Virgos and EX's
Hi Fortch0201, your words display magnificent nobility and I am sure your actions are consistent with your words. Here is the thing though, the whole concept of waking someone up inherently demonstrates arrogance/ego of the self from an intellectual standpoint or a need to parent. I used to think along very similar veins (I am still working my way out of this attitude) however what I have realized now is that healthy relationships can only be between equals. your relationship is currently skewed and it's YOUR ego which leads you to believe that you can wake her up. I don't intend to be mean or rude to you, just pointing out something which I know you will easily rationalize. Ask yourself why you have this need to parent her, why do you seek this imbalance? Does it satisfy some of your own innermost needs? This maybe as much about you as it is about her. Give it a fair shot to try and help her and I hope she is smart enough to realize what a fantastic guy she is with but do ask yourself the right questions too. I have made my fair share of mistakes and I hope to eventually find a solid woman who sees my kindness for what it is, but I will hope that you get there with this girl before I do. she will definitely need to be extraordinary to see your goodness.
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Posted by Layna
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Lol love that.
I'm a Virgo sun with a Libra moon.
I think the silent treatment does not necessarily have to be a concern. When I was a teen it was something I resorted to but now it's not something I would consider.
If I have a problem with someone I am not close to most likely I just write them off after telling them off. With a friend I will take a bit of space for my temper to fizzle out and clear my head and then try to resolve things calmly.
The tricky thing will be with someone I could end up being close with but am not as yet. I can be a bit too cautious and might not hold on to them if they don't make an extra effort during conflicts until we spend enough time together so I can see what their intentions for me are. When that time passes I'll put everything I have into working out anything and everything.
Incandescent you had mentioned something in your other post about Virgos and talking to them regularly to keep the lines of communications open so when something is brewing it gets dealt with instead of festering and leading to a meltdown. I think that is the best approach to take, at least with a person like me. I do tend to follow the lead of my partner when things get tricky and treat him the way he treats me unless I feel his actions are beneath me I will just end it all together. There will be silence after that but only because we are finished and I don't intend to communicate further.
I think the silent treatment does not necessarily have to be a concern. When I was a teen it was something I resorted to but now it's not something I would consider.
If I have a problem with someone I am not close to most likely I just write them off after telling them off. With a friend I will take a bit of space for my temper to fizzle out and clear my head and then try to resolve things calmly.
The tricky thing will be with someone I could end up being close with but am not as yet. I can be a bit too cautious and might not hold on to them if they don't make an extra effort during conflicts until we spend enough time together so I can see what their intentions for me are. When that time passes I'll put everything I have into working out anything and everything.
Incandescent you had mentioned something in your other post about Virgos and talking to them regularly to keep the lines of communications open so when something is brewing it gets dealt with instead of festering and leading to a meltdown. I think that is the best approach to take, at least with a person like me. I do tend to follow the lead of my partner when things get tricky and treat him the way he treats me unless I feel his actions are beneath me I will just end it all together. There will be silence after that but only because we are finished and I don't intend to communicate further.
Thanks for the link MissPirate! The only thing I don't get fully is this line...
"Your romantic needs and sexual needs are quite different, and this presents a constant struggle for you. When you feel satisfied emotionally and romantically (when you feel most loved), you cannot help but feel a lack on an instinctual level--and vice versa."
Does that mean I'm less turned on by people who love me?
That's so impractical... -_-
"Your romantic needs and sexual needs are quite different, and this presents a constant struggle for you. When you feel satisfied emotionally and romantically (when you feel most loved), you cannot help but feel a lack on an instinctual level--and vice versa."
Does that mean I'm less turned on by people who love me?
That's so impractical... -_-
wow.
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Posted by DMVPosted by everevolvingepithet
Nu-uh, JustLibra??? - Justice, all that is right, light and true!
a libra will lie to keep balanceclick to expand
And that's tha fckn truth lol
Posted by Nicrobliz
The furthest I've gone was take some photos of an ex while she was sleeping (from the shoulders/neck up). She looked beautiful and I just wanted to capture that or freeze the moment for prosperity.
Aw that's nice.
I'd probably freak if someone took pictures of me sleeping though!
@ IntriguedScorp...YES you are dead on correct!
"Hot and Cold"..that would BEST explain the "uncertain, unsettling" or "off-ness" I feel at times. I just couldn't put my finger on it. The guy is amazingly sweet, thoughtful, attentive..(I forget he's a scorpio at times..lol)..he just has nonchalant coolness about him that is magnetizing and makes him stand out. When he says things like "You're mine."..lol I LOVE it..b/c I can be a bit possessive as well and in a wierd way it feels good for someone to feel that way about me too.
I don't know what it is..maybe what's putting me off at times is that things seem too easy or "safe"..I'm used to a challenge, or a puzzle..always trying to crack the nut (minds) of my former interests. Something new is always nice. While this guy has been nothing but an open book, honest and upfront about everything. I have been and done the same for him as well.
I just wish that unsettling feeling would go away..
"Hot and Cold"..that would BEST explain the "uncertain, unsettling" or "off-ness" I feel at times. I just couldn't put my finger on it. The guy is amazingly sweet, thoughtful, attentive..(I forget he's a scorpio at times..lol)..he just has nonchalant coolness about him that is magnetizing and makes him stand out. When he says things like "You're mine."..lol I LOVE it..b/c I can be a bit possessive as well and in a wierd way it feels good for someone to feel that way about me too.
I don't know what it is..maybe what's putting me off at times is that things seem too easy or "safe"..I'm used to a challenge, or a puzzle..always trying to crack the nut (minds) of my former interests. Something new is always nice. While this guy has been nothing but an open book, honest and upfront about everything. I have been and done the same for him as well.
I just wish that unsettling feeling would go away..
I've had Gem, Pisces, Leo, Cancer, Aqua.
Aqua is the best!!!
My mars is in Aqua.
Aqua is the best!!!
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