Taking Advantage Of A Virgo
That is a damn shame, V.
I don't understand why anyone would have to tell an ADULT not to take advantage of their generosity. Kids don't really know any better, but someone well over their teens should.
Anytime I've had people give me rides in the past, I practically gushed my thanks, because I know they didn't have to. I also made sure to pay them back (buy them lunch, be there if THEY needed a ride in the future, etc.) even if they said no to wanting some form of repayment. It just doesn't sit well with me not to let someone know how much you appreciate what they did for you, especially if they could have declined.
And that's the problem with favors--people lose their manners when it comes to thanking you after the first few times.
I'm already prepping for what I'm going to say to her tonight. I'll try to be polite, but I'm done.
I don't understand why anyone would have to tell an ADULT not to take advantage of their generosity. Kids don't really know any better, but someone well over their teens should.
Anytime I've had people give me rides in the past, I practically gushed my thanks, because I know they didn't have to. I also made sure to pay them back (buy them lunch, be there if THEY needed a ride in the future, etc.) even if they said no to wanting some form of repayment. It just doesn't sit well with me not to let someone know how much you appreciate what they did for you, especially if they could have declined.
And that's the problem with favors--people lose their manners when it comes to thanking you after the first few times.
I'm already prepping for what I'm going to say to her tonight. I'll try to be polite, but I'm done.
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Caligula - "the stats don't bear this in mind. reality is reality, denying it because it makes you feel better is on you.
hell, apparently you're just considering it and you're nearly 30. wth did you need to "discuss it" with your friends if everybody's doing it?"
Stats? Stats of Black women who have indicated a disinterest in dating outside the Black community or stats that indicate that Black women are simply not dating outside the community, regardless of the reason? I do agree that there are not a lot of Black women who date outside the Black race, especially when compared to Black men and women from other ethnic groups. However, I do not think this is solely because they are not attracted to men outside their race. I think there are a lot of societal issues that contribute to this as well.
I am just now considering this because it was really never an option as the majority of my friends are African American. I have never been approached by a man who was not Black or a mixed race. You are right I am almost 30 (eek). Lol. I am ready to settle down and get married. Three years ago, I was not thinking about settling down really. Now that I am, I am beginning to think of all he ways that I can increase the odds of accomplishing that goal. I have definitely been attracted to men who are not Black. I did not "need" to discuss it with my friends. It was a topic that came up while we were eating brunch....just general girl talk...dam! Lol. It was a group of about 5 of us, maybe about 3 of my friends have dated outside of their race. Not in SERIOUS relationships, just dated. I have never really discussed their experiences with them about it until last week. So, it was a topic that organically came up in discussion.
hell, apparently you're just considering it and you're nearly 30. wth did you need to "discuss it" with your friends if everybody's doing it?"
Stats? Stats of Black women who have indicated a disinterest in dating outside the Black community or stats that indicate that Black women are simply not dating outside the community, regardless of the reason? I do agree that there are not a lot of Black women who date outside the Black race, especially when compared to Black men and women from other ethnic groups. However, I do not think this is solely because they are not attracted to men outside their race. I think there are a lot of societal issues that contribute to this as well.
I am just now considering this because it was really never an option as the majority of my friends are African American. I have never been approached by a man who was not Black or a mixed race. You are right I am almost 30 (eek). Lol. I am ready to settle down and get married. Three years ago, I was not thinking about settling down really. Now that I am, I am beginning to think of all he ways that I can increase the odds of accomplishing that goal. I have definitely been attracted to men who are not Black. I did not "need" to discuss it with my friends. It was a topic that came up while we were eating brunch....just general girl talk...dam! Lol. It was a group of about 5 of us, maybe about 3 of my friends have dated outside of their race. Not in SERIOUS relationships, just dated. I have never really discussed their experiences with them about it until last week. So, it was a topic that organically came up in discussion.
"i'd treetrunk the pink off matthew mcconaughey's dick!
i don't think it's a matter of not finding white men attractive. i think it's all in our ingrained cultural perception of what it means to be a man. that perception is based far more in stereotypes than in reality. ie, of ALL races, which male racial group is likely to catch the short end of the stick?"
Now, I DO AGREE with the Mathew McConaughey comment (LMAO) and the later comment.
"a black woman who has to have a debate within herself over whether or not she could date a white man, trust, the cookiemonster is harboring a slave mentality because the reality is, you could ask the same woman if she would date a latino and there wouldn't be nearly as much hesitation."
Not sure if this comment was directed towards me (since I created the post), but just to clarify, I am not having a "debate within myself??. Like I said, it was a topic that casually came up between my girlfriends and I and it made me think, ???well, why haven??t I dated men outside my race? I have seen plenty who were attractive.?? I then began to think about possible cultural and societal conflicts that may exists within an interracial relationship. Not as reasoning to not date outside of my race, but just to get a better idea of some of the issues that might exists. IMO, a debate includes two opposing sides. I have no opposition to dating outside my race.
My only concern is/was that (again) I have not been approached by men outside my race (well..maybe once). Other than that, I am open to it, I just have never had that experience. Also, to me, non-Black is non-Black. So, IF I did have a reservation about dating outside my race, it would not only be directed only towards White men.
i don't think it's a matter of not finding white men attractive. i think it's all in our ingrained cultural perception of what it means to be a man. that perception is based far more in stereotypes than in reality. ie, of ALL races, which male racial group is likely to catch the short end of the stick?"
Now, I DO AGREE with the Mathew McConaughey comment (LMAO) and the later comment.
"a black woman who has to have a debate within herself over whether or not she could date a white man, trust, the cookiemonster is harboring a slave mentality because the reality is, you could ask the same woman if she would date a latino and there wouldn't be nearly as much hesitation."
Not sure if this comment was directed towards me (since I created the post), but just to clarify, I am not having a "debate within myself??. Like I said, it was a topic that casually came up between my girlfriends and I and it made me think, ???well, why haven??t I dated men outside my race? I have seen plenty who were attractive.?? I then began to think about possible cultural and societal conflicts that may exists within an interracial relationship. Not as reasoning to not date outside of my race, but just to get a better idea of some of the issues that might exists. IMO, a debate includes two opposing sides. I have no opposition to dating outside my race.
My only concern is/was that (again) I have not been approached by men outside my race (well..maybe once). Other than that, I am open to it, I just have never had that experience. Also, to me, non-Black is non-Black. So, IF I did have a reservation about dating outside my race, it would not only be directed only towards White men.
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Posted by LeoGal4Real
First part of my message is cut off-I'm awake! REALLY I AM!!!!
"I could never have abs that look like that"...
Aw thanks! But trust me... u dont want to have to go thru what I do in order to get them. No fun at all!!! Abs are 90% diet unfortunately and thats the worst part. No fatty foods for me!!!
Mmmm... as for that pic T..... now that's what Im talking about! Id like to lick some honey out of every single crevice of that....
Ahhh well, they can't all be winners.
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Im not liking this new AVI Tate.... I need visual stimulation......
Posted by dummylove
I absolutely do have intention of making this real if he wants to too. There??s nothing I??d like more, but marriage is a whole other step that is hopefully further down the line. Even though we do clearly like each other, who knows at this point whether marriage is on the cards? Even if we weren??t in different countries it??s only been 3 months since we first met.
Do you really think it??s realistic that we talk about marriage or the serious future at this point? He??ll probably run for the hills!! Isn??t it all a bit heavy?
Take your time, do what feels right for both of you. Enjoy each other.
Well alright now!!! Lol. And ummm...Norcalman, what sign are you? Ahhh ha ha ha!
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Am I saggi?!
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Exactly? what do I get?
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Capricorns and Sags.
ALthough I think when Cappys complain they are only venting... then they tend to do something about it in order to rectify the situation. The Sags I know just generally complain and dont do anything about it. Im only speaking from my experiences with my 2 cappy bffs and my sag sister and 2 sag exbfs.
ALthough I think when Cappys complain they are only venting... then they tend to do something about it in order to rectify the situation. The Sags I know just generally complain and dont do anything about it. Im only speaking from my experiences with my 2 cappy bffs and my sag sister and 2 sag exbfs.