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I also have lost someone but have recently tried/failed to move on after nearly 3 years... All I can say is that if this person is worth it, then you'll need the patience to see him through. He may feel as I do and that is I do want to love again but feel extreme guilt that I can be happy with someone else and also at times feel I'm betraying the love that we (the departed one) had. All this can be sorted through time & patience. It may not be easy but that's where you have to weigh up whether he is worth it!
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He is worth it = that I cant say enough but he hasnt even removed her belongings from the house which means he has built a shrine to her...he speaks of her freely which I can understand but the rest? SOMEBODY should have helped him do this by now. I know when my father died my brother made my mother take all of his belongings and give them to charity...I didnt understand the rush at the time but now I realise that she moved on so much quicker (not romantically as she is still alone and will probably be til she passes) by being a different person - more outgoing and finding a new way in life rather than relying on him. My virgo spends a lot of time grieving still and only last weekend he saw the "in laws" and he spent the entire weekend moping around knowing I live only 5 minutes down the road.
I do understand what you're saying and I want to put the time in if only he gave an inkling that he wanted me to. Since we had the chat he's tried harder but is he only doing it to keep me around for now? anybodys guess. I am the first woman he's gotten close with since her passing so I may only be a stepping stone.
He is worth it, I love him to bits and he's so not the man I'd normally have fallen for as I have, in the past, been somewhat vain. But having said that, it means I love him for him, not what he looks like, etc (although he is kinda cute).
I dont know, I really dont know whether I should just keep dating others coz Im just way too loyal (I am a Leo) but Ive waited for guys before just for them to dismiss everything when they found something better.
Virgo did say he'd like to keep seeing me and that we should cool down the physical aspect (for my sake) and keep hanging out, do things and see where things go. He has given me nothing concrete though and I know he wont for a long time, firstly because he is a Virgo, secondly, because of what he's still to go through.
Oh and dont even ask me to help him get rid of her stuff - that would creep me out big time. My friend lost her husband 5 years ago and within 18 months she was living with another man (yes they had their ups and downs but they've made it work)...they are now married again and his passing was a tragic aeroplane crash whereas my Virgo's wife passed after a long illness. Not that there's a difference coz it still hurts a lot.
I dont know how I'd be - I guess we all grieve in different ways and Sweethearts Im really sorry that you're struggling with your situation
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Feb 16, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 15214 · Topics: 99
A bit much for a shampoo advert...
Asian people have such lovely hair....I am so envious
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Feb 16, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 15214 · Topics: 99
Bling..you've picked the most idiotic southern clip and the northern ones look like a pair of bum bandits..
You have to party in the City to reeeeally get a feel for the southerner..thank you!