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Nov 21, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 3537 · Topics: 116
missmorals- what are we going to call our book?
Ladies it amazes me sometimes to read what you are saying, please don't take this the wrong way but I know some things are easy said than done but you ladies who are still feeling bad because U are not with your Cappy or he has not called and you want him so bad etc...stop tripping it really is'nt that serious I myself is guilty of the same thing but me being who I am, my pride my ego,dignity, self respect etc. is what helped me to move on with my life...
Yes I still do think about like a milisecond, but not in a way of wanting to be with him. My last phone call to him was on Valentines day I told him how I felt and has not pick up the phone since and I don't plan on it..I know that man will alway have love for me I have seen it in his eyes but I never picked up on it until I read it on this board..I used to say to him why are you looking at me like that...and when I think back I remember him doing it twice and not saying anything he would just have this smirk on his face I would say quit it..LOL...little did I knew it was the look of love.
Also, as a women who is confident in herself, and knows that I am not the one with the issues. They have the issues and that is something they have to deal with not you or me or anyone else. We cannot help these type of men they have to help themselves...
Like the old saying goes:
"If you love some let him go, It it comes back then it will mean so much more and if it don't at least you will know it was something you had to go through to grow"
I will date a cappy and I have went out with one the other week and I just look at him and think to myself, He don't have a chance in hell he will except my friendship on my terms and my terms only nothing more or nothing less.
We as women need to stand a little taller, be a little wiser, and gain a lot more strength to deal with men any man. Because men find weakness in us and will used it to their advantage and then we wonder why we got hurt.
We need to speak what's on our minds and have confidence doing it regardless of the outcome..So what if he leaves you because you told him how you feel or what you are not going to deal with etc.
Ask yourself does that make you less of a women because you are not with him? NO
Do I need a man in my life to feel complete? NO
I don't know about yall but I don't have a problem getting a man, I have a lot of confidence in myself as a women and no man is gonig to strip me of anything.
I often think back to how when I was in my 20's and 30's how I used to be all about dating guys and hanging out playing the game, being a playette etc...but then as I got older that got boring and I no longer want to play those games of lies and deceit.
I don't have time for the drama of not only from a Capricorn but men in general. I have not slept with another man since seperating from this Cappy and I don't plan on doing it.
Why? you ask well like I said before when men and women especially women end a realtionship you really need time to heal and regain your composure because losing someone you love can be a very hurt feelings but to jump from the frying pan to the oven is even more painful because you never took the time to heal yourself.
Yes I still date but I look at men different know, I don't have anything to prove anymore I am in no rush to tell a man how I feel anymore I refuse to put more effort in any friendship or relationship without receiving it in return. And I can think my ex cappy for that it is not anomosity that I am feeling it was a wake up call I found a weakness about myself that I need to make strong.
And like missmorals said we as scorpions we get knocked down and we get right back up and I believe we do that because of our pride. Never ever let them see you sweat...a true sign of weakness to me.
Again, I
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Jul 07, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 2180 · Topics: 8
i tried to stay away for a week and failed gloriously! hehe. didn't log on to dxp for over a week actually. but that was cheating because i was still on the website to see what's going on every now and then. just didn't log on and post. was a good experience, still...
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Feb 16, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 15214 · Topics: 99
Its classic scorpio response!..lol..me lovin it lovin it lovin it...
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Jul 07, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 2180 · Topics: 8
it's snowing like in siberia over here. it's been like that for almost a week. it's a beautiful site, i just wished it would snow in the winter, not in bloody march. right now i want spring!!!
yep...i agree, and isn't that pathetic? they screw themselves with their stoic silent behavior
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Mar 08, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 1633 · Topics: 53
I am suprised at the wit of a scorpio.. it's very appealing.. Like i said, i haven't had many dealings with them.. This really is my first... ANd i can't get enough of him.... but i think i need help.. LOL
i agree with you , i think it just pisses me off so much when i keep hearing/reading about all of us who wait and wait and be patient etc etc as if we are, as I said, toys on the shelf, it makes me angry at myself for all my past behavior...I'm glad for those that it's worked out for, there were times I thought it was working out for me also, ie: when he would all of a sudden get scared he was losing me for good and then come running and yes...THAT INTENSE LOOK.. and everything would be soooooooooooooooo good, but then....... the inevitable run away cause it's too damn good and he just couldn't handle that, he admitted that to me once... but i've said it so many times, it's masochistic for me to play those games