reached out to give my condolences. He went the toxic route. It could be because he doesn’t have any friends, because he told me I’m one of the only people he talks to and we talk VERY VERY infrequently. I’m talking like 3-4x a year, if that. He said he was lonely and felt like he might get into a relationship for the wrong reasons. That’s really it. I’m not crying to them or asking them to tell me I’m pretty. Like I mentioned, I’m known for disappearing and not talking to anyone at all.
Guys don't think like girls. We're wired to be attracted to females, it's primitive. You're being blindsided. We see it cause we're guys and you're not.
I can't get into specifics cause I know nothing other than what you've mentioned. Just take care of yourself, you seem to have mastered the withdrawing and cutting people off part which is not totally bad but as a female it still affects you emotionally even subconsciously. Just know guys will be fine. Especially if they're toxic they'll just find another host to leech off of. Don't feel bad for anyone but yourself. And even then treat yourself good. Friends are hard to come by in any scenario. Acquaintances come and go on the daily. You just need to accept yourself
I thought about what you said. I think I do feel obligated to return peoples kindness. I don’t like being in kindness debt. So if someone is even a little bit nice to me I’m like ahh shit now I have to be nice too. But sometimes their kindness is just manipulation or ulterior motives and I guess I need to recognize that.click to expand
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From Thatcher, Gillard and now Harris. Even though people say they lack Emotional Intelligence, Sensitivity and Depth, does that mean brain-power alone is enough to control this World?
If you can work the system, you control it and bend it at your own will.
Unfortunately that doesn't necessarily mean they'll use it for the benefit of the people.
If you look at records, achievements etc, Librans own more than every other sign combined. Probably. 😅
What makes youcssy they lack emotional Intelligence? They def know how to be persuasive, they understand group dynamics and how to work a room, so they can run groups of people which is power.
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He showed up with her
2) Did you stay with the other person and why/why not?
Yes, my first love and he made promises to change
3) Did you learn anything from it and, if so, what?
Yes, refer to the end
4) Do you feel like you might have played a part in what happened?
No, he was immature and just went with the feels
Cheaters:
1) why did you cheat?
Payback
2) Who did you cheat with (not looking for specifics) and why?
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3) how did the relationship start? Did it end?
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4) did you learn anything from it? If so, what?
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I was young and immature, he was young and immature. Even though we thought we were old enough we weren’t.
I learned very young, how much it hurts to be cheated on and how much it hurts to cheat on someone. When you cheat on someone, it doesn’t come without consequences. You still have to face up to what you’ve done and how you’ve deeply cut someone that you love.
Most of all, I learned I don’t ever want to go through those hurts and those conversations ever again.
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Payback
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One random night at a party, 1 night only.
4) did you learn anything from it? If so, what?
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What makes youcssy they lack emotional Intelligence? They def know how to be persuasive, they understand group dynamics and how to work a room, so they can run groups of people which is power.
They are very, very, very difficult to live with.click to expand
Makes me want to throw away my Libra rising card.
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They are very, very, very difficult to live with.
Truth in case right'cha.
Makes me want to throw away my Libra rising card.
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