advice please !
@capmusicc lol feels good to know im not the only one. sometimes it gets awkward with my friends cuz I listen to old school music sometimes & they have no idea what im listening to. I always say I should've been an 80s baby lol but I love the 90s
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Posted by Flavia
I'm not a Pisces, but I have a Pisces mom. The above posts gave you great advice, I am just adding another child of a Pisces point of view. Here is a perspective:
My mom and I reconnected after years of her not being able to communicate with me: we 'talked' but it was not a good connection. Most of the time if I had an issue I just didn't tell her or anyone else because of the disconnection there. Once my dad died she told me how much she loves and supports me. She is not clingy, just lonely and vunerable. All I can do at this age an junction is support her.
She is a good hearted person over all. Those moments when I wish my mom would have been there can not be regained. In her words "everything is how it is supposed to be", but if as a daughter I can regret anything it would be not trying harder to have her there for me.
Do what you can to support her and have her included in aspects of your life. If it gets too repetitive,listen anyway. Sometimes people are not as strong as you think they should be and you may be their only friend, even if you are their child; or the only people she feels comfortable sharing her frustations.
Thank you for the good advice. And, I do invite her out, I cook for her. I buy her things and I do listen to her as I stated in my last post. And, honestly I try my very VERY best to keep all of this inside because I know she needs me. So, don't ever EVER in your life call me selfish. Because, you don't know me. (Sorry if that was rude). I remember when my sister died when I was six, my father didn't hold her at night or early in the morning when she cried, it was me! I was the one that bathed her because she was too sad to do it for herself. I have helped her take care of my sister since I was 9 years old, when she was still married to my father. I would wake up at five oclock, every morning got my self dressed made my sister a bottle, changed her diaper, and put her clothes on. Then I would lay my mothers clothes out for her, and woke her up. Every morning! For years! Even now I jet home from school to
pick my sister up from school. I help her with home work, I run around for my mother when she can't. And I still try to keep a sMile on my face when she is bugging me, why? BecausE I know she needs it.
I also just this past winter, helped my mother recover from major surgery. I was the one who showered her. Lit
And when she says - bet you say that to all the girls"That shows ,she is still in defense mode from the last relationship.She's waiting to see if you are going to cheat on her.If the ex didn't get what he wanted,may be the way you are aproaching her,may be what he used to say to her or maybe it was your tone.This is why you two need to spend more time together,just getting to know each other.-When you told her that you don't show up at just any woman's house and deliver...-she doesn't have a sense or whether this is true or not,she doesn't know you.If seems you're like let's hurry into a relationship and she's like-you REALLY want to date me???She may want to,but she doesn't sound ready.Then you think,well,if she's isn't up to speed in 48 hrs,you're out.She's waiting to see if you are going...The best time to communicate is when you are both relaxed and have time to discover each other.You haven't even given her time to enact,what type of communication you need from her.You need to give her space,she isn't going anywhere.Trust her that she won't and she'll grow to understand what you need.Yes,this is a form of clinging.
Now,I totally get why she wants her friends to meet you,she's wondering how did things move along so fast..It's sounds like you are just begining to develope trust -you have to trust that she won't disappear for long periods and she has to trust you'll say what you'll do-the hesitating of excepting a date as an example.
Right there -you have ramped up the stakes enough to make her pause-you skipped the seeing each other stage,and went straight to dating.You have skipped the stages of flowing into more intimacy- the steps of experiences that bond you together.you're like BAM!This-BAM!-freaks a Virgal out.Dude chill.Your thoughts?
Now,I totally get why she wants her friends to meet you,she's wondering how did things move along so fast..It's sounds like you are just begining to develope trust -you have to trust that she won't disappear for long periods and she has to trust you'll say what you'll do-the hesitating of excepting a date as an example.
Right there -you have ramped up the stakes enough to make her pause-you skipped the seeing each other stage,and went straight to dating.You have skipped the stages of flowing into more intimacy- the steps of experiences that bond you together.you're like BAM!This-BAM!-freaks a Virgal out.Dude chill.Your thoughts?
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Literally fed her. Helped her walk around while she gripped my arm for support. I have been there and will continue to be there for her. "But, my mother is draining me. I am 19, a young adult. I can not take it anymore."- that was and is my entire point.
Your advice was great. Don't get me wrong. Thank You.
Word of advice: When you are talking to a Taurus {Bull} when they are emotional, try not to say things that may upset them. That "little less selfish" comment did it for me.
Your advice was great. Don't get me wrong. Thank You.
Word of advice: When you are talking to a Taurus {Bull} when they are emotional, try not to say things that may upset them. That "little less selfish" comment did it for me.
Yes, I would give her at least a few minutes to herself.(LOL)You two are still learning each others boundaries...It's like she's a size two and you've just smothered her with a size 28xxx coat.Yes,I get that you want to make her understand that this relationship has legs,but she needs to digest that fact.When burned ,we don't bounce back that fast.
VullcanLazz, what you are saying sounds very reasonable. Only she knows if what you are saying is spot on to what she is thinking. I've been reading what everyone is writing and I am chilling. Most seem to think she will come back to me when she is ready. I'm willing to wait for that to happen. She knows how I feel about her and shouldn't need me to keep reminding her.
Sounds like whining to me.
Posted by MellyMelPosted by AreTwoFour
I don't think its a coincidence...
I thought there was a bit more to it than coincidence as well.. But since I don't know what those other intentions could be on his end, I just chalked it up to over analysis on my part.click to expand
Stalkerish tendencies that some scorps have, probably. Or serendipity. Sometimes I have had this weird things that seem to happen with certain people, or could be interpreted as stalkerish. If it was it was subconscious.
Do you twohave a lot of saturn things going on in synastry?