Cancer husband being inappropriate with coworker
True! Some women are shady and the older ones are just plain old Cougars. I have no doubt that Cancers are loyal but they tend to like to be flattered and to be attractive to other women.
She does need to talk to him, but she has to be careful. This guy spends more time with this other teacher than with his wife. Anything could happen behind her back and she won't know if she cuts off his tell tales. Talking about her crouch is very, very inappropriate, obviously she may be attracted to him. However, it all comes down to how loyal her husband is.
I would hate to be in this situation.
She does need to talk to him, but she has to be careful. This guy spends more time with this other teacher than with his wife. Anything could happen behind her back and she won't know if she cuts off his tell tales. Talking about her crouch is very, very inappropriate, obviously she may be attracted to him. However, it all comes down to how loyal her husband is.
I would hate to be in this situation.
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Thanks for the comments so far! I think some clarification might be in order...
I've known my Pisces for two years and, like any friendship, our relationship has grown deeper and closer over time. I'd say it's pretty reciprocal for the most part. He has his insecure days and so do I. Luckily they're never the same day and we take turns with the caretaking and ego mending. There's no real lack of balance in terms of who contacts who first. We're considerate about each other's feelings and have talked about everything under the sun.
In other words, this really isn't a case of me giving and giving and giving and hoping he'll finally give something back. Far from it. He does give emotionally. I do, too.
If I'm going to put this in a larger picture, I'd have to say it's about reading him emotionally. If I am trying to get an idea about how he feels, I have to do it by what he does rather than what he says. If he's feeling playful and affectionate, he (gently) teases me. If he's being flirty, he'll start speaking French. If he's hurt, he'll start being sarcastic.
Now I'm just trying to improve how well I speak Pisces and learn what the shutting down means.
I've known my Pisces for two years and, like any friendship, our relationship has grown deeper and closer over time. I'd say it's pretty reciprocal for the most part. He has his insecure days and so do I. Luckily they're never the same day and we take turns with the caretaking and ego mending. There's no real lack of balance in terms of who contacts who first. We're considerate about each other's feelings and have talked about everything under the sun.
In other words, this really isn't a case of me giving and giving and giving and hoping he'll finally give something back. Far from it. He does give emotionally. I do, too.
If I'm going to put this in a larger picture, I'd have to say it's about reading him emotionally. If I am trying to get an idea about how he feels, I have to do it by what he does rather than what he says. If he's feeling playful and affectionate, he (gently) teases me. If he's being flirty, he'll start speaking French. If he's hurt, he'll start being sarcastic.
Now I'm just trying to improve how well I speak Pisces and learn what the shutting down means.
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Krobe~
I hear ya and I am right there with ya. However, cannot get blood out of a stone.
I AM very hostile...so RIP SH*T I cannot even function this weekend nor get my head outta my arse.
Even if the rug could be cleaned or was worth close to what I paid, I want NADA to do with them nor even have to look at the rug.
I know she played the brother card...although I don't think that was HIS intention...but certainly hers.
That's where my dad comes into play..he can take it over from here legally.
I hear ya and I am right there with ya. However, cannot get blood out of a stone.
I AM very hostile...so RIP SH*T I cannot even function this weekend nor get my head outta my arse.
Even if the rug could be cleaned or was worth close to what I paid, I want NADA to do with them nor even have to look at the rug.
I know she played the brother card...although I don't think that was HIS intention...but certainly hers.
That's where my dad comes into play..he can take it over from here legally.
ot sure yet...its 6.30am and getting ready for the first day back at work...he didnt message me to tell me he was back....guess that speaks volumes. We'll see today but it doesnt look good from where Im sitting.
No help?! 
I noticed that pisces are usually scared of their mothers, she doesn't happen to be a cancer by any chance does she lol
it seems like you aren't on his top priority list yet, you forced things out of him because he said them to make you feel better, he lived in that moment and was blind to the effect of what he was saying in the future
I'm afraid you have to take the lead and stand through him sorting himself out to see if his feelings will ever catch up to yours, it's the gamble you have to take and it depends on how much energy you think he deserves and whether you see a genuine attempt from his behalf
but in the same time you must show that you understand how hard this is for him too because I get the idea that pisces rarely hurts on purpose and if you keep on blaming him then he will think that you don't understand his position
the problem is that he is supposed to man up and sort himself up but you'd be surprised at how far a push from you can go
it seems like you aren't on his top priority list yet, you forced things out of him because he said them to make you feel better, he lived in that moment and was blind to the effect of what he was saying in the future
I'm afraid you have to take the lead and stand through him sorting himself out to see if his feelings will ever catch up to yours, it's the gamble you have to take and it depends on how much energy you think he deserves and whether you see a genuine attempt from his behalf
but in the same time you must show that you understand how hard this is for him too because I get the idea that pisces rarely hurts on purpose and if you keep on blaming him then he will think that you don't understand his position
the problem is that he is supposed to man up and sort himself up but you'd be surprised at how far a push from you can go
because i have dogged some very beautiful and nice aries ladies in my time, i feel like i owe it to the sign to pay something forward, even if it is in the form of advice you may never choose to use.
nontheless, my intuition tells me that this pisces dude is exhibiting the classic behavior of a pisces who loves so much and so completely that he MUST contain it, OTHERWISE you will be completely overwhelmed and may run away because you can't handle it...
can you handle the love a pisces has to offer?
it is very intense, so you had better be ready for it...
while my experience has taught me that pisces guy love completely and selflessly, they are not that stupid (if they are an upstream swimming pisces with any sense) as to not protect themselves..
remember that a fish has no natural defenses...its only defense is its elusiveness and speed with which it becomes elusive...the elusiveness and speed on the part of the loving pisces man becomes DISTANCE...and this distance is created in order to protect himself and YOU...
if he revels his true love for you in its unbridles and magnificent form and you can't handle it, BOTH OF YOU will suffer and i am sure he doesnt want that..
and true, you won't be able to force him...BUT you can gently lead him WITHOUT being pushy, bossy, or critical of any PERCEIVED mistakes on his part..
you must demonstrate to him that you can handle all of his love and KICKING HIM OUT OF YOUR HOUSE on THE FIRST DAY HE MOVES IN WITH YOU is not a good way to demonstrate this...
one must learn patience when dealing with a pisces man..infinite patience, i dare say, but if you have this to give (and aries rarely do, obviously, i mean you DID kick him out the first day he moved in with you!) what you will get in return is infinite love that is TOTAL and COMPLETE...
are you ready for that? can you handle it?
nontheless, my intuition tells me that this pisces dude is exhibiting the classic behavior of a pisces who loves so much and so completely that he MUST contain it, OTHERWISE you will be completely overwhelmed and may run away because you can't handle it...
can you handle the love a pisces has to offer?
it is very intense, so you had better be ready for it...
while my experience has taught me that pisces guy love completely and selflessly, they are not that stupid (if they are an upstream swimming pisces with any sense) as to not protect themselves..
remember that a fish has no natural defenses...its only defense is its elusiveness and speed with which it becomes elusive...the elusiveness and speed on the part of the loving pisces man becomes DISTANCE...and this distance is created in order to protect himself and YOU...
if he revels his true love for you in its unbridles and magnificent form and you can't handle it, BOTH OF YOU will suffer and i am sure he doesnt want that..
and true, you won't be able to force him...BUT you can gently lead him WITHOUT being pushy, bossy, or critical of any PERCEIVED mistakes on his part..
you must demonstrate to him that you can handle all of his love and KICKING HIM OUT OF YOUR HOUSE on THE FIRST DAY HE MOVES IN WITH YOU is not a good way to demonstrate this...
one must learn patience when dealing with a pisces man..infinite patience, i dare say, but if you have this to give (and aries rarely do, obviously, i mean you DID kick him out the first day he moved in with you!) what you will get in return is infinite love that is TOTAL and COMPLETE...
are you ready for that? can you handle it?
your stuck....if you don't move on LIKE Carrie did then you will never get your Mr.Big, at some point Carrie cut all communication and went to Paris, she was lonely, she was scared, she was bored but she never once called Big for support, you haven't done that, you haven't chose the no contact concept and if your always available even the few times you communicate then why should he feel threatened by the loss of you and feel a sudden urgency to have you in his life, your still around, you still are open to him emotionally, HE HAS YOU and he doesn't even have to give back, wow that really works out for him...I'm sure your hoping friendship will miraculously turn into relationship, yet it hasn't and it simply won't happen if you don't make some hard choices, he has to miss you in order to yearn for you and need you but how can he do that if you still communicate? I can't tell you to cut him loose but what I can say is no contact truly works wonders with men like your Mr.Big
you have a balancing act on your hands...
one the one hand you have impatience..
on the other hand, you have this love for this pisces guy...
the first hand holding your impatience is so bogged down by the weight of your impatience that is creating an imbalance in the relationship...
sooo, can you learn to balance the two?
the answer to this question will solve your predicament...guaranteed...
one the one hand you have impatience..
on the other hand, you have this love for this pisces guy...
the first hand holding your impatience is so bogged down by the weight of your impatience that is creating an imbalance in the relationship...
sooo, can you learn to balance the two?
the answer to this question will solve your predicament...guaranteed...
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