Aqua male in love
Posted by NikkiMse1978
@Real...he told me he screwed up by blaming me for alot of things, when it was him who was screwing up. He took the blame off of me for a change! I agreed with him. FINALLY he told me what i knew all aling, & i told him i figured out it wasnt me. He also told me everything he was feeling. Like he felt like a failure bcus hes unemployed, doesnt have a job, is filing bankruptcy. That he couldnt provide for me or my son. I told him those things are nice, but its not all i wanted. I just wanted him!!! His time & his love. He said he felt guilty bcus he couldnt even take me to dinner. I informed him it wasnt about that. It was about seeing him, spending time with him. Just being with him. He feels guilty for whatever male reasons i will never understand. Why guilty? Can you & everyone else shed light on that??? Lol. I know Tikki thinks its bcus its familiar, i think shes partly right, however, i feel there is more to it than that ya know?
Yeah I do know. Fuck what anyone else thinks, who cares. It's your life right & you're going to do what your heart desires & what's best for you in the end. Yes a man will feel that way if he can't provide. He doesn't feel like a man & he WILL start to feel like a failure. Hell I've felt that way when I was unemployed. I guess we all have felt some kind of way when things take a turn for the worst. Maybe he feels that he isn't the man you need him to be even though you've expressed that you only want him & it's not based on anything superficial. He doesn't see that.
I guess that's where the guilt comes in. Guilty for the way he has treated you & guilty for what I mentioned above. All I say is do what YOU see fit. NOT what anyone else says. If you want to hold on to him, so be it. If you want to let him go, so be it. Do what is beneficial to YOU, & what makes YOU happy. With or without him. I wish you all the best!!!!!
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well this is the case for me.
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THANK YOU! we are!
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well this is the case for me.
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i totally agree with everything you wrote~! lol esp. the libra part. i always have to beg or ask or sorta counter offer some sort of trade with them. lol...yep i have a taurus moon and libra rising.
and earth signs get along with me fairly well too and vice versa.
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1urbanicblue yea it would seem so. not to mention she has a cap moon(im cancer moon) smFh
@aquariusgyal..can i ask where your moon falls in your chart & what aspect to the moon? The reason why i ask this, is bcoz the 1st part of the above post doesn't rhyme with what i read about scorp moon. Mine is in the eighth house conjuncts mars, pluto & saturn, so it might different from yours. Thanx in advance
You rang?
Taurus Father (alot of Leo) and Aries Mother (alot of Aries), both with Leo Ascendant.
Brother Aries (alot of Aries) ascendant Sagittarius
Me Pisces (alot of Aries) ascendant Gemini
Conclusion: my opinion did not count for nothing.
Brother Aries (alot of Aries) ascendant Sagittarius
Me Pisces (alot of Aries) ascendant Gemini
Conclusion: my opinion did not count for nothing.
Posted by ElusiveSoul
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What I have come up with in my research, this fits the bill perfectly ! Just sayin
Hey, trust me I'm not bashing caps at all, as previously stated, pisces seem to have dependency/addiction issues....that's why caps and pisces are perfect yet toxic for each other. Not to mention that both seem to be living in their own twisted realities...
And above all, by no means am I trying to put all signs/people in the same category.
To have a real genuine care takes a very long time, hence the slow pace. Really, all of what you've written sounds good, but there's more to the story. I don't even know all of it, but part of it is...there are billions of people on this earth, what makes you different? When Cap males get to analyzing someone they are trying to figure them out, see if you can stand alone and also stand out in some way. Despite the different personality types, or how people dress up their "uniqueness," the core is the same, and it makes people easy to categorize, which is boring. That's why women get put in boxes and categories by these men, and what started out as constant contact dwindles. He figures that your either going to say this, or say something you think he wants to hear. They figure out patterns easily, just as people figure out our patterns easily. I think they/we search for something a bit different from the norm. It's only manipulation/control if you let it become that, and if you do then there's the box you'll fit into, which is someone that's easy to manipulate. It may be entertaining for some Caps to a certain extent, but many don't seem to like having that control over their partners in the long-run. That's where the wandering eye probably comes from. They don't want anyone fighti
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It may seem like narcissism, because it is until those feelings develop. What the other person does in admiring them probably has nothing to do with them in their minds. It's almost as people expect that just because they feel something those feelings are suppose to be reciprocated. It doesn't work like that.
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Now the flip side of this is I bet that when a Capricorn meets that woman he chickens out and run smh LoL.