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some interesting experiences... anyone else?
I'm a scorpio male, and I think my reactions would also be shared by my scorpio friends.
Not the painful kind of shy, but the attentive, ready and willing kind of shy. lol Does that make any sense?
I find that quality very attractive when it's an expression of someone's true self. It's very rare that I see it, perhaps because as another user here pointed out, some people will try to exploit it. My boss for example (virgo male) is very abrupt, aggressive, and harsh with most everyone at my company. But it's a kind of defense mechanism, and not who he really is. My first day he tried to establish a kind of intimidation, but I was very relaxed with him from the beginning and I sincerely liked him. When it became clear to him that my enjoyment of his company was genuine, the sort of shyness you're talking about came out. Any time he comes by he's always very quiet and modest, very funny, and almost heartbreakingly childlike in our interactions. He's even reluctant to ask me to do things that he could probably handle himself if he weren't unusually busy. As he's talking to me he gets very nervous and shifts all around my office, and I have to reassure him that I certainly don't mind. Although if anyone else pops into my office while he's there, instantly the teeth come back out again. It's just how he protects that purer part of himself. But anyway believe me, that sort of shyness is irresitable to happy scorpios. But it has to come from a real and deeper part of you. It can't be faked. That part of people is also naturally mysterious and intriguing to any scorpio. As someone else pointed out above, mystery and intrigue are also important.
and yes... the sex. I'm just wondering what your hypothetical reactions might be
All of the scorpios I know, myself included, trust our feelings above all else. Above rules, above sense data, and certainly above popular opinion. If he felt the same connection you felt, then you have nothing to worry about. He'll chart the destination of your relationship to someplace beyond just sex, and he'll use those feelings as his guiding star. But I personally wouldn't push or force anything. All of the scorpios I know, myself included, prefer to let things happen naturally when it comes to any kind of relationship (even though we're the complete opposite in many other arenas). I know this probably seems overboard, but we're literally disgusted by any kind of interaction that seems even in the slightest bit fake or robotic, especially in ourselves.
Not the painful kind of shy, but the attentive, ready and willing kind of shy. lol Does that make any sense?
I find that quality very attractive when it's an expression of someone's true self. It's very rare that I see it, perhaps because as another user here pointed out, some people will try to exploit it. My boss for example (virgo male) is very abrupt, aggressive, and harsh with most everyone at my company. But it's a kind of defense mechanism, and not who he really is. My first day he tried to establish a kind of intimidation, but I was very relaxed with him from the beginning and I sincerely liked him. When it became clear to him that my enjoyment of his company was genuine, the sort of shyness you're talking about came out. Any time he comes by he's always very quiet and modest, very funny, and almost heartbreakingly childlike in our interactions. He's even reluctant to ask me to do things that he could probably handle himself if he weren't unusually busy. As he's talking to me he gets very nervous and shifts all around my office, and I have to reassure him that I certainly don't mind. Although if anyone else pops into my office while he's there, instantly the teeth come back out again. It's just how he protects that purer part of himself. But anyway believe me, that sort of shyness is irresitable to happy scorpios. But it has to come from a real and deeper part of you. It can't be faked. That part of people is also naturally mysterious and intriguing to any scorpio. As someone else pointed out above, mystery and intrigue are also important.
and yes... the sex. I'm just wondering what your hypothetical reactions might be
All of the scorpios I know, myself included, trust our feelings above all else. Above rules, above sense data, and certainly above popular opinion. If he felt the same connection you felt, then you have nothing to worry about. He'll chart the destination of your relationship to someplace beyond just sex, and he'll use those feelings as his guiding star. But I personally wouldn't push or force anything. All of the scorpios I know, myself included, prefer to let things happen naturally when it comes to any kind of relationship (even though we're the complete opposite in many other arenas). I know this probably seems overboard, but we're literally disgusted by any kind of interaction that seems even in the slightest bit fake or robotic, especially in ourselves.
I just found this site and message board tonight. I hope that writing here and asking for advice is not inappropriate. Any suggestions or input, especially from Taurus men, would be greatly appreciated. I'll try to make this brief. I met a Taurus male (bday April 21) on the yahoo personals this past December (he wrote to me). He let me know up front that his wife of 7 years had died suddenly in May and that he has three small children (which was fine with me even though I am 48 and my daughter is grown and married). We were anxious to meet and met that night. Things went very well and there seemed to be feelings of mutual admiration, however.....the problem now, three months later is that I have alot of feelings for him (I'm a Cancer, go figure) and he has made it clear that he is not ready to be in any kind of relationship yet. This is understandable since his wife only passed away 9 months ago. The problem ....he is more than willing to be intimate and have sex but no other "committment", really, even as far as dating goes. I adore him (and I think he knows it) and when we are together, things are great, but it is starting to get painful for me as I feel like I am waiting for him to "come around". I've read a few books on grieving men and widowers and seems the advice is to not even get involved with someone until it has been 1.5 to two years until the passing of their spouse. I know he is lonely and 'sexually frustrated' since his wife died, and of course, I am the ever-present Cancer rescuer and nurturer. Thanks for listening and again any help or advice would be great.
I have been to a few psychics. I find that the ones that mix their "gift" with a thorough knowledge of astrology (NOT PSYCHOLOGY) are by far the most accurate. You may find many psychics behaving more like a therapist than a true psychic.
If you should find one that can begin the reading without asking any questions and still be accurate...that is your best bet. Either way, who knows if there is any way at all to truly be able to tell you the future or what's going on around you right now. It's all in what you believe in and what you choose to live by.
Also, keshanb, I read another one of your posts regarding your moon sign and how that also affects your personality. Very good post. I didn't read all the way through the end, however. I can add to that by saying your rising has a lot to do with your personality and how others see you, too. Your Venus placement along with your partners Venus placement can tell alot about how you behave in a relationship and how compatible you are. Your Mercury, of course, will determine a lot about how you communicate. Anyway, I love this stuff, and I love this site. I have never posted here before, but I have read so many posts just getting to know the different beliefs, etc.
Thank you for your knowledge as well.
If you should find one that can begin the reading without asking any questions and still be accurate...that is your best bet. Either way, who knows if there is any way at all to truly be able to tell you the future or what's going on around you right now. It's all in what you believe in and what you choose to live by.
Also, keshanb, I read another one of your posts regarding your moon sign and how that also affects your personality. Very good post. I didn't read all the way through the end, however. I can add to that by saying your rising has a lot to do with your personality and how others see you, too. Your Venus placement along with your partners Venus placement can tell alot about how you behave in a relationship and how compatible you are. Your Mercury, of course, will determine a lot about how you communicate. Anyway, I love this stuff, and I love this site. I have never posted here before, but I have read so many posts just getting to know the different beliefs, etc.
Thank you for your knowledge as well.
I LOVE what you said about Scorpios, phoenix. So, so true. I have been with and live with a scorpio male for almost 4 yrs. I'm a cancer, but I couldn't have said it better myself.
Creepy, I would strongly advise against anything fake...or pushng anything at all. Just let it ride. The more you do, the better the response. Don't get me wrong, DO NOT be a push-over either. That is almost just as much of a turn off to them as being fake. They see it as a sign of weakness. Be independant, but not so much that your ignore. Give a little mystery for sure. It's a turn on, but not so much that it seems as though your hiding something. Your undivided attention will be much apprecaited. As will his freedom to be alone every now and then, too. They are very private when they want to be...so don't pry.
Creepy, I would strongly advise against anything fake...or pushng anything at all. Just let it ride. The more you do, the better the response. Don't get me wrong, DO NOT be a push-over either. That is almost just as much of a turn off to them as being fake. They see it as a sign of weakness. Be independant, but not so much that your ignore. Give a little mystery for sure. It's a turn on, but not so much that it seems as though your hiding something. Your undivided attention will be much apprecaited. As will his freedom to be alone every now and then, too. They are very private when they want to be...so don't pry.
Hey Veritas
I'm a Pisces who is dating a Pisces too. I've read some stuff that says we shouldn't be together because of the fact we can be a bit dreamy and even lazy sometimes and won't motivate each other enough which says to me that a single Pisces is pretty much a useless human being without motivation from other people. We all know that's not true, I guess it all depends on how grounded you can be and how motivated we keep our selves. At the end of the day if you want something to be successful you have to work at it. Don't buy too much into compatibility reports. Us fish are all so different to each other, I find you can never generalize.
I dated another Pisces not long ago and we never really connected so I was thinking it probably doesn't work but with my new girl.... We seem to have this deep almost spiritual connection. She blows my mind, we're both very driven in our careers but also have similar interests in the arts and the like. I can't see why it wouldn't work.
Go for it!!
I'm a Pisces who is dating a Pisces too. I've read some stuff that says we shouldn't be together because of the fact we can be a bit dreamy and even lazy sometimes and won't motivate each other enough which says to me that a single Pisces is pretty much a useless human being without motivation from other people. We all know that's not true, I guess it all depends on how grounded you can be and how motivated we keep our selves. At the end of the day if you want something to be successful you have to work at it. Don't buy too much into compatibility reports. Us fish are all so different to each other, I find you can never generalize.
I dated another Pisces not long ago and we never really connected so I was thinking it probably doesn't work but with my new girl.... We seem to have this deep almost spiritual connection. She blows my mind, we're both very driven in our careers but also have similar interests in the arts and the like. I can't see why it wouldn't work.
Go for it!!
Bavar Kon
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Bavar kon sedamo bavar kon
Sedaayi ke talkh o khastas
Bavar kon ghalbamo bavar kon
ghalbi ke koohe, ama shekastas
Bavar kon dastaamo bavar kon
Ke saagheye navaazeshe
Bavar kon cheshme mano bavar kon
Ke yek ghaside khaaheshe
Vasvaseye ashegh shodan
Eltehaabe lahzehaame
Hasrate faryaad kardane
Esme kasi ba sedaame
Esme to har esmi ke hast
Mesle ghazal che asheghaanas
Por vasvase mesle safar
Mesle ghorbat sadeghaanas
Bavar kon esmamo bavar kon
Man fasle baroone bargam
Matroode baagh o gol o shabnam
Derakhtam, derakhte khoshki too daste tagargam
Bavar kon hamishe bavar kon
Ke man be eshgh sadegham
Bavar kon harfe mano bavar kon
Ke man hamishe ashegham
Are you silly/goofy at times? More witty than silly or goofy. I'm not a fan of slap stick.
Do a lot people find you funny? Yes or atleast clever.
Do you consider yourself weird or unique? Unique
Has anyone else? I think
Are you a great person to talk to? I hope. People don't run atleast.
Do you lie a lot or was there one point of time in your life where you did? Never
Are you very friendly? Yes
Do you like to socialize? Yes, when in the mood. But I can be recluse otherwise.
Do you get along with Scorpios? My sibling is a Scorpio, and we had fights like no one else growing up, we can still go at it, but as mature adults we mostly love each other -- we're like best friends. Love to death (literally).
Can you be kinky at times? Yes
Has anyone ever called you naive? I call myself naive sometimes. I think it has to do with the fact that we idealize the world.
Are you very forgiving? Yes
Can you stay mad at someone for a long time? I generally cannot.
Do a lot people find you funny? Yes or atleast clever.
Do you consider yourself weird or unique? Unique
Has anyone else? I think
Are you a great person to talk to? I hope. People don't run atleast.
Do you lie a lot or was there one point of time in your life where you did? Never
Are you very friendly? Yes
Do you like to socialize? Yes, when in the mood. But I can be recluse otherwise.
Do you get along with Scorpios? My sibling is a Scorpio, and we had fights like no one else growing up, we can still go at it, but as mature adults we mostly love each other -- we're like best friends. Love to death (literally)
.Can you be kinky at times? Yes
Has anyone ever called you naive? I call myself naive sometimes. I think it has to do with the fact that we idealize the world.
Are you very forgiving? Yes
Can you stay mad at someone for a long time? I generally cannot.
i really like this topic and the input that you guys had. very interesting and very much appreciated. see, THIS is the passion i was talking about. lol.. u guys are tight. =]
my dad is an Aries and my mom is a Virgo, and their story is pretty similar to yours. they avoid each other and cause a lot of tension for their kids (my sister and me). however, there are different aspects to my story. so maybe by telling it to you, you could understand my background better before i start to give you any opinions or advice. i don't know if it would help, but it might just maybe get you to be more at ease.
anywhoo.. here goes:
there are only the four of us in my family. my parents, me, and my little sister. my sister is a middle schooler, so she's still young and still lives with them. she's an Aries too, btw. i'm actually pretty fond of Aries ppl.. lol. but anywhoo, back to the story. my parents are pretty strange. my dad only married my mom for her good looks, so there wasn't really much chemistry to begin with. they were pretty naive, but the same thing resulted. since i'm the only one in the family who is completely aware of the situation (they both complain about each other to me - isn't that horrible?), i'm the only one with a viewpoint that's at least fairer than most others. especially since i experienced it first-hand.
anyway, my story's kinda weird cuz i get along with my dad really well, but i DON'T get along with my mom AT ALL. my sister gets along with my mom a little bit better than i do, but still not as well as she should. i have NEVER fought with my dad, though, and HE was the one who cried when i went off to college - not my mom. isn't that weird?? most would predict that it to be the other way around, but nope, it didn't work out that way. my mom did cry on the phone some time after, but she was still not as beat up as my dad was.
but anyway, i grew up being really attached to my mom (like any child would be), and she was so smuggling and cruelly protective that i've always felt trapped and hurt. you know that song "Because of You" by Kelly Clarkson (a taurus)?? i can relate to it 100% , no joke. i swear, i felt like it was written just for me (i know i'm not the only one who felt that, but i would listen to it often to reflect about my childhood).
i still love her as a mother, but i don't love her as a person. maybe my sagittarian ascendant caused me to not get along with her as well, but my cancer moon still kept me attached to her in an intense and unhealthy way. (and when i say that i get attached, i get ATTACHED.) i would idolize her and spend time trying to make her smile. it would be fun and we would get along pretty well, but she would always just love me in a serious way, with no obvious affection. and she has mood swings that can just tear me apart like no other. she only worried about my health and tried to protect me by shielding me away from the world. she would never let me go out because she was afraid that my friends' parents would kill me, or that i would be kidnapped and raped. she sometimes doesn't even let me out when i'm in the supervision of my own relatives (she doesn't even trust that they would protect me well enough). i felt so empty inside, and i was too imprisoned to even reach out to anyone else. i know she did it out of caring, but i think that she cared more about her principles and beliefs than she did about me. i was scared and helpless and completely astonished. she thought that she was protecting me, when in reality, i was protecting myself from her. she did a lot of crazy things to me that i don't want to mention, because i might scare whoever's reading.. haha.
but yes.. my family has a crazy history. my parents were more like romeo & juliet, except for the fact that they didn't really die when young. instead, they got married, gave birth, and had their families continue to bicker about one another. the family feud really put a strain on my parents relationship, and it caused scars and wounds that still haven't yet healed. now, it seems as though they've given up. my dad avoids talking to my mom, an
anywhoo.. here goes:
there are only the four of us in my family. my parents, me, and my little sister. my sister is a middle schooler, so she's still young and still lives with them. she's an Aries too, btw. i'm actually pretty fond of Aries ppl.. lol. but anywhoo, back to the story. my parents are pretty strange. my dad only married my mom for her good looks, so there wasn't really much chemistry to begin with. they were pretty naive, but the same thing resulted. since i'm the only one in the family who is completely aware of the situation (they both complain about each other to me - isn't that horrible?), i'm the only one with a viewpoint that's at least fairer than most others. especially since i experienced it first-hand.
anyway, my story's kinda weird cuz i get along with my dad really well, but i DON'T get along with my mom AT ALL. my sister gets along with my mom a little bit better than i do, but still not as well as she should. i have NEVER fought with my dad, though, and HE was the one who cried when i went off to college - not my mom. isn't that weird?? most would predict that it to be the other way around, but nope, it didn't work out that way. my mom did cry on the phone some time after, but she was still not as beat up as my dad was.
but anyway, i grew up being really attached to my mom (like any child would be), and she was so smuggling and cruelly protective that i've always felt trapped and hurt. you know that song "Because of You" by Kelly Clarkson (a taurus)?? i can relate to it 100% , no joke. i swear, i felt like it was written just for me (i know i'm not the only one who felt that, but i would listen to it often to reflect about my childhood).
i still love her as a mother, but i don't love her as a person. maybe my sagittarian ascendant caused me to not get along with her as well, but my cancer moon still kept me attached to her in an intense and unhealthy way. (and when i say that i get attached, i get ATTACHED.) i would idolize her and spend time trying to make her smile. it would be fun and we would get along pretty well, but she would always just love me in a serious way, with no obvious affection. and she has mood swings that can just tear me apart like no other. she only worried about my health and tried to protect me by shielding me away from the world. she would never let me go out because she was afraid that my friends' parents would kill me, or that i would be kidnapped and raped. she sometimes doesn't even let me out when i'm in the supervision of my own relatives (she doesn't even trust that they would protect me well enough). i felt so empty inside, and i was too imprisoned to even reach out to anyone else. i know she did it out of caring, but i think that she cared more about her principles and beliefs than she did about me. i was scared and helpless and completely astonished. she thought that she was protecting me, when in reality, i was protecting myself from her. she did a lot of crazy things to me that i don't want to mention, because i might scare whoever's reading.. haha.
but yes.. my family has a crazy history. my parents were more like romeo & juliet, except for the fact that they didn't really die when young. instead, they got married, gave birth, and had their families continue to bicker about one another. the family feud really put a strain on my parents relationship, and it caused scars and wounds that still haven't yet healed. now, it seems as though they've given up. my dad avoids talking to my mom, an