Your reaction to....
* He lied to me over the past months to protect our relationship because he thought it was the right thing to do. I let it all go because I know he didn't mean to lie. He did it as defense mechanism.
* He said he was sorry about his actions many times after I got mad at him for messing up and explained rationally what he did. I know he meant every single one of his apologies.
* The one time I told him I had enough of his actions and wanted to end it, he freaked out and had a mental breakdown. I told him that I was ready to move on and forget it all, if he changed and he did.
* When he lied about something big and caused a lot of damage to our relationship, he said that he did it because he didn't know it would hurt me. He basically told me I was a lot more than a friend to him and that we would evolve into a couple, which I loved because we both believe being in love with your best friend is the best that can happen, but instead he started a fiery relationship with another girl and lied to me about her for a long time. While still keeping me in his life as a close to a couple friendship type a deal.
*When he wants to do something I always say yes because I know he hates rejection. And when I'm the one who calls him to hangout and initiate it, it's a no 90% of the time. But he does ask me to hangout everyday and all the time. So he does wanna hangout with me.
*We talked about going camping, and for two weeks I planned it all, made a reservation and the morning we woke up to go, he had changed his mind and said he wanted to go shopping instead. So I had to call and cancel which pissed me off and made me mad. He knows it.
*He said we would hangout more if I got a Xbox. I got an Xbox and he ditched me for his bestfriend because I'm not as good as a gamer as he is.
I'd just say to him I am emotionally drained by all the negativity he's bringing into the relationship like he's testing my patience or how understanding I am with him. That I love my relationship with him and don't want to lose him and appreciate all the efforts he's doing, but that it's starting to take a toll on me. I'd tell him that I love how fun we are together, but I'd also ask. How am I suppose to bring the fun in our relationship if you reject it every time I try to initiate it.
Like the camping thing, or the Xbox. That his lies are making me wonder if he's gonna lie again.
That's what I'd tell him. Short and sweet and direct to the point.
* He said he was sorry about his actions many times after I got mad at him for messing up and explained rationally what he did. I know he meant every single one of his apologies.
* The one time I told him I had enough of his actions and wanted to end it, he freaked out and had a mental breakdown. I told him that I was ready to move on and forget it all, if he changed and he did.
* When he lied about something big and caused a lot of damage to our relationship, he said that he did it because he didn't know it would hurt me. He basically told me I was a lot more than a friend to him and that we would evolve into a couple, which I loved because we both believe being in love with your best friend is the best that can happen, but instead he started a fiery relationship with another girl and lied to me about her for a long time. While still keeping me in his life as a close to a couple friendship type a deal.
*When he wants to do something I always say yes because I know he hates rejection. And when I'm the one who calls him to hangout and initiate it, it's a no 90% of the time. But he does ask me to hangout everyday and all the time. So he does wanna hangout with me.
*We talked about going camping, and for two weeks I planned it all, made a reservation and the morning we woke up to go, he had changed his mind and said he wanted to go shopping instead. So I had to call and cancel which pissed me off and made me mad. He knows it.
*He said we would hangout more if I got a Xbox. I got an Xbox and he ditched me for his bestfriend because I'm not as good as a gamer as he is.
I'd just say to him I am emotionally drained by all the negativity he's bringing into the relationship like he's testing my patience or how understanding I am with him. That I love my relationship with him and don't want to lose him and appreciate all the efforts he's doing, but that it's starting to take a toll on me. I'd tell him that I love how fun we are together, but I'd also ask. How am I suppose to bring the fun in our relationship if you reject it every time I try to initiate it.
Like the camping thing, or the Xbox. That his lies are making me wonder if he's gonna lie again.
That's what I'd tell him. Short and sweet and direct to the point.
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Recognizing:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder
-Symptoms of this disorder, as defined by the DSM-IV-TR include
1]
-Reacting to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation
-Taking advantage of others to reach own goals
-Exaggerating own importance, achievements, and talents
-Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance
-Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others
-Becoming jealous easily
-Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others
-Being obsessed with self
-Pursuing mainly selfish goals
-Trouble keeping healthy relationships
-Becoming easily hurt and rejected
-Setting goals that are unrealistic
-Wanting "the best" of everything
-Appearing unemotional
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder
-Symptoms of this disorder, as defined by the DSM-IV-TR include
1]-Reacting to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation
-Taking advantage of others to reach own goals
-Exaggerating own importance, achievements, and talents
-Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance
-Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others
-Becoming jealous easily
-Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others
-Being obsessed with self
-Pursuing mainly selfish goals
-Trouble keeping healthy relationships
-Becoming easily hurt and rejected
-Setting goals that are unrealistic
-Wanting "the best" of everything
-Appearing unemotional
I'm taking a little break from men right now lol
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Being alone is not too bad lol
My ex-hubby was a total handful so I'm rather enjoying the peace lol
My ex-hubby was a total handful so I'm rather enjoying the peace lol
Ascendant: leo
Sun: gemini
Moon: capricorn
Mercury: gemini
Venus: gemini
Mars: virgo
Jupiter: saggitarius
Saturn: pisces
Uranus: capricon
Neptune: capricprn
Pluto: scorpio
Sun: gemini
Moon: capricorn
Mercury: gemini
Venus: gemini
Mars: virgo
Jupiter: saggitarius
Saturn: pisces
Uranus: capricon
Neptune: capricprn
Pluto: scorpio
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Posted by imkatherinehannah
What does it mean when a Gemini start acting weird?
We got in a big fight last night and today he was acting heretic and not his usual self.
He's needier than normal and decided to go drive around town. He's been driving for 6 hours now looking for presents for me. When I text him, all I get are short answers but before leaving the house he left me a message about wanting to call me but didn't and being needier than normal.
What's going on with him?
Wait...so he's been out there for 6 hours looking for a present to bring home to you
and you're not happy? lol
What was the fight about?
Posted by msmarilynmanson
love it. i like to sit on a guys face and ride.
Now you're talking my language!
Forget about the 69, I don't want to be distracted by recieving any other type of pleasure than having you grinding your pussy against my face. Throw in a little breath-control as well, and you got yourself a date ;P
these are all the "NEGATIVES" aren't they?
sounds all unevolved types. Reading the scorpio man types, *shakes head* Sounds like Power-tripping too much.
Jesus, the Leo man and woman...."Browbeat their lover?"
shakes head. well it's good for a Laugh.
sounds all unevolved types. Reading the scorpio man types, *shakes head* Sounds like Power-tripping too much.
Jesus, the Leo man and woman...."Browbeat their lover?"
shakes head. well it's good for a Laugh.
Posted by aquasnoz
god so many mistakes... take 2
Posted by Sag89
I have great/social boundaries. I hardly get the same respect back.
Like I don't walk into your fridge and eat your food. I don't snoop thru your shit. I don't steal your moms number and than call her. I clean up after myself ( and even u ). I don't add your bf on fb. I don't flirt with people you like. I don't get drunk and embarrass you in public. I don't make myself at home without your permission. I don't do things without asking first. I try and always think " would that make me comfortable? " and if the answer is NO I don't do it.
Yet somehow people who walk all over ppl and their shit get more respect than me? Whatever. The world is fucked today and manners are mostly no existent. So I mean good luck to us who think of other ppl rationally.
Yeah it's kinda weird I use to know someone like this. Was a mutual friend and she had a go at me for posting something on facebook that she saw off my friend's page. Said something about how she was just being very blunt and honest because she wanted to help me realise the truth!
No time for those people. Said it right back to her "Well you can respectfully fuck off because that's my blunt opinion of you".click to expand
what?