Going Dutch
@Dazed:
Its almost a lose/lose. In my experience if you say Dutch from the get go, moaning and knashing of the teeth ensues.
Its almost a lose/lose. In my experience if you say Dutch from the get go, moaning and knashing of the teeth ensues.
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Posted by R1g0rM0rT1sPosted by neuroticvirgo
Not sure how I ended up in the Scorpio forum; but I will say that I agree with what you're saying here. The reality (to me) is a man is going to leave or commit to you if he wants to and when you have sex with him will do little to sway that. I approach like this: I'm having sex because I want to have sex (you didn't Jedi mind trick me into it) so if you never call again then I'll take the emotional hit and keep it moving.
But I find a lot of views on DXP (not necessarily Tikis) to be a bit black & white.
my virgo ascendent drew you here
i guess the key thing is that whether they think you're a slapper or not is of no relevance if you had sex with them cos YOU wanted to. some of the best sex i've ever had has been one night only...no pining...no texting/emailing/facebooking...nada. i got what i wanted. if you want more? well that depends on if i do! if you don't, thanks for the memoryclick to expand
...And my scorpio ascendant is making me stay! lol The guy I'm with now while we talked over the phone 1st for a few weeks we had sex on our 1st date. We both new it was going to happen there was just no stopping us. I left that evening and told myself "Ok I'll never hear from him again." And I was ok with that; I WANTED to have sex with him! I resigned myself to never call him again. But he called me and talked to me all the way home, then called the next day to wish me a good morning and so on. If it weren't for his initiation he would've just been some dude I slept with. It may not be pretty but it's honest. So there is NO magic formula. I think its all about the energy you give off when you have sex with a guy too soon. If you seem needy and desperate for it to be more than sex then you probably appear unattractive to the guy...Hence he is a ghost...
@ nikki, No, I haven't slept with him & I have no intentions of sleeping with anyone before marriage. I made that very clear to him. He says the same thing, but then all guys say it, how many actually believe in it ?
@ aanchalp, I did get v upset last time & i messaged him " i am worried that you don't respond back to my text or vm's. If your not interested then pls let me know i will not text you or vm you any more. " to which he replied " Don't say like that I just wanted to go home and have dinner & rest after a long day & i hardly get to do that " that was the response for that day. No response for the other days when i text-ed him. I do not have his time of birth or even a vague idea about the time. Do you think i can still pull up his charts ? i just have his date of birth & place. do you have the link that will help me obtain his charts ?
the thing is i don't want to be someone's Sunday gf. If he is not interested i think i will just walk away, but i need to know whats in his mind. My intuitions says something is not right, but i can't figure out what ?
@ aanchalp, I did get v upset last time & i messaged him " i am worried that you don't respond back to my text or vm's. If your not interested then pls let me know i will not text you or vm you any more. " to which he replied " Don't say like that I just wanted to go home and have dinner & rest after a long day & i hardly get to do that " that was the response for that day. No response for the other days when i text-ed him. I do not have his time of birth or even a vague idea about the time. Do you think i can still pull up his charts ? i just have his date of birth & place. do you have the link that will help me obtain his charts ?
the thing is i don't want to be someone's Sunday gf. If he is not interested i think i will just walk away, but i need to know whats in his mind. My intuitions says something is not right, but i can't figure out what ?
Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I think both points of view represented I this thread is valid... And yes women should not feel bad in the least bit about who, when, and how they have sex... long as it isn't related to wanting to be LIKE a man but more for what you desire logically, emotionally, w/e.... Will it mean you won't start developing emotionally attachment ehhh lie to yourself all you want I think it does.
i only start to develop feelings if there's a second time cos that's why i wanna go again.
It saddened me deeply, another hero and bright star has left us.
My deep condolences to his family and to the people who believed in him, May rest in peace Mr. Chavez and God speed where ever you are.
May we hear soon these coward bastards and humanities shame Natanyahoo/bush/cheney/jewliani and the rest of the gang hit the HELLFIRE soon instead, so the world gets even.
My deep condolences to his family and to the people who believed in him, May rest in peace Mr. Chavez and God speed where ever you are.
May we hear soon these coward bastards and humanities shame Natanyahoo/bush/cheney/jewliani and the rest of the gang hit the HELLFIRE soon instead, so the world gets even.
Oh and for the record I hadn't had sex in over a year when I met him. But as soon as I met him I KNEW I had to have him! Just because you don't make CERTAIN guys wait doesn't mean ALL guys get to ride the train! Some people are just exceptions to the rule. Delicious, kinky, dirty, awesome exceptions to the rule...mmmmmmmmmmmm
i still think you can have 'feelings' for someone and remain emotionally detached. well i can anyway. i do it for self-preservation. it comes across as being quite closed and emotionally selfish though....all take and no give which really isn't my intention. i just don't know how to give i guess 
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1sPosted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I think both points of view represented I this thread is valid... And yes women should not feel bad in the least bit about who, when, and how they have sex... long as it isn't related to wanting to be LIKE a man but more for what you desire logically, emotionally, w/e.... Will it mean you won't start developing emotionally attachment ehhh lie to yourself all you want I think it does.
i only start to develop feelings if there's a second time cos that's why i wanna go again.click to expand
I agree with this! First one's free; if I come back again then emotions are probably coming with me...lol
Posted by lisabethur8
Aww taurusbelle,thats a moving and sad story....its funny how our family moulds us all.
Yes...it especially hurts to feel disappointed in someone whose Physical features I closely resemble..
But!! all the more motivation to make more "MONEY-MONEY-MONEY-MONEY....MOOOONEYY!!!"
i have mentioned this before but my aries friend butt fucked his wife on their first date LOL. she was on her period. i remember him telling us all at the pub the following day. still happily married 10 years on. extreme example perhaps but just goes to show!!
Posted by tizianiPosted by neuroticvirgo
Oh and for the record I hadn't had sex in over a year when I met him. But as soon as I met him I KNEW I had to have him! Just because you don't make CERTAIN guys wait doesn't mean ALL guys get to ride the train! Some people are just exceptions to the rule. Delicious, kinky, dirty, awesome exceptions to the rule...mmmmmmmmmmmm
Is this the guy where you're both in love with each other right now?click to expand
That is correct! My super awesome bull who surprised me today by coming home early from a business trip and showing up at my door with treats looking all sorts of tasty! Delicious, kinky, dirty, magnetic, animalistic tastiness....mmmmmmmmm flashbacks!