i'm a pisces female having dated a cancer male. we get along great and have lots in common that we don't have with anyone else but each other. however, i was having a hard time with getting him to let me in to the point where we would see each other once a week, despite a couple of months and me giving him alot of patience. then late september a few days after taking a day trip and him not responding to my emails or texts, he sends me an email trying to break up with me stating that there's no spark, and that he was flip flopping for a few weeks (he never told me about this, so it was a surprise to me) and that he's making a big mistake, etc. a few days later, i wrote him back stating that he's not giving me a chance and we agreed to to continue. despite our talk, he still mislead me that i was going to meet his parents and that i had nothing to worry about when it came to us. also, sometimes he would make plans and then cancel them at the last minute because he was "anxious" and "confused." he said he would be fine earlier in the day, and then get anxious and told me that he would sit there like a bonehead listening to me when it came time. why say you meet me when you don't really want to. this scenario happened again last tuesday, and i was pissed and wrote him an email that wednesday night stating how i was frustrated with him not giving me a chance and letting me in. no response. anxious to see how i stand with him, i called him on friday night and he dumps me again. he stated all the above what he said to me in september, and that there is nothing about me that he doesn't dislike (so why break up with me in the first place?), no spark (despite him not giving me a chance to se him more) and that i made him depressed because he was confused about us. he initiated our convsersations 9 out of 10 times, so he gave me no indication about anything and still continued to lead me on. i did state to him on the phone that he never gave me a chance and, yes, he is making a big mistake. i'm still really confused why he did that if he still wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me...he should have ended it earlier if he though that way all along, instead of stringing me along. i tried and tried to communicate with him all the time. i talked to a friend about this, and he said cancer boy may be insecure about stuff, so he broke up with me. cancer boy and i ended the conversation saying we'll talk again and that we'll be in each other's lives.
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Dec 21, 2010Comments: 27 · Posts: 1724 · Topics: 120
lol me too Kitsune. Self control. Heh. My lib/sco wants to take things slow. But wants to move forward. he's scared. Self control is going to be my challenge I think... and what a challenge it will be. But.. think of it this way: the harder you fight for something, the more you value it. In this case, you know what will happen if things go too fast = disaster. So fight for the relationship. Even if it means fighting yourself.
we'll remain friends for sure. so is it true that cancer men are indecisive and come back around? or should i just move on?
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Nov 10, 2010Comments: 287 · Posts: 30828 · Topics: 650
i feel like we have guests on the sag board!
i will make some appetizers and get some drinks started. maybe break out the scrabble?
kay?