Rejected by crush :((
Posted by Classicdust9
Hi everyone. Hope u r all fine.
So in my co-working office space we have multiple companies and work around each other in open space. Recently, while I was working my friend told me that there is this guy who keeps looking at me. Initially i never noticed but after my friend told me i started observing. He is quite charming and good looking. And yes he keeps staring at me. In the last 1.5 months we have looked at each other more than anything else. Gradually, I think i developed a crush on him. We kept sharing intense looks and maybe smiled once or twice. I was 100% that we both might have a crush on each other.
I somehow had to go on a work tour for long time and internally i was thinking that i would miss his presence around and all that jazz. So i gathered some guts and left a little note at his desk with my email id.
It was nothing crazy, i just wrote that one of the days he was looking great in that outfit and mentioned that he has been looking at me so it caught my attention and i am curious to know the reason behind it.
His reply was - who is this. And so i replied - i think u know who it is. And to that he replied - not sure, plz let me know who is this. So i shared my picture. To that he replied -- oohh its you, now i know
So i again politely asked him that im curious to know the reason behind him looking at me etc etc.
And he replied -- naah, you think i was looking.
Like i don't understand men for almost 5-6 weeks he kept looking at me, while working eyeing me and roaming around me. And when I asked him he blatantly denied and that i was delusional. (
Its just so difficult to work around him anymore and so awkward. Its not that im not attractive, infact i am but i was only interested in that man and idk wtf (
Sorry for venting out but im hurt and feeling stupid and embarrassed. Im not sad that he rejected or whatever but because he lied that he wasn't looking.
He may very well just be charismatic by default and things were inferred by your friend, moving you on that line of thought. Which at it's core you were enjoying the atrention. Afterall, you never noticed before.
🤔 any chance you can turn back the clock and enjoy the silent attention and person musings again? 🙃
P.S. have you never fantasied about someone before?
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Posted by Classicdust9
Hi everyone. Hope u r all fine.
So in my co-working office space we have multiple companies and work around each other in open space. Recently, while I was working my friend told me that there is this guy who keeps looking at me. Initially i never noticed but after my friend told me i started observing. He is quite charming and good looking. And yes he keeps staring at me. In the last 1.5 months we have looked at each other more than anything else. Gradually, I think i developed a crush on him. We kept sharing intense looks and maybe smiled once or twice. I was 100% that we both might have a crush on each other.
I somehow had to go on a work tour for long time and internally i was thinking that i would miss his presence around and all that jazz. So i gathered some guts and left a little note at his desk with my email id.
It was nothing crazy, i just wrote that one of the days he was looking great in that outfit and mentioned that he has been looking at me so it caught my attention and i am curious to know the reason behind it.
His reply was - who is this. And so i replied - i think u know who it is. And to that he replied - not sure, plz let me know who is this. So i shared my picture. To that he replied -- oohh its you, now i know
So i again politely asked him that im curious to know the reason behind him looking at me etc etc.
And he replied -- naah, you think i was looking.
Like i don't understand men for almost 5-6 weeks he kept looking at me, while working eyeing me and roaming around me. And when I asked him he blatantly denied and that i was delusional. (
Its just so difficult to work around him anymore and so awkward. Its not that im not attractive, infact i am but i was only interested in that man and idk wtf (
Sorry for venting out but im hurt and feeling stupid and embarrassed. Im not sad that he rejected or whatever but because he lied that he wasn't looking.
He may very well just be charismatic by default and things were inferred by your friend, moving you on that line of thought. Which at it's core you were enjoying the atrention. Afterall, you never noticed before.
? any chance you can turn back the clock and enjoy the silent attention and person musings again? ?
Posted by Classicdust9
Hi everyone. Hope u r all fine.
So in my co-working office space we have multiple companies and work around each other in open space. Recently, while I was working my friend told me that there is this guy who keeps looking at me. Initially i never noticed but after my friend told me i started observing. He is quite charming and good looking. And yes he keeps staring at me. In the last 1.5 months we have looked at each other more than anything else. Gradually, I think i developed a crush on him. We kept sharing intense looks and maybe smiled once or twice. I was 100% that we both might have a crush on each other.
I somehow had to go on a work tour for long time and internally i was thinking that i would miss his presence around and all that jazz. So i gathered some guts and left a little note at his desk with my email id.
It was nothing crazy, i just wrote that one of the days he was looking great in that outfit and mentioned that he has been looking at me so it caught my attention and i am curious to know the reason behind it.
His reply was - who is this. And so i replied - i think u know who it is. And to that he replied - not sure, plz let me know who is this. So i shared my picture. To that he replied -- oohh its you, now i know
So i again politely asked him that im curious to know the reason behind him looking at me etc etc.
And he replied -- naah, you think i was looking.
Like i don't understand men for almost 5-6 weeks he kept looking at me, while working eyeing me and roaming around me. And when I asked him he blatantly denied and that i was delusional. (
Its just so difficult to work around him anymore and so awkward. Its not that im not attractive, infact i am but i was only interested in that man and idk wtf (
Sorry for venting out but im hurt and feeling stupid and embarrassed. Im not sad that he rejected or whatever but because he lied that he wasn't looking.
He may very well just be charismatic by default and things were inferred by your friend, moving you on that line of thought. Which at it's core you were enjoying the atrention. Afterall, you never noticed before.
? any chance you can turn back the clock and enjoy the silent attention and person musings again? ?
P.S. have you never fantasied about someone before?
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What we consider male vs female in humanity, mostly has to do with cultural constructs. I will agree most of the time it is just an exaggeration of biology. Women are built with bigger hips, so we walk with a sway naturally, our faces flush during arousal so we put makeup on to mimic those experiences. Which I think really comes down to a matting competition in some ways.
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You know what I care about, Kamala, Obama, Hillary all saying the biggest threat to America, is America having the freedom to say whatever they fuck they want to say.click to expand
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Realllly makes you think.
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Realllly makes you think.
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Posted by AstrobynHow many people do you think this is realistically affecting? What are your numbers at? Percentage guess?Posted by Solo
I have a few questions that pop up and we can tackle them each individually.
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I want to live in a culture that accepts a wide spectrum of femininity and masculinity. I don’t want to live in a culture that validates people’s ideas that there is something wrong with them that they can or should change.
I don’t think its gays and trans attacking children, I think that the pendulum has shifted to far in parts of our cultural that it is encouraging bad ideas.
I think that people who are struggling to process trauma are often the ones in these mental health spaces. The mental health spaces in our culture is mostly dominated with people who have very liberal views. And again this comes down attaching Trans issues with Gay issues, because excepting who you are attracted to is not the same thing as rejecting who you are. But often in the liberal culture I see it treated as the same thing.
My niece came to me and said I don't feel like a girl, I said cool neither do I, her therapist at collage started her on a gender transition therapy program, and put her into an LGTB pier group that is just a cycle of validation. This is my step sisters kids, has SA trauma from 14 yo, and a lifetime of neglect. That kind of acceptance and validation is exactly what she has been craving her whole life, and she'd deciding on wither or not she's gonna go on hormones, but hasn't even considered what it would be like to shave your face everyday. She just doesn't want her boobs anymore so she doesn't have to feel like a target or victim.click to expand
If I were their parents I'd be having talks with them about the realities of being a man, is there any particular thing about them or happening to them that makes them feel this way, etc.
"I don’t think its gays and trans attacking children, I think that the pendulum has shifted to far in parts of our cultural that it is encouraging bad ideas." - okay so this is cool that YOU think this, but on policy and public perception this is what certain people are trying to push. I don't believe that second half is something a lot of them believe in - caring about bad ideas. And ultimately it would stop where you said you didn't care about how others wanted to live and others would accept that as well.