Going Dutch
I expect the man to pay in the beginning, if he asks me out, then he is paying. Exception is if I ask him to go somewhere as my date, like a dinner party, concert, or something then I will absolutely pay because I asked. I am not going to ask him out for dinner, even if I am interested in him, unless it's some kind of event where I will need a date.
If I let the man pay, in the initial stages, it is because I don't like him and I don't want him to think it's a date, and/or I do not want to be beholden to him. In my experience, most men will still try and pay the bill. If it's a first/last date, I will let him if he insists. If it is someone I think of as a friend and would like to have a friendship with, I don't let him pay.
I just think it is more feminine to let the men do the asking and the paying on the dates in the beginning, for the same reason I will let him open the door for me and lend me a jacket, though I am quite capable of doing it myself, I don't want to give off the vibe that I am too independent or will try to wear the pants in the relationship.
I do make it up in other ways, I will suggest he come over for dinner instead and I will cook after a few dates, when I feel comfortable.
Once we are in an established exclusive relationship, then we take turns paying for things.
If I let the man pay, in the initial stages, it is because I don't like him and I don't want him to think it's a date, and/or I do not want to be beholden to him. In my experience, most men will still try and pay the bill. If it's a first/last date, I will let him if he insists. If it is someone I think of as a friend and would like to have a friendship with, I don't let him pay.
I just think it is more feminine to let the men do the asking and the paying on the dates in the beginning, for the same reason I will let him open the door for me and lend me a jacket, though I am quite capable of doing it myself, I don't want to give off the vibe that I am too independent or will try to wear the pants in the relationship.
I do make it up in other ways, I will suggest he come over for dinner instead and I will cook after a few dates, when I feel comfortable.
Once we are in an established exclusive relationship, then we take turns paying for things.
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MoodyVulcan, that's a GREAT idea! Haha I'm totally going to bookmark some good drag fashion sites. 
Or maybe find a store to wander into...they'll wonder why I look so "passable".
Or maybe find a store to wander into...they'll wonder why I look so "passable".
Intersesting I wonder how this is going to pan out with my lady of interest.
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My favourite part is the ....boob....teeth?
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Posted by Virggy
This is hilarious! I wouldn't mind it for a first date. I'd probably just laugh about it. As long as it doesn't become a habit. If it happens more often than not then the guy is probably cheap as hell. And I don't get down with that.
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To me, it's not about being cheap. To me, it says, "You're totally not worth spending even a normal amount on dinner for."
It's pretty insulting.
Hi, so this is my first post and I know there are a lot of forums asking how taurus boys act when they like someone. However, I wanted to clear any ambiguities directly. 
So here is my situation:
I see Mr. Taurus about at most three times a week for class. And I must say he's extremely intelligent. Recently, I have been noticing that he has been staring and whenever he has a chance, he likes to turn his body around to the desk behind him whenever I am the one sitting there and touch my possessions. In addition, Mr. Taurus absolutely loves it when I tie up my hair in a ponytail and I know this because whenever it's tied up, he cannot resist touching it. And well as a Taurus, he is very touchy. I don't know if this is intentional or not, but he seems to brush or bump into my a lot. To address the staring even more, I have to say that when he does stare at me he is not usually smiling. I have considered maybe it is not that he likes me but more that he does not like me. LOL. I don't know why, but I feel so awkward when he just stares at me silently and so I kind of just smile and look away. I have also heard that Tauruses like routine. He has told me before that I am very unpredictable and as he puts it, he never knows what I am going to do next (Cancer trait). Also, when I am talking to another friend, I realize that he cuts whatever he is doing short and listens to what I am currently saying at the time. However, this is not for certain; it's just the feeling someone has when he or she feels like someone else is listening. I also want to add that today he told me to scoot over so we can share the seat. But feeling nervous and awkward like how I always do, I kept inching away from him and he inched towards me. I might be reading into this too much. Like maybe, I just gave him really little room. I'm not sure. Haha. If anyone could anaylze his actions for me, that would be great. I would really like to know, because I do like him and would love to be able to read/understand his reactions/ actions better as a friend. Thank you!
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Ah Taurus men make me weak
Ahhh one of those. Hahaha the visual suited it perfectly! Hahaha!