Hey guys what's the coldest thing an older guy has ever told you.
Posted by GammaArietisPosted by virgokingPosted by GammaArietis
What do men expect of women during a breakup?
“A bitch wouldn’t feel sorry for you”
So, what exactly do you want? What can a woman do to show that she does feel sorry for the breakup? Stay with you despite her unhappiness?
most women blind side men when the break up is about to happen. Women say they give hints... bs most women do passive aggressive acts that some how men are suppose to decode. Men only understand direct communication so if your trying to warn your man he is fucking up. Please be direct.
There is a drop of truth here. I do believe some men are blind sided by breakups but if we were to be direct it would be considered “bitching and nagging” so it’s really a no-win situation for us. We’re taught not to be too direct about our wants and needs because that makes us high maintenance.click to expand
I understand that but just like men, you have to take that risk if this is a person you see a future with. I would say men hate the talk lol. Because most of the time women start with every thing they don't like about us. Making us feel attack. So I suggest talk about what you like in your man first and let him know you have concerns. And if these concerns grow I don't know if I can continue with this relationship.
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She already sees this I think; she’s keeping you as a fling. Taurus don’t turn down sex from what I understand. A Taurus seriously considering you won’t run away or break their word.
We've never butted heads though. And I feel like her personality is much more out there than mine lol. Or at least when we hangout we are both being goofy and what not. We have a similar sense of humor. I am a really laid back Leo and don't like forcing what I think on to others. I try to give advice when I can but its not in a patronizing or I know and you don't way. Also, when we disagree it's more like ok cool I respect that your into that though. Neither of us is forcing our opinions or style s onto one another. I respect her and don't want to change her in anyway and she isn't like critiquing me either. We just be ourselves around each other and seem to clique. I definitely haven't hid my flaws and insecurities around her and my displays of confidence have come of more as resilience. Because I was actually really down on myself when I met her. Was going through a lot and was talking to her over drinks--this was before I got her number I think and everything lol. So, I did not give off good first impressions imo lol.
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Look, I’ve always thought Virgo men were not my type until I had the chance to get to know my man. The first thing I checked was if he was a misogynistic asshole or not so maybe that’s what I think is the worst about some virgos and earth sign men in general ime.
you think earth sign men have higher chances of being misogynistic than other signs ???
Definitely.
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No, it’s when they hate women in every aspect but love fucking the female anatomy. If you’ve been called that you should work on yourself and evaluate your relationship with women. 🤷🏻♀️click to expand
I hear what you are saying but in real life when women use it. They use it on any can man that holds women accountable or don't believe in what she believes in. This is why a lot of men just lie.