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Thank you so much for opening my eyes .. I don't like being aggressive I just wanted some insight .I'm not trying to come at you any kind of way but with respect.. & I totally get it I hurt him just as much as he hurt me so there should be no pointing the finger.. (: thank you
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???And me doing a lot for Gem was with the message: "Here. It's not going well in your life, here's a few pats in your life. Here's some help to make you feel better about yourself. You're appreciated."??
Rather than being treated like a loser by everyone else in his life.??
And that??s exactly why he??s treating you poorly, you??re not his mother, you can??t be his mother, fix his feelings and expect him to love you/want to make love to you, most men do not want to f*ck there mothers so you see you??re behavior is CREATING friction and conflict with his feelings, you treat him like a child he??ll resent you for attempting to emasculate him, if you feel he needs help and express that through your giving he??ll resent you for not believing in him, for not believing he can fix his own problems, whether you know this or not you render a man helpless and he??ll push back by getting rid of his problem which is you, no man wants to feel he can??t take care of his own problems, a man just won??t like a woman doing the fixing in his life, it??s emasculating, it makes his penis go limp and he??ll associate that feeling with you, he??ll just figure you??re the problem not him and he??ll proceed to start doing some rejecting of his own.
When you fix a mans problems, attempt to fix his happiness, it??s like saying to him you??re a helpless human being, you??re inept and incapable of living an efficient happy life so I??m going to help you, that makes a man feel pathetic and that pathetic feeling is associated with you and he'll want to distance himself from the person causing him to feel pathetic and what will proceed is rejection.
You??re not helping him if he rejects you in the end, you??re pretty much failing if the outcome is him pushing you away.
Him being treated like a loser is his problem, you don??t know how to fix a mans feelings/life, you??re not his mother, you??re not his God, let him feel his growing pains, don??t?? try to fix his problems b/c when you do that you stunt his growth, you take away his life lessons b/c you're too busy working on rescuing him from the world which is very male energy type behavior on your part which is very emasculating, he doesn't want to rely on you only to render himself even more helpless, men lose confidence in themselves when they are not allowed to fix their own problems, make themselves happy, babies and kids need help b/c they are helpless, not grown able bodied men.
Rather than being treated like a loser by everyone else in his life.??
And that??s exactly why he??s treating you poorly, you??re not his mother, you can??t be his mother, fix his feelings and expect him to love you/want to make love to you, most men do not want to f*ck there mothers so you see you??re behavior is CREATING friction and conflict with his feelings, you treat him like a child he??ll resent you for attempting to emasculate him, if you feel he needs help and express that through your giving he??ll resent you for not believing in him, for not believing he can fix his own problems, whether you know this or not you render a man helpless and he??ll push back by getting rid of his problem which is you, no man wants to feel he can??t take care of his own problems, a man just won??t like a woman doing the fixing in his life, it??s emasculating, it makes his penis go limp and he??ll associate that feeling with you, he??ll just figure you??re the problem not him and he??ll proceed to start doing some rejecting of his own.
When you fix a mans problems, attempt to fix his happiness, it??s like saying to him you??re a helpless human being, you??re inept and incapable of living an efficient happy life so I??m going to help you, that makes a man feel pathetic and that pathetic feeling is associated with you and he'll want to distance himself from the person causing him to feel pathetic and what will proceed is rejection.
You??re not helping him if he rejects you in the end, you??re pretty much failing if the outcome is him pushing you away.
Him being treated like a loser is his problem, you don??t know how to fix a mans feelings/life, you??re not his mother, you??re not his God, let him feel his growing pains, don??t?? try to fix his problems b/c when you do that you stunt his growth, you take away his life lessons b/c you're too busy working on rescuing him from the world which is very male energy type behavior on your part which is very emasculating, he doesn't want to rely on you only to render himself even more helpless, men lose confidence in themselves when they are not allowed to fix their own problems, make themselves happy, babies and kids need help b/c they are helpless, not grown able bodied men.
What's really terrible is that sometimes people have to submit the same prayer over and over .. sometimes for years.
god is just so busy ... he'll notice one day, hopefully .... just keep sending the chain prayers in with your fingers crossed, he'll get to you eventually, even if you are still saying the same prayer 30 years from now ... he won't forsake you .. promise.
god is just so busy ... he'll notice one day, hopefully .... just keep sending the chain prayers in with your fingers crossed, he'll get to you eventually, even if you are still saying the same prayer 30 years from now ... he won't forsake you .. promise.
Not really knowing the specifics with the Colorado shooter, I think he was pushed to that extreme.
For him, in his mind, he was pushing back against whatever was pushing him and his act was his way
of pushing back. I think that is the way it is for most who have resorted to that extreme.
James Holmes may have a condition called Dysphoric Mania which is related to Bipolar Disorder.
"In the context of mental disorder, a mixed state, also known as dysphoric mania, agitated depression, or a mixed episode, is a condition during which symptoms of mania and depression occur simultaneously, such as agitation, anxiety, fatigue, guilt, impulsiveness, irritability, morbid or suicidal ideation, panic, paranoia, pressured speech and rage. Typical examples include tearfulness during a manic episode or racing thoughts during a depressive episode. One may also feel incredibly frustrated or be prone to fits of rage in this state, since one may feel like a failure and at the same time have a flight of ideas. Mixed states are often the most problematic period of mood disorders, during which susceptibility to substance abuse, panic disorder, commission of violence, suicide attempts, and other complications increase greatly."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dysphoric_mania
IF my theory is true, the root causes for his actions may be traceable-
Events leading to the shooting
Holmes' defense attorneys claimed in a motion he was a "psychiatric patient" of the medical director of Anschutz's Student Mental Health Services prior to the Aurora shooting; however, the prosecution disagrees with that claim.[41][42] Four days after the release of the defense attorney's motion, the judge required this information to be blacked out.[43] CBS News later reported that Holmes met with at least three mental health professionals at the University of Colorado prior to the massacre.[44]
Some of Holmes' acquaintances suspected prior to the shooting that Holmes suffered from mental illness and could be dangerous. Two weeks before the shooting, he sent a text message asking a graduate student if they had heard of the disorder dysphoric mania, and warning the student to stay away from him "because I am bad news."[45]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Eagan_Holmes
I want to know why the judge "blacked out" the info that later ties Holmes with UC mental health professionals.
Anti-depressants and other mind altering drugs can really screw things up - perhaps UC or Anschutz
For him, in his mind, he was pushing back against whatever was pushing him and his act was his way
of pushing back. I think that is the way it is for most who have resorted to that extreme.
James Holmes may have a condition called Dysphoric Mania which is related to Bipolar Disorder.
"In the context of mental disorder, a mixed state, also known as dysphoric mania, agitated depression, or a mixed episode, is a condition during which symptoms of mania and depression occur simultaneously, such as agitation, anxiety, fatigue, guilt, impulsiveness, irritability, morbid or suicidal ideation, panic, paranoia, pressured speech and rage. Typical examples include tearfulness during a manic episode or racing thoughts during a depressive episode. One may also feel incredibly frustrated or be prone to fits of rage in this state, since one may feel like a failure and at the same time have a flight of ideas. Mixed states are often the most problematic period of mood disorders, during which susceptibility to substance abuse, panic disorder, commission of violence, suicide attempts, and other complications increase greatly."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dysphoric_mania
IF my theory is true, the root causes for his actions may be traceable-
Events leading to the shooting
Holmes' defense attorneys claimed in a motion he was a "psychiatric patient" of the medical director of Anschutz's Student Mental Health Services prior to the Aurora shooting; however, the prosecution disagrees with that claim.[41][42] Four days after the release of the defense attorney's motion, the judge required this information to be blacked out.[43] CBS News later reported that Holmes met with at least three mental health professionals at the University of Colorado prior to the massacre.[44]
Some of Holmes' acquaintances suspected prior to the shooting that Holmes suffered from mental illness and could be dangerous. Two weeks before the shooting, he sent a text message asking a graduate student if they had heard of the disorder dysphoric mania, and warning the student to stay away from him "because I am bad news."[45]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Eagan_Holmes
I want to know why the judge "blacked out" the info that later ties Holmes with UC mental health professionals.
Anti-depressants and other mind altering drugs can really screw things up - perhaps UC or Anschutz
Try being less involved in fixing his life/problems, try being present without giving to him which includes not giving him advice and money and gifts to soothe his fears, you want a man not a baby boy and he can??t demonstrate he??s a man if you??re always jumping in to help, give and make everything perfect and smooth, that??s not realistic behavior on your part, life isn??t perfect so why try to replicate perfection when it??s not realistic, again it??s your behavior that??s causing everything to fall apart.
Put yourself in his shoes, try to see all sides of the situation and not just your side and you??ll find that you don??t want a man coming into your life dictating how you should live, making your life perfect and holding all of your problems, you may think you want that but realistically you would begin to feel like a child if a man constantly hovered over you and attempted to handle all of your emotions and problems, you??d get sick of him and subtly begin to reject him being so pushy, nosy and intrusive.
It's too late and the only way it can all turn around is if you let him go, even mothers have to let go of there kids on some level so they can create lives of there own, you must back off, don't initiate contact, if you stay gone long enough he may realize how important you are to him and he'll find his way back to you and then you can practice being his partner/lover and not his mother/doormat.
Put yourself in his shoes, try to see all sides of the situation and not just your side and you??ll find that you don??t want a man coming into your life dictating how you should live, making your life perfect and holding all of your problems, you may think you want that but realistically you would begin to feel like a child if a man constantly hovered over you and attempted to handle all of your emotions and problems, you??d get sick of him and subtly begin to reject him being so pushy, nosy and intrusive.
It's too late and the only way it can all turn around is if you let him go, even mothers have to let go of there kids on some level so they can create lives of there own, you must back off, don't initiate contact, if you stay gone long enough he may realize how important you are to him and he'll find his way back to you and then you can practice being his partner/lover and not his mother/doormat.
i was at a birthday party last weekend and i saw this dark chocolate dude who made my draw drop. i felt compelled to go up to him and introduce myself. the whole night, he followed me around the room and i followed him. we've been talking ever since. i looked up his chart and for the life of me, i dont see where the attraction is. its not in venus, mars, moon, sun. we have more squares than a chessboard.
i saw him leaving and i did something i thought id never do. i ran after him and walked him to his car. there was a desire to be next to him. i havent even smashed.
we talk and he is deep as hell. he has confessed some things to me about how he felt a spark when i hugged him. it must be his uranus and my uranus placements.
looking at his chart almost has me questioning for the first time, astrology of attraction. how can 2 people have the shittiest synastry but be so attracted to each other?
i saw him leaving and i did something i thought id never do. i ran after him and walked him to his car. there was a desire to be next to him. i havent even smashed.
we talk and he is deep as hell. he has confessed some things to me about how he felt a spark when i hugged him. it must be his uranus and my uranus placements.
looking at his chart almost has me questioning for the first time, astrology of attraction. how can 2 people have the shittiest synastry but be so attracted to each other?
*** perhaps UC or Anschutz are liable - corruption in the court??? Someone being protected?
It's the little things like that raise a red flag - I'd want to know why the info was "blacked out"
Why do I want to know? because no matter how much a nation can loathe James Holmes, James Holmes still
has a right to a fair trial - IF pertinent information that supports Holmes, is withheld, then Holmes
will represent another statistic in the crooked system. - When that happens it only confirms the
corruption I already know exists. - kind of an ugly reminder, if you will.
Mind you, I am NOT upholding Holmes' crime, but monitoring the system. IF the representatives of government
fail to constitutionally execute laws with strict adherence to the regulations and guidelines - then.....
the US Constitution is toilet paper used properly and flushed down the toilet.
It's the little things like that raise a red flag - I'd want to know why the info was "blacked out"
Why do I want to know? because no matter how much a nation can loathe James Holmes, James Holmes still
has a right to a fair trial - IF pertinent information that supports Holmes, is withheld, then Holmes
will represent another statistic in the crooked system. - When that happens it only confirms the
corruption I already know exists. - kind of an ugly reminder, if you will.
Mind you, I am NOT upholding Holmes' crime, but monitoring the system. IF the representatives of government
fail to constitutionally execute laws with strict adherence to the regulations and guidelines - then.....
the US Constitution is toilet paper used properly and flushed down the toilet.
Who was your most sensual partner?
Who gave it to you just the way you wanted it?
And why was it so satisfying?
Please give sun sign, Venus and mars if possible. Yours and theirs.
Most sensual would be current partner- Aries/Taurus/Leo
The way I wanted would be the ex- Aries/Aquarius/Libra
Some signs like to say love has nothing to do with sex but for me thats why both are satisfying in different ways.
Both aries but complete opposites...the ex it was like being addicted, we couldn't get enough of each other.
Cancer/Leo/Gemini
Who gave it to you just the way you wanted it?
And why was it so satisfying?
Please give sun sign, Venus and mars if possible. Yours and theirs.
Most sensual would be current partner- Aries/Taurus/Leo
The way I wanted would be the ex- Aries/Aquarius/Libra
Some signs like to say love has nothing to do with sex but for me thats why both are satisfying in different ways.
Both aries but complete opposites...the ex it was like being addicted, we couldn't get enough of each other.
Cancer/Leo/Gemini
Who knows how many people came to read this .... and probably never understood what it is saying. They probably thought that it's a thread to proclaim there is no god, no jesus ... because the mind is so closed that it can't see beyond the programme.
Only the closed mind is certain
Only the closed mind is certain
Where did our other thread go for practicing?? 
I think it was deleted. But you can practice here as well...