What’s this dude’s problem?
Posted by BumboklaatYep. My parents are pathological narcs.
O yeah we call those leechers. Careful they're worse than they seem. They have narcissistic qualities and will leech at any opportunity.
Also, don't give him attention, he's obviously got yours. Don't let him annoy you. Don't even let the leech grab hold.
They are always the victim, always vilifying someone for having boundaries, always offended by something or someone, always creating drama out of thin air.
The solution is to bluntly tell them to shut the fuck up and ignore the shit out of them until they start speaking your language (non-narc communication) and start acting in ways you find acceptable.
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how do you reject someone you are not interested in?
This has always been hard for me, especially if they've been part of my circle for a long time. Can't explain it but I have a problem with differentiating love between friends vs love between individuals.
does it make a difference if you already know them or not?
I don't really let people I don't know into my circle but if it's just some random, I'd probably feel flattered and ask them out on a date or something.
...if you would like to keep a friendship with them?
Yeah, friendships are important to me but I realise it's not always possible.
state your moon and venus
Pisces, Pisces
This has always been hard for me, especially if they've been part of my circle for a long time. Can't explain it but I have a problem with differentiating love between friends vs love between individuals.
does it make a difference if you already know them or not?
I don't really let people I don't know into my circle but if it's just some random, I'd probably feel flattered and ask them out on a date or something.
...if you would like to keep a friendship with them?
Yeah, friendships are important to me but I realise it's not always possible.
state your moon and venus
Pisces, Pisces
Posted by StubbornSagittariusYeah I think I remember reading something like that along those lines about Saturn in the 8th house. As far as my chart as a whole goes, I don't think I can relate to it that much.Posted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by StubbornSagittariusPosted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by StubbornSagittariusPosted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by StubbornSagittariusPosted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by StubbornSagittariusPosted by cersei
Omg it’s been so long since an astrologer has been in here! I’d appreciate if you could look at my chart (: thank you 😊
Wow your 1st and 12th are packed! You may appear like an Aquarius to most people because of your ascendant ofc but it doesn't mean that's how you are. And since you have so packed 12th house you will feel Piscean to the fullest Mars in 7th house suggests difficulties in long term relationships from what I know so far. And since your 7th house is im Leo you need someone who is kind, warm and big hearted. It also means you put an emphasize on relationships. I don't do readings, this is just a very small observation because I found your chart so interesting, due to these two houses so packed
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I have a fully packed 9th house and I don't feel like a Sagittarius. Charts are full of balony.
Yeah, but you're not Sag and she is a Pisces 😁 I have packed 8th house but I don't feel like Scorpio either. I only feel those things that are there in Scorpionic way, because my 8th house is in Scorpio in fact.
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A loaded 8th house? Damn. That sound worst than a packed 12th house. I bet you got tons of fear. And probably living with it.
5 objects in it, but only 2 are planets - Saturn and Pluto. I think saturn brings stability to that house and Pluto in it's own house can be both good and bad. Others are asteroids and SN. I have certain fears, but definitelly not that many. It's mainly related to loss of loved ones, loss of health and poverty...which are all pretty basic fears for most people I think
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Oh yeah I can relate to having a fear of lost loved ones. I'm more fear about ME dying. I know that nobody lives forever and we all must let go of the past and move on. But it's hard for some people.
I sort of don't have fear of that, just wouldn't want it to be long and painful, that would be my fear regarding that. Saturn's been shaking my fear in last half a year as it transits my 12th house, facing me with all my fears but I'm hoping for coming out of it stronger and braver as it's supposed to be... In which house is your Saturn?
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I have Saturn in the 8th house in Gemini. I did once tried looking that up to see what that mean and it's not anything exciting or interesting. Sound like a boring placement.
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Gemini sun ❎
Libra rising ✅❎ yes and no. Being a people pleaser, nope. Pretty, yep
Gemini moon ❎
I don't know what benefit those cancers gives me (cancer Mars and Venus).
For true self presentations I now turn to personality types. I found that it's that that tells everything about me to a tee it's scary. I drop astrology like a hot potato.
It's always been pretty easy for me because I've always been involved with someone. So I just say, "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm married".
Posted by MelanthoReminds me of an older B-Movie which was surprisingly good.
It pretty much already started with the arrival of Slaughterbots. Swiss govt was already using them on certain projects. Now with the new AI Act, we can hopefully prevent humanity from major disasters.
Wait till you learn about humans and what they do to each other.
Posted by EyerollMercury in Virgo seems spot on. She likes to discuss and exchange a lot of opinions, but very analytical and scrutinizes often.Posted by LuckyLibra7Posted by EyerollPosted by LuckyLibra7Posted by EyerollPosted by LuckyLibra7Posted by Eyeroll
The more I read the worse it gets lol. She gave you so many openings to engage and see if you were compatible and you just ignored everything she said lol.
Is your aunt a role model for you? Is financial security really important for you? What does your ideal relationship look like? Do you want to be a SAHW and your husband be the breadwinner or do you want to work and share responsibilities?
What traits of yours do you think your friends try to emulate the most?
What are your reasons for choosing to abstain from sex? Religion? Do you want to wait until marriage or just haven’t met the right person?
You think the bartenders like me? I just try to be a kind person to everyone but trust is important to me in a relationship. Has anyone broken your trust in the past? Would you say you’re possessive over your man?
This sounds like an interview. It’s not a natural flow to a conversation in getting to know someone but rather are you meeting my checklist vibes.
I didn’t ignore necessarily, but it’s way to soon to dive into sensitive topics and I haven’t even determined if I like you yet. It’s one date and you’re going over an ideal marriage and who the breadwinner should be?
Uh, quite a few things need to happen in between that.
She never said she was abstaining from sex. It was just a ploy to suggest she’s not sleeping with a lot of men or actively dating. Which may or may not be true.
She clearly is not a fan of her aunt and resents her masculine behavior. Hence her harping on how she doesn’t have a man. But neither does the Leo which threw me for a loop.
I gained insight based on details she shared about her previous relationships. One of her exes, they lived together and participated in every activity or event together. Her logic for why it didn’t work out was that they probably just got too familiar.
So this means she enjoys connecting and sharing passions or hobbies.
And how do you determine if you like someone if not by asking them questions and getting to know them? Because your tactic of dodging every topic she brought up and playing it cool doesn’t seem to have panned out well for you.
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Questions are fine. But the whole ask a question-answer-question… is not the correct approach. You want to tread lightly as you you’re not there to lay out guidelines, but to see how they are and interact. How are things flowing.. is the person upset because you don’t want to do karaoke? Things like that.
Marriage and all that other stuff is after you’ve built some rapport and both people like each other. Then you discuss the direction it should go in. If both don’t agree, you split.
I don’t know what you’re talking about. We have a date tomorrow at 4 and I spoke to her this morning.
The point of this post is that she came on hot, over shared, then took a step back. I told her let’s move slow after a few days and she came back, but has calmed down a bit.
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Okay. How do you plan to turn it up for the next date?
That’s what I’m here to gain insight on. I’ve been attracting a lot of Leo women lately and I don’t know how they operate.
I can match the energy she had on the first date. But I don’t know her angle yet. She didn’t answer my initial request to go out.. we had another convo a couple days later and I brought it up again to which she agreed. Sent her the time to be there an hour later as I was at work and she didn’t reply. I did get green text bubbles though.
I get a text yesterday saying “hey are we still meeting Saturday?” She claims she got a new phone.
Cool.. but why wait 2 days to ask if we’re going out?
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I did some homework.
She is either Mercury in Leo or Virgo
Venus in Cancer or Leo
Mars in Taurus
Jupiter in Cancer or Leo
Saturn Capricorn
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
A Leo with Leo, Cancer and Taurus placements. Based on these I think you can safely be more demonstrative, as much as you’re comfortable with. She has no air at all. She either has a lot of fire (action) or fire and water (wants to connect). You saying she backed off makes me think there is probably Cancer somewhere.
Editing to add I guess she might have an air moon.
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Not sure what her moon is, possibly an earth sign. She describes herself as a homebody and has a routine. Seems like she focused on what's tangible. Not a dreamy or imaginative personality.
Okay yall, we went on the second date Saturday. A local wing spot.
Things went fine. I ended up choosing a booth and I sat with my back towards the wall. I found it interesting she sat along-side me. Typically people face each other when eating 🤷♂️
Convo flowed fairly well, again she's quite the over-sharer. Moderate amount of legs bumping and her hand brushing against me. I did notice though she wore the same leggings as our first date. Sigh.. my Libra is showing, I know. They had some board games there so we attempted to play Connect 4 but the bottom kept falling out lol.
She spilled a bit of food on herself the first date and did it again this weekend. I joked that I'll bring her a bib next time. Trying to keep things light, ya know. She likes to have serious discussions which are fine, but let's have fun too. I did ask her what her ideal relationship dynamic is like (she was discussing masculine women) I found it interesting she couldn't really explain what that was. So I just changed the subject..
Earlier in the week she requested to move our date to 4PM as she was making plans with friends. Around 6PM we were done eating and I asked would she like to go somewhere else and she replied what's in this area. I named off a couple places and she says "you live close to this area right?" I told her I'm about 15 minutes away and invited her back to show her this movie we previously discussed.
A little hesitation, then she says she wants to see if her friend will reach out first and she will message me if she does not go out and come over (yeah right!).
We leave and she drives me to my car around the corner. After we pull up she says "thanks for everything, I had a good time" and sits there. 🤣 She claims I side-eyed her so she says let me get out of the car and give you a hug. (I am not begging for hug..)
We hug and I kiss her for a few secs. She then says "surprise surprise" and does not expand. I said a playful remark and she got in the car and went home.
She ended up reaching out Sunday morning.
Things went fine. I ended up choosing a booth and I sat with my back towards the wall. I found it interesting she sat along-side me. Typically people face each other when eating 🤷♂️
Convo flowed fairly well, again she's quite the over-sharer. Moderate amount of legs bumping and her hand brushing against me. I did notice though she wore the same leggings as our first date. Sigh.. my Libra is showing, I know. They had some board games there so we attempted to play Connect 4 but the bottom kept falling out lol.
She spilled a bit of food on herself the first date and did it again this weekend. I joked that I'll bring her a bib next time. Trying to keep things light, ya know. She likes to have serious discussions which are fine, but let's have fun too. I did ask her what her ideal relationship dynamic is like (she was discussing masculine women) I found it interesting she couldn't really explain what that was. So I just changed the subject..
Earlier in the week she requested to move our date to 4PM as she was making plans with friends. Around 6PM we were done eating and I asked would she like to go somewhere else and she replied what's in this area. I named off a couple places and she says "you live close to this area right?" I told her I'm about 15 minutes away and invited her back to show her this movie we previously discussed.
A little hesitation, then she says she wants to see if her friend will reach out first and she will message me if she does not go out and come over (yeah right!).
We leave and she drives me to my car around the corner. After we pull up she says "thanks for everything, I had a good time" and sits there. 🤣 She claims I side-eyed her so she says let me get out of the car and give you a hug. (I am not begging for hug..)
We hug and I kiss her for a few secs. She then says "surprise surprise" and does not expand. I said a playful remark and she got in the car and went home.
She ended up reaching out Sunday morning.
Posted by Saturn_ReturnsI have an idea, but I wanted her to communicate it. Given her thoughts on Kevin Samuels and other red-pill content.
^ Setting aside subjective red flags, it's still too early to tell. At this point, you can only go with your gut.Posted by LuckyLibra7
I did ask her what her ideal relationship dynamic is like (she was discussing masculine women) I found it interesting she couldn't really explain what that was. So I just changed the subject.
Major red flag! She has no idea how she wants an ideal committed relationship to be?!click to expand
But anyway, she said it was too general of a question. I was like.. I’m asking what the dynamics look like for you? I don’t get how that’s general.
Posted by Saturn_ReturnsThat's what's odd. She finds a way to loop modern dating issues or ideas into the conversation. Then does not expand on her ideal world.Posted by LuckyLibra7Posted by Saturn_Returns
^ Setting aside subjective red flags, it's still too early to tell. At this point, you can only go with your gut.Posted by LuckyLibra7
I did ask her what her ideal relationship dynamic is like (she was discussing masculine women) I found it interesting she couldn't really explain what that was. So I just changed the subject.
Major red flag! She has no idea how she wants an ideal committed relationship to be?!
I have an idea, but I wanted her to communicate it. Given her thoughts on Kevin Samuels and other red-pill content.
But anyway, she said it was too general of a question. I was like.. I’m asking what the dynamics look like for you? I don’t get how that’s general.
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Sounds like she's being evasive. Why I have no idea but, in your situation, I would be weary.click to expand
I'm not putting my eggs in one basket here though. Still feeling her out.
Posted by MonaLisa26What's wrong with him? Please do share.😂Posted by StubbornSagittarius
Oh btw this the time of your Saturn's return and it makes perfect sense that she decided to end her relationship now! Saturn return means drastic life changes and difficult times in life. By difficult I mean struggles to make something better, Saturn puts you through tests in order to make you stronger and better. It doesn't mean it has to be bad things happening now, it simply means what is wrong for you needs to go now in order to make room for something better.
Wow!
She was always very susceptible to the stars.
Every time she says Mom! What’s in my birth chart…I ran it and it said - job sucks quit - next day she quit her job for which she was 5 years in college! And never been happier until now. It’s like she is feeling it in her guts and goes with it.
Is this affecting everybody or just some people?
Because it’s nuts that you just said her breakup was written in her stars! And I kind of knew it. Her breakup was not surprise for me.
Her new flame was…is…brrrr
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