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Oct 07, 2009Comments: 0 · Posts: 171 · Topics: 15
I am a 2nd decan libra....what would you like to know?
Hi, I'm new here. I would like to get some insights from the virgo guys here please. A little background here........
I initially dated my present virgo BF a little more than 6 years ago for a little over a year then he broke up with me b/c he said we don't do anything together (he likes to drink in the bar but i don't like nite life) and I pressured him to tell me he loves me. It took him 7 months to admit that he is my boyfriend b/c he said he doesn't like to be too close with anybody! During the time we were dating, he rarely rarely say he misses me, he would never hold my hand and when I ask him if he loves me he would say he doesn't like to talk about that. He said it took him 2 years before he felt comfortable telling his ex that he loves her!!! I never found out if he just didn't like to express his feelings or he just didn't have strong feelings for me.
On Dec. 2009, we got back together......
He started by calling me once a week only to "hang out" during the first month. During the 2nd and 3rd month, we hung out and visit his mom and daughter a few time a week. It took him 4 months before he introduced me to his friends as "girlfriend". In May, he asked me to go away for a few days to visit his dad. We got a little closer after that trip and he would call me a few times everyday telling me things and wanted to spend more time with me. 3 weeks ago, I told him I love him while we were having sex. He didn't say anything; he just held me real tight and kissed me....ok, so he doesn't love me then... I didn't say the "love" word again b/c I didn't want him to feel uncomfortable. Last week, I told him I love him again and he said "do you". I said yes and asked him if he wants me to love him and he said yes and told me he cares about me.
We went to a party yesterday; he held my hand where ever he goes, introduced me to all his friends, give me kisses and hugs all the time. Even after he was drunk, he would still hug me and kiss me. I told him I love him before I left and he asked again "do you"? How much? I said a lot, then he asked, 100 times or 1 million times?
Today, I told him I love him and as usual, he asked "do you"? I told him not to ask "do you" anymore. I said it's o.k that you don't love me but do not question about how I feel about you. He then explained that he likes that way we are right now and he doesn't want to change that. He said "by putting a label on it might change things" I told him I need time to
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Apr 05, 2010Comments: 0 · Posts: 312 · Topics: 34
relationships just don't last bc of a lack of communication, understanding and spirituality.
With those things, there would be very little boredom and problems.
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May 19, 2010Comments: 9 · Posts: 2945 · Topics: 22
You'd think I'd be a big romance movie watcher but I'm not. I prefer the books.
think about what he just told me then he said so you just gonna stop talking to me? I said no then he said "I care about you and want to be with you and that's not enough? I maybe do or maybe don't feel it". He said he is talking to me more now and I agreed. He got mad by explaining (he gets angry easily) but he continued saying that by telling me he loves me might change things....I might break up with him after he tells me the "love" word. I told him i'm not pressuring him, I just want to let him know that I love him b/c he's made happy and I need him to be in my life. He then tells me he knows i'm not pressuring him and he's happy to be with me and he needs me too. He said he wants me to love him and I can tell him I love him everyday.
Please help analyze this for me..... what can I do to help him open up to me. I have done everything and anything i can to make him happy. Maybe I just have to be more patient? Thank you for reading this long post.