I'm going to give you the BEST tip ever...
AMEN AMEN AMEN!
Although I think this advice is universal & relates to people of ALL signs, I especially think it's important when dealing with Aquas since alot of people dealing with them often complain about how draining it is to "figure us out."
There'd be nothing to "figure out" if people would just ask. And Aquas know this. We know that we can be confusing, & even down right intimidating. BUT we won't do the work for you. If we can sense that you have something on your mind or that you want to know something, we'll sit back & wait on you to have the courage & willpower to ask us.
Who cares about whether or not we'll actually like what you had to say or the questions you had to ask. That's besides the point. We have to give credit where credit is due & respect someone for loving the aspect of communication. Hell, we damn sure WON'T hold our tongues when we want to know something, so we can only respect those who don't hold their tongues either.
Although I think this advice is universal & relates to people of ALL signs, I especially think it's important when dealing with Aquas since alot of people dealing with them often complain about how draining it is to "figure us out."
There'd be nothing to "figure out" if people would just ask. And Aquas know this. We know that we can be confusing, & even down right intimidating. BUT we won't do the work for you. If we can sense that you have something on your mind or that you want to know something, we'll sit back & wait on you to have the courage & willpower to ask us.
Who cares about whether or not we'll actually like what you had to say or the questions you had to ask. That's besides the point. We have to give credit where credit is due & respect someone for loving the aspect of communication. Hell, we damn sure WON'T hold our tongues when we want to know something, so we can only respect those who don't hold their tongues either.
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Yup fair enough 
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I suppose it would be the same thing with a very sour orange..
.I suppose it would be the same thing with a very sour orange..
Posted by texastee
My Pisces one minute he's all in the next he's all out, but yet wants me to continue stimulating he's mind with dirty conversations, email and text. and yet he say tone it down some. If I stop all together he'll starts flirting. when I give him what he wants space, I'll find him chasing me again. I don't understand these ppl. But i deal with his ebbs and flows. I must be clear I am not sleeping with him anymore. but i do enjoy teasing him.
Well, three weeks ago you wanted the "dirty old man" back.. so now you've got it. You're his bit on the side (he's MARRIED).. only.. wait.. your affair ended a year ago, and you've been trying to rekindle it ever since, but Fishie ain't biting and isn't giving up the dick. Well, he obviously likes the "sexting" and thinks it's fun.. but "tone it down" means you're a nastay bitch.. dirty is good.. but when a man you carried on with for several years stops fucking you, but will "sext" with you while refusing to sleep with you, AND tells you to "tone it down".. yeah, you nastay. And no, he doesn't "love" you... he loves sexting you. Women are dumb as fuck. *sigh*
What is there to understand? What's so confusing? He's married, he refuses to fuck you again no matter how desperately you've thrown yourself at him for a year, but he's back to dirty talking you? You're his e-whore!
But iirc, that's all you said you want to be.. you were just mad he's not still fucking you.
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Hugh Grant lookalike... Scary...NOT!!
Hi! I actually re-opened my account for you! Sweetie you are not alone.
What the girls above wrote was right on the money-- you will feel better over time. If I can start to heal-- you can, trust me.
This is 100% what everybody thinks after a break up. NOBODY really likes change initiated by somebody else. If you had found somebody you liked better than it may have been him posting here! (well maybe not but you get the idea).
You will feel better with two things (1) TIME and (2) Meeting another guy you like more-- or at least one who will take your mind off him.
Did you ever see "When Harry Met Sally"? Billy Crystal still had a thing for his ex wife after they broke up. So one day he and meg ryan have sex and become a sorta "thing"-- until one day-- he saw his ex wife while he was in a store with meg Ryan!!! So meg ryan sees how he is still hung up on his ex wife! So she completely detached from him. It was only then that he realized he loved meg ryan.
Time. That's all you need. Time.
((((BIG HUGS)))
What the girls above wrote was right on the money-- you will feel better over time. If I can start to heal-- you can, trust me.
This is 100% what everybody thinks after a break up. NOBODY really likes change initiated by somebody else. If you had found somebody you liked better than it may have been him posting here! (well maybe not but you get the idea).
You will feel better with two things (1) TIME and (2) Meeting another guy you like more-- or at least one who will take your mind off him.
Did you ever see "When Harry Met Sally"? Billy Crystal still had a thing for his ex wife after they broke up. So one day he and meg ryan have sex and become a sorta "thing"-- until one day-- he saw his ex wife while he was in a store with meg Ryan!!! So meg ryan sees how he is still hung up on his ex wife! So she completely detached from him. It was only then that he realized he loved meg ryan.
Time. That's all you need. Time.
((((BIG HUGS)))
what you need to be when dating one: may help you stop being so anxious
1) PAITENCE: don't force them to do anything or BECOME anything. just be you and let them do the decision making.Dont ever bring up the "what are we" talk. EVER. If you guys fight, even if you disagree with the way he approaches conflicts or what not...live and let live. Try to see from his standpoint and if you were him.
2) COMPROMISE: don't be stubborn...that would turn him off i think.be free flowing like water. adapt new ideas to alleviate pain and elevate happiness between the both.
3) VAGUE: My daddy always said "a smart woman keeps her mouth shut". very true. Your mind is the only place in this world that is safe. Don't let everyone walk in and out of there. keep certain things to yourself. Only state the necessary.
4) APPEARANCE: Even if he doesn't care about looks...it be nice if you all of a sudden colored your hair without telling him. or cutting it...or wearing something you NORMALLY wouldn't wear. He would take notice and think its new. little things like this i think would make a huge difference.
5) INSATIABLE SEX: I had problem dealing with this...but now im getting the hang of dealing with both twins .when where and how. Express how much you adore his body, then talk about something else non sexual. then go back into it. Laugh. giggle. flirt. play around. Spice it up once in awhile with new ideas. EVEN ANAL! lol. even if you guys don't do it often..the idea that you give no restrictions whatsoever is new. My bf said "once i feel there are restrictions i feel it will become routine"
6) CURRENT EVENTS: Politics, arts, theater, music, history, culture, new bars, new places to see. UPDATE HIM. HE"LL love it. Never go to the same place 2x. try to find new things to do. even if its walking around a park. BUT its a new park with a interesting history to it. SHOW Him talk about it. My bf is interested in a lot of things...architecture being one of em. I would incorporate a new hip bar with a twist of ambiance.
7) EXISTENTIALISM: study on it.
8) LOVING/ Caring: regardless of sign...any man would love to know that after a long day of chasing their ambitions and adventures with friends...family...or career wise. .that when all is said and done they'll have a sweet girl at home...cooking. Waiting to massage him, comfort him, be his muse
nah i am just not judgemental and I know his history why he is the way he is! something your dumb miserable ass would never know! with love and patience it can be fix you wouldn't believe how many people walking around and cannot read and is married because somebody loves them regardless. I tell you one thing he makes up for it to and u know how knows they could be really just friends and that it. So you can carry your azz and stupid comment somewhere else seriously.
to elllesque sorry but no i was in the beginning stage of filing for him, he didn't even make it to the state yet I only filed the first form that is it. ellesque is there a ignore function on here I want to put cap girl on ignore they said Capricorns can be sarcastic assholes but since i do not act like that I didn't think it was true
Oh, sorry I lost my point ..lol.. what I am trying to say is that it is he causing this-- not you. You have to find a way to accept it. If one day he chooses to come back then it will be you who has the upper hand.
If you get the upperhand I HIGHLY suggest you find a way to keep it as this man seems to hurt you when he has it.
Good luck sweetie
PS
The narcissist I knew-- it all feels like a distant memory. Like it never happened. I think if I saw him now I would feel so uncomfortable-- I would probably get a stomach ache.
If you get the upperhand I HIGHLY suggest you find a way to keep it as this man seems to hurt you when he has it.
Good luck sweetie
PS
The narcissist I knew-- it all feels like a distant memory. Like it never happened. I think if I saw him now I would feel so uncomfortable-- I would probably get a stomach ache.
Posted by spica
If they're not interested.
If they found you tricked or baited them before they got time to sort out their feelings.
If you're a rebound and they're a rebound. Rebounds mean very little in the scheme of things.
If they're in love with someone else and you're the next best thing.
If you keep pestering them to go out and make *them* your bf/gf. Libra doesnt work that way.
If you sleep w them on impulse.
If you're incompatible.
If you're evil in disguise.
If they found they've been tricked by their own illusion
If you spoil their plans or rush them to make decisions.
If you're too forward.
If you fail to meet their beauty standards.
If there is no connection.
If you burn them out.
many more. arbitrary anyway.
All spells being pushed into something they haven't decided fully upon yet... I get that!
Posted by ellessque
boy meets girl *spark*
spark ignored
*fast forward past marriage,kids,divorce*
boy initiates conversation with girl *spark*
boy starts seeing girl
girl wants a relationship, boy doesn't
girl says "see ya"
girl starts to date other boys
boy comes back and says "want a relationship? okay, here" *hands girl relationship*
girl runs like hell in the opposite direction
girl has a date on saturday with a new boy
...lol... If I may?
I did the same thing-- twice!
For me, it was the security. It felt "ruined". Hard to explain. Like it just was ruined for me.
If I give you my heart and you give it back-- I'm not so inclined to give it over twice.
I don't refund or exchange so easy. I'm like Barns & Nobles ..lol..