Do Cancer men sometimes behave like the breakup never happened?
I know Cancer men tend to have a hard time letting people go, but this is just bizarre. I broke things off with him three months ago after a messy 7-month situationship. He didn’t want a relationship, I stayed in it longer than I should have, got fed up with the hot/cold behavior and feeling controlled. I broke it off (it felt kind of mutual), immediately went no contact and blocked him on all social media so I could heal.
I’ve run into him a few times since the breakup and he’s always extra, attentive, affectionate, clingy. Essentially behaving like we never split. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t magically want to commit after three months apart (and me being a ghost to him), and I have a feeling that if I reciprocated that energy and hinted at getting back together, he’d either reject me or we’d end up back in the same place.
Anyway, is this hanging on for dear life behavior after a breakup typical for Cancer men even if they don’t want a relationship with you? I love his company SO much and enjoy the attention, and I don’t want to hurt him by pushing back on our interactions. But I know I need stronger boundaries. I still have him blocked on all social media; he’s been asking mutual friends about me, bragging about me to friends, and liking photos/videos of me that other people post since he can’t see my stuff.
I’ve run into him a few times since the breakup and he’s always extra, attentive, affectionate, clingy. Essentially behaving like we never split. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t magically want to commit after three months apart (and me being a ghost to him), and I have a feeling that if I reciprocated that energy and hinted at getting back together, he’d either reject me or we’d end up back in the same place.
Anyway, is this hanging on for dear life behavior after a breakup typical for Cancer men even if they don’t want a relationship with you? I love his company SO much and enjoy the attention, and I don’t want to hurt him by pushing back on our interactions. But I know I need stronger boundaries. I still have him blocked on all social media; he’s been asking mutual friends about me, bragging about me to friends, and liking photos/videos of me that other people post since he can’t see my stuff.
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From this post it seems like your the cancer, holding grudges... being in your feels... taking things far too seriously. I know you scorps like to pride yourselves on getting people to spill all their secrets or whatever but some people will not want to feel like they are in a job interview with your tons of questions when all she had said was HI.
People, most notably women, do not owe you a romantic relationship. They don't owe you a friendship. They don't owe it to you to be 'nice' in the way you want their interactions to be. They really don't owe you anything.
I'll give you a gold star for realizing that you probably made her uncomfortable with your intensity. Having that kind of self reflection puts you ahead of the pack, the bar is really that low.
People, most notably women, do not owe you a romantic relationship. They don't owe you a friendship. They don't owe it to you to be 'nice' in the way you want their interactions to be. They really don't owe you anything.
I'll give you a gold star for realizing that you probably made her uncomfortable with your intensity. Having that kind of self reflection puts you ahead of the pack, the bar is really that low.
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My rising sign Libra. And the only thing I can identify with it is its look, attractive. What good is being attractive when all you wanna do is just sit around and be lazy and not care about showing it off. And now even I'm not too sure I identify with all of it besides just looking pretty. Like being a people's person naw naw naw I can't relate to that at all. My belief in astrology has sadly diminished.
Do you and midnight riser have some similar placements ? Just wondering. Something sounds similar , can’t put finger on it exactly.
Na I don't think so. He put his attractiveness to use (at least I think he does and so he implies on the boards). He's a libra sun and I'm a Libra rising. I don't know what his rising sign is but Libra on the ascendant makes one automatically attractive (not so much Libra sun) and not too confident in ourselves. Midnight_Riser sound way too confident and don't sound like he shy which got me thinking he has a fire rising.
haha you got what i was trying to say .
Haha so I see you been following up on us aye.
Yeeeep! That's all we Libra risings good for. Sit back and look pretty. No ambition, no career...
No ambition, no career...
Speak for yourself!
Additionally, not all of us are pretty or good looking.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, IMO.
Libra Rising charm adds to their looks usually. Just like confidence can boost an average persons looks.
They just have that
I see that as you ceding ground on this matter.
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You are correct. As to why he will not cross that line on his own...🤷
Could be so many reasons but that's irrelevant.
If your interested, call him out by telling him he can OR my favorite, on the next hug hold him in a little firmer to slow the withdraw and turn your head towards him. The other way is to make eye contact the move in slower with your lips parting without turning your head going into the hug.
Either one should break him to cross the line.
Personally I have had this issue when I'm unsure of her feelings or willingness to reciprocate and I value our relationship too much to risk undermining trust and my intentions questioned.
But again back to you. Reread the first paragraph.
Your last paragraph was really helpful.
I was getting confused as I thought that maybe he didn’t like me but then his behaviour wouldn’t make sense. He always tries to extend our time together but gets all jittery when I get close to him
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"We've been talking for 3 or 4 months here and there"
Go back to this and don't take his silence the wrong way. Scorpios don't like extra clingy, maybe you think you are being ignored now, because you like him more. Just chill out and wait for him to hit you up. He will if he's interested still.
Go back to this and don't take his silence the wrong way. Scorpios don't like extra clingy, maybe you think you are being ignored now, because you like him more. Just chill out and wait for him to hit you up. He will if he's interested still.
"I waited a while to say this but _____ and I were not working out so I moved out last year. I am not sure what your relationship status is but I wouldn't mind entertaining us talking again and seeing where it goes. Obviously, long-distance relationships are hard and you would need to not hate me so there are definitely some really big challenges. I would be lying if I said this hasn't been on my mind for a while. What's your opinion?"
Hate him for what? leaving me pregnant? And not seeing his kid since she was 3 days old?
what is wrong with your people?
Hate him for what? leaving me pregnant? And not seeing his kid since she was 3 days old?
what is wrong with your people?
Scorpios are clingy when they want to be. Back up & don’t want any part of it, if they aren’t feeling it at the moment. Doesn’t mean they don’t feel it.. they are just weird like that.. like it has to be their idea. It’s been interesting watching my daughter with her bf. I see this type of interaction. What I do know is her bf is a saint, and has learned how it works 😂
Wow.
What's his sign?
What's his sign?
Be all cordial and ask him where he is staying. Get the address and then serve him the child support papers.