Aries Men - advice needed on how to move forwards
Okay - I've been searching these sites for a while, but this is the first time I've been brave enough to post - so please be gentle lol!
I'm a Leo girl (33), whos met an aries guy (39), and he completely blows me away! He's gorgeous, funny, smart, driven - I could go on - but you get the idea. I meet him on an online dating site (please don't judge me I work really long hours and all my friends are married, so it's hard to meet people the normal way), and he started emaling me. I went away on holiday, and he kept emailing me usually round about 10:30 at night and I would reply the next day when I could pick them up. This went on for about 2 weeks and he sent me his number daring me to text him, but I said I couldn't as it was really expensive to text from another country, but would when I got back. Now his emails were starting to get pretty raunchy and hot, but I tried really hard to play it cool and not let him take it too far (after reading some of these posts, I can see that with an aries guy, that's near impossible :-).
When I got back home I texted him and and about 7 hours later at 23:30 he texted me back. I replied the next morning as I was genuinely asleep and we exchanged texts for the next few hours and he suggested we meet that evening. I had no plans (didn't tell him that), so agreed to meet. We had the most amzing date, and lets just say things went farther on the first date than I have ever done before with any other guy (but not the whole way)! I sent him a quick text when I got home, just to say I had a good time, got one reply which I replied to, then nothing for 2 days.
So on sunday I sent him another text, I knew he had been out on saturday night as he had told me, and I was also away at a friends christening, just asking how he was, and we texted a bit. After that, again nothing for another 2 days, so I sent him a text just saying I hoped he was okay, and how were things going with his business. I got one reply about 4 hours later, which I repled to 2 hours later then nothing more from him. It's been three days and I haven't heard anything, I know he's really busy setting up his new business and travelling, so I don't want to bug him, but I also don't want to be a doormat. The problem is - how do I keep him interested, without being clingy, but keeping my own self respect - Please help!!!
I'm a Leo girl (33), whos met an aries guy (39), and he completely blows me away! He's gorgeous, funny, smart, driven - I could go on - but you get the idea. I meet him on an online dating site (please don't judge me I work really long hours and all my friends are married, so it's hard to meet people the normal way), and he started emaling me. I went away on holiday, and he kept emailing me usually round about 10:30 at night and I would reply the next day when I could pick them up. This went on for about 2 weeks and he sent me his number daring me to text him, but I said I couldn't as it was really expensive to text from another country, but would when I got back. Now his emails were starting to get pretty raunchy and hot, but I tried really hard to play it cool and not let him take it too far (after reading some of these posts, I can see that with an aries guy, that's near impossible :-).
When I got back home I texted him and and about 7 hours later at 23:30 he texted me back. I replied the next morning as I was genuinely asleep and we exchanged texts for the next few hours and he suggested we meet that evening. I had no plans (didn't tell him that), so agreed to meet. We had the most amzing date, and lets just say things went farther on the first date than I have ever done before with any other guy (but not the whole way)! I sent him a quick text when I got home, just to say I had a good time, got one reply which I replied to, then nothing for 2 days.
So on sunday I sent him another text, I knew he had been out on saturday night as he had told me, and I was also away at a friends christening, just asking how he was, and we texted a bit. After that, again nothing for another 2 days, so I sent him a text just saying I hoped he was okay, and how were things going with his business. I got one reply about 4 hours later, which I repled to 2 hours later then nothing more from him. It's been three days and I haven't heard anything, I know he's really busy setting up his new business and travelling, so I don't want to bug him, but I also don't want to be a doormat. The problem is - how do I keep him interested, without being clingy, but keeping my own self respect - Please help!!!
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haha, yep they're brutal
You are doing exactly the right thing, even though it hurts. I am sorry that he wasn't on the level with you about that. I agree with tiki that he needs to be as free as he can be ( the boys, you see ) before anything can being as it ought. Those boys' lives are going to be turned upside down soon if things proceed. They would be highly resentful of you from the onset dependent upon their ages ( my children were, they had 'new chick' foisted on them just under a month after their father left, they were deeply wounded and angry..can't replace Momma ). Forgive me, I am focusing on what they'll go through the most. I should have liked someone as respectful as you on the other side of that mess I went through. It speaks volumes of your character.
I should tell him I love him, and love him well enough and truly enough to let him go. If everything he feels is real ( and you say it is ) then let him get on with things so he can welcome you properly. That is what you have done, what you are doing.
I should tell him I love him, and love him well enough and truly enough to let him go. If everything he feels is real ( and you say it is ) then let him get on with things so he can welcome you properly. That is what you have done, what you are doing.
Try not to get so captivated by all the "I love you's and don't leave me's) the reality is if he feels this deeply now then he'll feel just as deeply after the divorce is final. Cut ties for now and move on, if it's meant to be it will be and no amount of time can change that. Give him distance and space to sort his life out. You couldn't be his friend at this point because you are romantically attached to him and vice versa. No one here can force you to leave the guy alone but I have a feeling at some point the deeper you find yourself in it you'll regret not moving on. He disappeared because he's married with child and I'm sure he's mentally separated but most likely living under the same roof with this woman, no good can come from this.
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