What’s this dude’s problem?

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- Sol de Janerio - Cheirosa '62 (Caramel/Pistachio scented...might sound a little weird but it is the PERFECT summer scent...I've had guys ask me quite a few times what I'm wearing)

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Honestly I think the rising numbers of broken families is what led us to this war,
Not many kids are raised in a healthy father mother figure household.
I know single moms are doing their best but I think it's not enough without a father.
And then there's feminism pushing women to believe they don't need a man, and then these red pill podcasters pushing men to believe women should be servants for them, all this
And then there's social media and the hookup culture facilitating cheating
It's really difficult now a days to keep a relationship alive.

I think there's some interesting points, but a lot of nuances.
Agree the manosphere and the more extremist elements of third wave feminism are toxic and create a phony narrative of girls vs boys mainly to younger people.
I think hookup culture existed way before Tinder. Ask any man whose been out on the pull in a bar or club.
I think some single parents are great at taking care of their children, while some plop their brats down in front of cocomelon and go out, but not to work. I've known single parents who are great parents.
Relationships have always been difficult I think less people stay together for convenience that's all that's changed.
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But seriously what do women want? Equality? I mean look at those women crying on TikTok cause a man didn't call back, or paid for a first date.
And also look at all these men complaining about women body counts, if you're gonna sleep with a lot of women why do you think you deserve to end up with a virgin?
Biologically speaking men are more in an advantage to find better and we'll paid jobs than women, to have kids late in life and to sleep around without any risk than women, women can't seem to accept that and maybe why they think men are still oppressing them?

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Posted by LaGenereuz
Honestly I think the rising numbers of broken families is what led us to this war,
Not many kids are raised in a healthy father mother figure household.
I know single moms are doing their best but I think it's not enough without a father.
And then there's feminism pushing women to believe they don't need a man, and then these red pill podcasters pushing men to believe women should be servants for them, all this
And then there's social media and the hookup culture facilitating cheating
It's really difficult now a days to keep a relationship alive.

I think there's some interesting points, but a lot of nuances.
Agree the manosphere and the more extremist elements of third wave feminism are toxic and create a phony narrative of girls vs boys mainly to younger people.
I think hookup culture existed way before Tinder. Ask any man whose been out on the pull in a bar or club.
I think some single parents are great at taking care of their children, while some plop their brats down in front of cocomelon and go out, but not to work. I've known single parents who are great parents.
Relationships have always been difficult I think less people stay together for convenience that's all that's changed.
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Much of that actually has to do with culture I think. Dating expectations, gender, feminism, rights, raising kids - all that has to do with where you are living. From my perspective there are no gender wars, toxic feminism or incel stuff. Much of that seems centric to the English speaking world, or just the USA.

Here it’s common to live together without being married. It actually is the most common way. We have a lot of single parents too and no one perceives that as a bad thing. It doesn’t come with any stigma.

Regarding hook up culture, how do people meet each other? You are horny, so you go to a club and hook up with someone. Later, if all is good, you maybe go and get a coffee together. You may meet again for more sex. If all is good more casual dating follows, eventually leading into a relationship somewhere down the line. It’s “I want sex, and I’m going to go for it”. Sex is a natural thing here – talked about, encouraged, and considered a healthy and fun thing to do – rather than being kept under lock and key until a man goes through a series of courting rituals to win the woman over. We cannot grasp the idea of waiting to have sex. That’s how it works here. But maybe in other parts of the world, the man is expected to chase and seduce the woman, while the woman holds back on sex because that’s the way to get commitment.

Gender roles are considered antiquated here. Ladies, this means you will open your own door and pay your own bills. The man is not expected to lead or plan the dates; it’s an equal job. And it is not unusual that a Scandinavian woman might be the one to approach a guy in a bar.

Because Scandinavian women LOOKS like a guys so they HAVE to so guy knows it’s a woman…

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Posted by cersei
Omg it’s been so long since an astrologer has been in here! I’d appreciate if you could look at my chart (: thank you 😊

Wow your 1st and 12th are packed! You may appear like an Aquarius to most people because of your ascendant ofc but it doesn't mean that's how you are. And since you have so packed 12th house you will feel Piscean to the fullest Mars in 7th house suggests difficulties in long term relationships from what I know so far. And since your 7th house is im Leo you need someone who is kind, warm and big hearted. It also means you put an emphasize on relationships. I don't do readings, this is just a very small observation because I found your chart so interesting, due to these two houses so packed
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I have a fully packed 9th house and I don't feel like a Sagittarius. Charts are full of balony.

Yeah, but you're not Sag and she is a Pisces 😁 I have packed 8th house but I don't feel like Scorpio either. I only feel those things that are there in Scorpionic way, because my 8th house is in Scorpio in fact.
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A loaded 8th house? Damn. That sound worst than a packed 12th house. I bet you got tons of fear. And probably living with it.

5 objects in it, but only 2 are planets - Saturn and Pluto. I think saturn brings stability to that house and Pluto in it's own house can be both good and bad. Others are asteroids and SN. I have certain fears, but definitelly not that many. It's mainly related to loss of loved ones, loss of health and poverty...which are all pretty basic fears for most people I think
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Oh yeah I can relate to having a fear of lost loved ones. I'm more fear about ME dying. I know that nobody lives forever and we all must let go of the past and move on. But it's hard for some people.

I sort of don't have fear of that, just wouldn't want it to be long and painful, that would be my fear regarding that. Saturn's been shaking my fear in last half a year as it transits my 12th house, facing me with all my fears but I'm hoping for coming out of it stronger and braver as it's supposed to be... In which house is your Saturn?
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I have Saturn in the 8th house in Gemini. I did once tried looking that up to see what that mean and it's not anything exciting or interesting. Sound like a boring placement.

Saturn in 8th house indicates long life span and death of natural causes. Unless otherwise afflicted

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Posted by Melantho
It pretty much already started with the arrival of Slaughterbots. Swiss govt was already using them on certain projects. Now with the new AI Act, we can hopefully prevent humanity from major disasters.

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The more I read the worse it gets lol. She gave you so many openings to engage and see if you were compatible and you just ignored everything she said lol.
Is your aunt a role model for you? Is financial security really important for you? What does your ideal relationship look like? Do you want to be a SAHW and your husband be the breadwinner or do you want to work and share responsibilities?
What traits of yours do you think your friends try to emulate the most?
What are your reasons for choosing to abstain from sex? Religion? Do you want to wait until marriage or just haven’t met the right person?
You think the bartenders like me? I just try to be a kind person to everyone but trust is important to me in a relationship. Has anyone broken your trust in the past? Would you say you’re possessive over your man?

This sounds like an interview. It’s not a natural flow to a conversation in getting to know someone but rather are you meeting my checklist vibes.
I didn’t ignore necessarily, but it’s way to soon to dive into sensitive topics and I haven’t even determined if I like you yet. It’s one date and you’re going over an ideal marriage and who the breadwinner should be?
Uh, quite a few things need to happen in between that.
She never said she was abstaining from sex. It was just a ploy to suggest she’s not sleeping with a lot of men or actively dating. Which may or may not be true.
She clearly is not a fan of her aunt and resents her masculine behavior. Hence her harping on how she doesn’t have a man. But neither does the Leo which threw me for a loop.
I gained insight based on details she shared about her previous relationships. One of her exes, they lived together and participated in every activity or event together. Her logic for why it didn’t work out was that they probably just got too familiar.
So this means she enjoys connecting and sharing passions or hobbies.

And how do you determine if you like someone if not by asking them questions and getting to know them? Because your tactic of dodging every topic she brought up and playing it cool doesn’t seem to have panned out well for you.
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Questions are fine. But the whole ask a question-answer-question… is not the correct approach. You want to tread lightly as you you’re not there to lay out guidelines, but to see how they are and interact. How are things flowing.. is the person upset because you don’t want to do karaoke? Things like that.
Marriage and all that other stuff is after you’ve built some rapport and both people like each other. Then you discuss the direction it should go in. If both don’t agree, you split.
I don’t know what you’re talking about. We have a date tomorrow at 4 and I spoke to her this morning.
The point of this post is that she came on hot, over shared, then took a step back. I told her let’s move slow after a few days and she came back, but has calmed down a bit.
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Okay. How do you plan to turn it up for the next date?

That’s what I’m here to gain insight on. I’ve been attracting a lot of Leo women lately and I don’t know how they operate.

I can match the energy she had on the first date. But I don’t know her angle yet. She didn’t answer my initial request to go out.. we had another convo a couple days later and I brought it up again to which she agreed. Sent her the time to be there an hour later as I was at work and she didn’t reply. I did get green text bubbles though.

I get a text yesterday saying “hey are we still meeting Saturday?” She claims she got a new phone.

Cool.. but why wait 2 days to ask if we’re going out?
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I did some homework.

She is either Mercury in Leo or Virgo
Venus in Cancer or Leo
Mars in Taurus
Jupiter in Cancer or Leo
Saturn Capricorn
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio

A Leo with Leo, Cancer and Taurus placements. Based on these I think you can safely be more demonstrative, as much as you’re comfortable with. She has no air at all. She either has a lot of fire (action) or fire and water (wants to connect). You saying she backed off makes me think there is probably Cancer somewhere.

Editing to add I guess she might have an air moon.

https://www.signsbystars.com/anual_ephemeris-en-38-1990_8.htm

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