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Dec 22, 2009Comments: 438 · Posts: 33721 · Topics: 241
And that ranks a huge "BOOOOOOO" with me. My hours are insane. First week in and I'm doing splits already, 3 of them this week. Essentially 8 a.m. - 8 p.m with a 2 hour gap between lunch and dinner hours. I will stay put, it's 20 minutes to work or home. Not worth the money in petrol, nor my time. I'd feel like I'd just got home and have to go back in. Yuck.
No more punishment? Dagnabbit! LOL
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Feb 26, 2008Comments: 0 · Posts: 8735 · Topics: 522
1. A man with 2+ kids with different women who does NOT have a good relationship with the mother. It's 1 thing to have your 1st child with the 1st mother & realize things didn't work out, BUT it always sends up a red flag to me when a man who continually keeps having children can't seem to pick the RIGHT women to knock up. After all, I wouldn't want to be the 3rd or 4th "baby mama" he's telling his new fling that he doesn't get along with either.
2. Bad credit score. I'm talking about the kinds of people who have delinquent accounts with everyone! Banks, IRS, stores, taxes, etc. If you owe THAT much to the point where we wouldn't be able to take out a loan for a house or car or for our children to go to college, that's a problem! We all make bad financial decisions, BUT I don't want to get with you & end up suffering all b/c you couldn't keep it under control last year
3. I agree with the over-bearing in laws one. Family/friends & their opinions ARE important, BUT the only 2 people who should be running and/or having a huge impact in the relationship are me & my man. Not me, my man AND his mother all b/c she's his "mother." In laws, friends & outsiders have to know their place & if my man doesn't understand that concept, things will only go downhill.
4. Ex's that aren't over him yet. A man can swear up & down that HE's actually over her, BUT if she's not AND if she's continually making efforts to make sure that he doesn't find happiness with someone else, I won't AND don't have time to compete, nor do I have time for someone who couldn't completely finish 1 thing before he started another. If he still wants to maintain some kind of friendship with a woman he KNOWS isn't over him yet, then I'd rather fall back & let them figure things out. They just WON'T do it at my expense or on MY time
5. If he JUST got out of a relationship. Nuff' said. Even if a relationship ends on good or mutual terms, I don't want to come in his life & try to show him how good of a catch I am at a time when most people are either heartbroken OR need their space for awhile. And anyone who can get over someone they loved in 2 days is someone I'd seriously have to question. I'd rather meet/have him when he's FULLY got his ex AND the relationship out of his system. 2 people breaking up doesn't mean that the love in that relationship broke too.
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Dec 22, 2009Comments: 438 · Posts: 33721 · Topics: 241
I am so much better on paper too. This is spot on.
"Writing is like a Kodak moment, it captures that precise emotion, feeling, and euphoric state that your significant other has put you in. I am an extremely shy person. Verbalizing can NEVER quite capture how I feel about the person at that time. My shyness kicks in, my brain turns into mush, and then I lose my train of thoughts.
When I am unable to verbalize how I feel about this person, the only thing I can do is stare at him lovingly ( from a distance...sometimes when he's not looking) watching his movements, his smile, and being self assured that he's MY MAN. Damn how lucky am I?"
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Feb 26, 2008Comments: 0 · Posts: 8735 · Topics: 522
Baggage that is INTERNAL is the WORST kind of baggage b/c it takes the longest to get rid of & is NOT something I can control or get him to change no matter how hard I try. We can all fix our financial problems eventually or get rid of some old habits.
BUT if someone has been internally holding on to something for a long time, there's no reason for me to believe that me simply showing up in his life will automatically cause the baggage to disappear. The way I see it...if he's still making the DECISION to allow his internal baggage to negatively influence or hold him back by the time he meets me, that's probably an indication that he has NO plans on letting it go. And hey, I get that some things are easier said than done BUT I'll tell you what! It won't be done at my expense OR on MY time.
I'm not THAT arrogant that I believe me simply showing up in someone's life will cause them to get some common sense & get rid of old ties that are negatively consuming them or holding them back in life. If they hadn't learned to fix or let go of internal baggage BEFORE they met me, I'd be an extremely arrogant person to expect for things to change just b/c I show up.
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Apr 23, 2008Comments: 0 · Posts: 1742 · Topics: 154
The person is "Taurean" of all things, i know so many Taureans, my housemate is Taurean, being a Cappy we automatically get on.....
However from what ive seen on their facebook page, they certainly dont seem Taurean, very extrovert, lots of friends, a lot of flirting going on......from my experience not a typical Taurean as the Bulls that I know are fairly quiet people.
Nope, nothings happened yet, as i said, i left the door open, but nothing yet....