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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
Pretty much they want a woman in a man's body, who will 'act' like a man enough times to make them think they're with a man, but, the rest of the time, they have to be their normal self, which is just like a girl.
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Jul 19, 2010Comments: 0 · Posts: 2595 · Topics: 52
There are many things I want to say to you, but also some difficult things I don??t. I want to say how sorry I am, and that I take full responsibility for all my actions. However, what is truly grueling for me to say is that I??m totally shattered because I feel I??ve been discarded.
I don??t know if there??s a real purpose in saying anything beyond that. I don??t know if you care to hear my explanations, but I want you to know that not only do I have regrets, I have reasons. I??m not saying my reasons excuse my behavior, but I feel like you deserve some clarification.
When we first met, there was a mutual understanding that this was not to develop into anything serious. However, after spending more time with you I realized you were an amazing individual. There are so many qualities about you I enjoy. I think that your life priorities are extremely admirable. I enjoy your mental strength and capacity to see things for as they are. The way in which you are an astounding caregiver is simply unquantifiable. You have a calming presence and let people be who they are around you. Unseemingly insightful, I doubt there is anything that you fail to notice. You have a heart made of gold and even more priceless.
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Jul 19, 2010Comments: 0 · Posts: 2595 · Topics: 52
Durand, please know that when I think of you, I think of someone heroic. At times you seem completely selfless. I see you as someone worthy, someone who is deserving, and someone who is 100% loveable. You once told me that I hadn??t met a ???nice guy?? in a long time and you were right, until I met you.
It has been really heartbreaking for me to feel all these things when I also feel like it has been so one sided. When trying to express these things to you, I felt like you responded coldly. A simple example of this is our last night together. I sat at home for hours waiting for you to show up. As I watched the clock, all of the sweet plans I had expired. The dinner reservations I made, the walk in the park, the silly board games in my car for us to play when we made it to the outdoor patio bar after. Even when you showed up past 11pm, I tried to brush all this away and have a good time with you.
I know we never made definite plans as I was hoping to surprise you, but I really thought you??d come down sooner. When we laid in bed and talked for hours and hours, I felt we??d made a real connection. I felt like even if I only got a day of your time here and there that we??d maximize it. I know you are busy with things that are major priorities and I don??t challenge that at all. I guess sometimes I??ve had these expectations about our time together and I often find myself disappointed.
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
My only requirement is that my SO lets me be me.
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Jul 19, 2010Comments: 0 · Posts: 2595 · Topics: 52
I invested time into thinking about you and talking about you with my girlfriends, constantly reminding myself just how busy your life is, making excuses for you that you didn??t even know I was making. I was telling myself all along how you cared about me, were also falling for me, were too afraid, too busy, too emotionally drained, on and on, but always the same story??_. You really truly had deep feelings for me.
I feel so stupid. If I had ever just stopped to see things for what they really were I could have prevented so much. When I look back now, I see that all those excuses were just that, excuses. You were clear in your lack of feelings for me through your words, the way you acted towards me when were together and most obviously in your response to my attempts to show you how I felt. I know that my acting out stemmed from my need to feel like we were growing closer.
Durand, I hope you understand what I??m trying to say to you. It??s so hard for me to express these things and even harder to do it as I am now, writing and reliving it. I??m trying to tell you that I??m sensitive, I??m sensitive and my feelings were involved early on. Everything came bubbling over the top every time I included alcohol with seeing you??_ there was such a storm under the surface. I guess maybe I always knew subconsciously how you really felt about me, but I didn??t want to accept it.
In the end, I guess, if we had been on the same page, both trying to build something, even if at a slow pace, I think my outrageous actions would have been averted. It was just too much for me to take??_ having strong feelings for you, trying to convince myself that you had them too and subconsciously knowing you didn??t. My reaction to that when I included alcohol was to try to tell you how I felt, realizing you didn??t feel it too and that came out as ???stay (I care about you), no go (I know he doesn??t really want this), let??s have sex (that??s what he wants) let??s not have sex (because he doesn??t really care)??. I hope you can see that now.
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Jul 19, 2010Comments: 0 · Posts: 2595 · Topics: 52
I have no idea if that is any better.... but it is too late now. And the clock begins. Tomorrow marks two weeks since we've seen or talked..... I felt like it might be over, we've never gone this long. I felt like I had to say something.
How bad is what I ended up sending?