Taking Advantage Of A Virgo
@CL-"Never make someone a priority when you are only an option for them"-C.Powell
Yes this type of scenerio sounds so familiar also.I had someone I knew for along time and after telling me about the weekend she spent money on her boytoy,two weeks later she called crying for rent money.Meanwhile,she had a full time job and two adult sons at home.I said no.I even changed my phone number.When I told my story to the phone company rep,she didn't even charge me for the change!How's that for being rewarded for being proactive!
Yes,you were right to pick her up the first time-no woman should be stranded,but this is now different.She has a boyfriend.(He has the capacity to work/get car.)She has enough money to dye her hair.She also has enough money to pay a babysitter.She has access to the school handbook as what to do to make arrangemens pertaining to her assignments.She could get a cab/bus voucher or take the semester off.These days a person is just about required to have internet access,so they aren't"stranded"at school all hours of the night.It seems if she has a temporary fix,then screw planning for tomorrow.Yeah,I know you know this already,but stepping back and looking in on the situation can give you the inner strength/perspective to just say no.Really she has a big brass pair.
Maybe take her aside on a Friday before class and tell her,that your personal schedule has changed and you can't accomodate her anymore.You do not have to say anything beyond that.Then make plans with your real friends or drive out of the parking lot in the opposite direction.When she calls again,don't answer.Don't you have campus security?She can sit with them until her cab comes.(By saying no,you are actually help her to grow up and make solid plans for herself.)If the shoe was on the other foot,would she seriously help you??Think in those terms.-Because I can hear the excuse now-"Oh,my boyfriend doesn't want to watch the baby while I go out".Being responsible is also being responsible to put your safety and care first.Does she even care that you are a single woman driving through these streets alone?After 11?And you have to get up for work as well?It sure doesn't look that way.Don't give up on the rest of us,there are still some serious likeminded folks out there.
Yes this type of scenerio sounds so familiar also.I had someone I knew for along time and after telling me about the weekend she spent money on her boytoy,two weeks later she called crying for rent money.Meanwhile,she had a full time job and two adult sons at home.I said no.I even changed my phone number.When I told my story to the phone company rep,she didn't even charge me for the change!How's that for being rewarded for being proactive!
Yes,you were right to pick her up the first time-no woman should be stranded,but this is now different.She has a boyfriend.(He has the capacity to work/get car.)She has enough money to dye her hair.She also has enough money to pay a babysitter.She has access to the school handbook as what to do to make arrangemens pertaining to her assignments.She could get a cab/bus voucher or take the semester off.These days a person is just about required to have internet access,so they aren't"stranded"at school all hours of the night.It seems if she has a temporary fix,then screw planning for tomorrow.Yeah,I know you know this already,but stepping back and looking in on the situation can give you the inner strength/perspective to just say no.Really she has a big brass pair.
Maybe take her aside on a Friday before class and tell her,that your personal schedule has changed and you can't accomodate her anymore.You do not have to say anything beyond that.Then make plans with your real friends or drive out of the parking lot in the opposite direction.When she calls again,don't answer.Don't you have campus security?She can sit with them until her cab comes.(By saying no,you are actually help her to grow up and make solid plans for herself.)If the shoe was on the other foot,would she seriously help you??Think in those terms.-Because I can hear the excuse now-"Oh,my boyfriend doesn't want to watch the baby while I go out".Being responsible is also being responsible to put your safety and care first.Does she even care that you are a single woman driving through these streets alone?After 11?And you have to get up for work as well?It sure doesn't look that way.Don't give up on the rest of us,there are still some serious likeminded folks out there.
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LOL@ this thread being longer in a shorter time than the female equivelent.
Posted by dreamer23
Also, I am a very private person. All Pisces are. There is such a dichotomy, because on the one hand, I long for someone to really know me, but I also love keeping that air of mystery about myself. And when someone seems to be able to read me (this is rare however), I dont like it at all.
How does that make you feel? To want someone to really know you but not liking it when they are able to read you? Do you find yourself battling with yourself? Does it confuse you?
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To the point where I'm undecided about it? I don't know..I don't think you can have strong feelings for two people..maybe one is an obligatory steady love after the feelings have cooled and the other is a new passionate feeling over someone new..but the same intensity? Nah. It'd be too much energy, for me. Plus I'd always go for the former.
Posted by piscesscorned78
Could he actually leave me for her. Is this a virgo's trait. his b-day is 8/26/78
He is a libra, honey. Not a virgo.
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Posted by aPiscesPrincess
The Aqua/Pisces cusp is February 16 to February 22 (some websites say through February 23).
Thank you. If you were born five days before or five days after the change from one sun sign to another, then you are a cusp.
Just act like you're a stupid. Virgo men usually like intelligent women.
Hey, didn't you say that you're developing feelings for him? Why do you think that it is not going to go anywhere? You are horribly confused. You want the guy to "stop" talking to you but you still want to be friends.
Doesn't sound too intelligent. You might get what you wish for after all !!
Hey, didn't you say that you're developing feelings for him? Why do you think that it is not going to go anywhere? You are horribly confused. You want the guy to "stop" talking to you but you still want to be friends.
Doesn't sound too intelligent. You might get what you wish for after all !!
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