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Aug 11, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 5176 · Topics: 77
Without reading through the whole thread. I will post this. I know a lot a couple of scorp guys who don't believe in V-day, including one I used to see, but he stoped by with a D&G purse and a bracelet and I was shocked to death! I actually refused the gift initially but then accepted it after he persisted so much. I too like to do something on V-day, it doesn't have to be anything huge, but something.
V-day is a made up holiday, but a fun one. For women, not kids. Although I will admit there are some people who think this.
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"qs...from what i have read re this scorp married/separated guy, he is keeping you in his clutches by telling you these things, they use 'friends' to keep in touch, then they try to start it up all over again, it has happened too many times to count with this one that i know....even his voice gets like velvet when he is luring me back in again...that's why i dont want to hear it any more....he is like the devil"
Yup, irishlibra, it is all true about him. He came by my house, says he was just in the neighborhood, V-day with a very expense gift. I refused it initially but took it after his persistance. They are vaccumms. I went on a fabulous date though that evening, just fabulous. The new scorp - case closed. No room for games or drama. I am just enjoying life and see what happens.
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Scorpioninlove,
I think you did the right thing. You were honest with yourself. You can't act like a friend, if inside you see him as more than that. I think it's never your lost when there is honesty. However it will be his lost if he truly felt differently and was not honest with himself.
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"throw them both out and have the satisfaction that you cut them off.
best way to do that is live your life like yor interest has naturally faded away. dont change your number or tell him that its over. if he calls you and you happen to have your phone, talk to him as if your talking to your brother. like best friends. indifference, not hot not cold."
llorei, that is exactly what I have done. I am good at moving on, some think i do it too soon. I think I do it when it is right.
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"i sent him one back 'i want to feel loved and secure in a comitted relationship and be held every morning, you want to see other women when you feel like it, see me when you feel like it (only once every two or three weeks sometimes), and be not comitted....in other words, you want your cake and eat it too...it has been like this for too long and has not changed...end of story....in other words, you have had me on a string, and i wont have it any more'"
I think all scorp men have that "pulling you back in" trait. LOL!! The married/separated one, had done a ton for me and my daughter and used to spend tons of quality time with me but the fact remains, that I am divorced he isn't (separated or not - they keep trying and falling out and separating again.) and I won't share.
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You should just believe what he's telling you and move on.
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Happy belated V-day to all. I had a wonderful date, got quite a few texts and wonderful gifts. Yet, I am not in a relationship. The key is to just enjoy V-day with those who want to be around you and think about you!
I think I am going to give up on him because I know I deserve better. I am a very smart, independent, successful and attracive woman and don't have problems with finding guys to date. I don't know why I let this guy get to me so much. I guess I thought I could help him with his problems but only he can fix his messed up life. The chemistry we have is crazy and maybe it was all lust and I took it too far. That is probably why I held on for so long. I haven't brought up in conversations anything about our relationship in over a month and our friendship seems to be getting back on track. I just wish he wasn't so gorgeous. It would make it alot easier to forget about him lol. My friends tell me it's his loss and maybe I should believe them. I think I will do what you advise by not listening to his problems and being there as much for him whenever he needs me. Thanks for listening.
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