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Aug 11, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 5176 · Topics: 77
Well...
As mentioned in the beginning of this thread, everything started out great with the new scorp but now??? Who knows.
The story:
He started off really intense and trying to move things along quickly (wich was unrealistic and scary for me to say the least). Like after 3 dates talking about future together, marriage, merging of families/daughters etc. He was like head over hills, told his whole family about me, coworkers, showing pics of me in his phone to everyone. The morning songs sent to my cell. I admit it was a little overwhelming but I liked the attention, it just didn't seem realistic, so, in so many words, I basically told him things probably won't happen this fast.
I think I bruised his ego, he went from 100 to 5. Meaning He still called and sent songs, but was doubtful about everything as it related to us and when I asked what was going on, he said, " well I was basically told by you I was moving too fast so I have a mental block to slow things down." I explained that I didn't mean to hurt his feelings or for him to back off almost completely, but I didn't feel that it was possible (atleast for me) to know if I wanted to advance my life with someone to that point after 3 dates and a couple weeks of knowing them.
Now here is the kicker, this past weekend he and I made plans to spend most of the weekend together (It is very hard for us to spene much time during the week). The previous weekend we both had our daughters (and we are not at the point where I am ready for him to meet my daughter or me meet his). Thursday we talk on the phone. I ask what he wanted to do this weekend. His response: " Probably nothing, I am going to see my daughter this weekend (she lives 3 hours away) and he normally only gets to see her one weekend per month. Then he has her 3 months out of the summer for summer break. Shocked and admittedly disappointed, but being an understanding parent, I said, okay, glad I asked. He stated he just decided to go that day.
He called me when he got off work Friday, and said he would call back, during that conversation I told him how I felt about the way things were going, he said we should sit down and have a long talk about what we both wanted. He said nothing has changed regarding the way he felt about me etc. He said he still thinks we want the same things but we somehow are not on the same page. I agreed. He never called back. I called him later that night to see if he made it safetly. No response, no call
Oh I know Starfish! My friend is NEVER without a woman for long. He totally jumps in and it ususally turns to crap. The Cap men that I've come across pick the worse mates, stay in the relationship until it nearly breaks them. Its sad. But I will say this, I think they fear love on a deep meaningful level. Sure some part of them wants it, but its safer in a way to be with the wrong person and have it fail then to be with the right person and constantly wonder IF it will fail. They really are cowards underneath it all.
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Yes, you're so much better than every member of this forum.
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Aug 11, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 5176 · Topics: 77
se no call back. It is Monday. I haven't heard from him. I am really confused, but pissed. What kind of shit is this? I explained to him when we met that I have no tolerance for games and this, is either immature, or game to me. Seriously who does this as an adult? Maybe I am missing something. Suggestions?
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Nov 21, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 3537 · Topics: 116
zena
"your Gem sounds like what the doctor ordered for Scorp *cough*
with a certain woman(maybe)."
Meaning?