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Posted by BadGalVirgo
" Your So Amazing"
It's you're, not your
Signed Up: Nov 17, 2012
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Posted by ScorpioFemale79Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Ahh it only appears as in inconsistency Im afraid. :/
Well their are exceptions but anyone who has stepped through the ranks to a leadership like his has shown consistency somewhere to someone...
Unless the inconsistency you refer to is his signs of interest in you?
Your assuming he's interested. He may very well not be. Although Aquarius hides feelings ... If they want to be around you they will. But it's like some days he's all in my business mumbling something sheepishly and other days its like I'm the only one he doesn't acknowledge so I socialize with others and he gets all pissy
I just don't get it and what makes it tougher us he never tells you anything. Or you find out 6 months laterclick to expand
Well I meant he is inconsistent with showing signs that he is in fact interested in you.
If he gets pissy because you don't show him attention lol... I would say he is but what do I know I'm not there.
I think from what I gather... he tries in his own way to show he is interested in you but you never seem to show it back in a way that let's him know you are as well. And since neither of you have openly expressed how you feel it will always be left out their like this big mystery until someone bites the bullet. When you think your showing your interest in him...maybe he doesn't always get it and when he is showing it to you .. maybe you don't always get it I guess. I know if I was into someone but I didn't know if they were into me and I have shown interest but not felt I have had that interest directly reciprocated or am unsure them; I would make an effort to not be all up in their shit at times and avoid them to not seem clingy and weird. I do that a lot actually... so... maybe he is too. But he's not me.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79Posted by GalynPosted by ScorpioFemale79
Be honest but not all emotional
They hate that
Kind of true, if I'm not interested in the person, I just feel soooo bad when that person is all emotional about their feelings and I feel awkward and I don't know what to do. Stating something blandly, without being too emotional about it, might be better. But if I AM interested, then I don't mind it at all.
So your level of interest dictates how you handle someone's emotional behavior I.e cryingclick to expand
Yes and no. If it's a friend, I'll be their shoulder to cry on anytime. I don't mind that they're emotional with me, because the reason they come to me is exactly that: they want someone who's pragmatic about it all, not emotional, and who will give them a honest and logical opinion. They want someone who will be strong and not cry along but who will hold them.
But let me imagine how I would react if I was an aqua guy and not a woman, and a girl comes to me and tells me she likes me a lot and all that. First, if I'm not interested in her, I'll probably know it already. Because I observe people a lot, and I love to solve people like they're puzzles. So unless we're reeeeally not that close and I have no idea who the fu*k you are and why the hell you would like me, I'll know it already. Which means I'll have given some thinking to how to handle this situation. And I'll probably try to explain to you that I like you as a friend but nothing more: very clich?, but for an aqua, it's actually true. We really like keeping good relationships with people, staying friends, etc.
Then what if you start crying? That's when I'll become all awkward. I won't know what to do, because how do you HUG someone you just said you weren't interested in, and at the same time you can't just let someone cry in front of you and be all insensitive about it! Chances are, I'd be completely lost and might look unemotional or sthg to the person.
How about if I AM interested? Well then it might be a surprise to me, but a good one obviously. Because if I like you, I'll always try to undermine the 'signs' that I see in fear of rejection, so even if I observe you as well, I'll just think "nope, doesn't mean anything, stop
"nope, doesn't mean anything, stop dreaming". Then other factors might come in here, like what if I'm unavailable and even though I like you for some reason it can't work, etc. Then if there's emotional stuff I'll probably handle it better anyway.
Hope it makes sense and helps a bit
Hope it makes sense and helps a bit
I would say Taurus man -Aries woman
Year of the metal horse,
Month of the earth rat,
Day of the wood dog,
Hour of the snake.
Can someone explain how these modify each other? I especially want to know about year of the horse and month of the rat combination.Thanks
Month of the earth rat,
Day of the wood dog,
Hour of the snake.
Can someone explain how these modify each other? I especially want to know about year of the horse and month of the rat combination.Thanks
Posted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by LostinmyMind11
Hi VV
Glad you are back...hopefully for a little while at least
Hi LIMM!
Nice to see you're still around. How's it doing???
How's the crabcake? Haven't filled that big pot with water, dashed in some beer, and turned that knob to the right yet have ya?click to expand
Even if I wanted to leave...dxp would suck me back in...so I figure its best not to even fight it lol
Hahaha nope....that ship has sailed with me and the crab. We still hang out a lot but nahhh it just never was/is going anywhere...so I gave up and now hes friend zoned lol.
Sounds like you've been busy on the career front...good for you! hope all is well and stick around for a while ..would ya?! Now all we need is CLC and virgo world would be complete again
Posted by sm
I was with my ex for 7 years. I didn't really love her when it came down to it and I have thought about it. I was infatuated with her and used sex to hook us both together. Sex was the main thing in the entanglement/relationship. When the sex went, so did the relationship. I don't think I loved her until the end of the relationship, if that makes sense?
Can you tell stories of exes that you really didn't love?
with her for 7 years & you didnt love her ?. ... you wouldnt stay with someone for THAT long if you didnt love that person. i mean sex is an important aspect in a relationship, but you wouldnt say there were some other internal issues that caused you to fall apart ?
I dated a this guy for a year 1/2. sex was whatever.. it had its moments, we didnt have much in common. he was a negative person with very few positive attributes. this is a relationship i wish i never would have entered in but in the end i learned a lot from it. He was very manipulative and though i was with him for a while, deep down i didnt want to be with him. he literally did NOTHING for me. in the end i realized i stayed with him because i felt sorry for him in a sense & i wanted to "fix" him to be a better man, but that, my friend, is clearly impossible. this relationship was 2 years ago & that asshole is still the pathetic loser he was back then !
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hi. i'll try my best to keep this precise (with only the necessary info) and to the point.
basically what happened was
i disappointed him deeply and he lost all his respect for me.
he is angry at me for how quickly i bailed out of my marriage.
i caused the divorce to happen. it was my fault entirely. i hurt so many people (mostly my wife and her side of the family cuz they always treated me like i was their actual son since i was a kid). all i could do at the time was apologize but i know that no amount of apology will ever be enough for putting their beloved daughter through so much distress.
i take full responsibility for what i did. theres no excuse.
(for those of you who may be wondering, no, i did not cheat. never even came close.)
i just couldn't bear to be married no more. felt too many restrictions and felt extremely lonely despite being married.
i tried to be a good husband. we both worked the same amount of hours but i did most of the chores around the house(cooking, cleaning, laundry, bills all that shit ). i tried to give her everything she wanted in terms of material things and we both tried hard to meet each other's emotional needs but sometimes there were miscommunications between us.
after awhile it felt like we were just two kids trying to act tough like grownups and playing house.
.....so anyway back to my brother...(sorry my brain is so disorganized)
it's been 2 months since he stopped talking to me (we dont live together. he's only 15 going on 16 this year so he lives back home with our dad and i live like half an hour away).
he used to call and text me almost every day but he stopped.
in the 22 years that ive been alive i've tried my very best to be a good role model for my two younger brothers but him (the gem bro that i want to reconcile with) and I were especially close and he would always tell me that he looked up to me. he told me he never got into trouble in or out of school cuz i always made sure i stayed out of trouble, he told me he never smoked a cig or touched a drug cuz i never touched any of those and i would always talk to him about saying no to drugs and rising above peer pressure and all that. he also never abused his body by sleeping around and shit cuz i told him time and time again to treat his body with honor and respect. i never slept around either cuz it woulda made our dad cry due to the shame.
basically what happened was
i disappointed him deeply and he lost all his respect for me.
he is angry at me for how quickly i bailed out of my marriage.
i caused the divorce to happen. it was my fault entirely. i hurt so many people (mostly my wife and her side of the family cuz they always treated me like i was their actual son since i was a kid). all i could do at the time was apologize but i know that no amount of apology will ever be enough for putting their beloved daughter through so much distress.
i take full responsibility for what i did. theres no excuse.
(for those of you who may be wondering, no, i did not cheat. never even came close.)
i just couldn't bear to be married no more. felt too many restrictions and felt extremely lonely despite being married.
i tried to be a good husband. we both worked the same amount of hours but i did most of the chores around the house(cooking, cleaning, laundry, bills all that shit ). i tried to give her everything she wanted in terms of material things and we both tried hard to meet each other's emotional needs but sometimes there were miscommunications between us.
after awhile it felt like we were just two kids trying to act tough like grownups and playing house.
.....so anyway back to my brother...(sorry my brain is so disorganized)
it's been 2 months since he stopped talking to me (we dont live together. he's only 15 going on 16 this year so he lives back home with our dad and i live like half an hour away).
he used to call and text me almost every day but he stopped.
in the 22 years that ive been alive i've tried my very best to be a good role model for my two younger brothers but him (the gem bro that i want to reconcile with) and I were especially close and he would always tell me that he looked up to me. he told me he never got into trouble in or out of school cuz i always made sure i stayed out of trouble, he told me he never smoked a cig or touched a drug cuz i never touched any of those and i would always talk to him about saying no to drugs and rising above peer pressure and all that. he also never abused his body by sleeping around and shit cuz i told him time and time again to treat his body with honor and respect. i never slept around either cuz it woulda made our dad cry due to the shame.