I look at this like climbing a big mountain with a 3 day approach, concentrate on your next step, sure look up check out the view from time to time, but only look at the thing you need to deal with now, do it right, do it well. Do it over and over until you get to the top.
It looks like you are doing that though, just looking at the big picture for too long and too hard. I get into this too, kind of going through the same thing myself.
One problem at a time, done to the best of you ability, in a way that leaves you with a clear conscious.
By the way, I think you are dealing well with what has been put before you, it's too big though, so don't look up & if you do only a glance. Just try to be in the moment.
Why is "fuck" a bad word and who made up that stupid fuckin rule anyway? Fuck. :-) I happen to like the way it sounds and it has so many different meanings for a lot of cool things, lol. So "fuck" away or "fuck" off!!!
All the neat "fuck" words in the title have been changed to "treetrunk" lol.
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Aug 31, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 10616 · Topics: 40
+1 truecap
I was thinking the same thing as truecap. Caps are private and if you blabber on about him to someone else he won't trust you. She truly has no business up in YOUR business.
Also please don't mix sex with having a relationship, the 2 are mutually exclusive. You had sex with him, that's it, if you didn't establish a boundary with him as to what you're both doing and instead opted to have sex first then fine but relax, don't expect him to stick around, it's good if he does but it's completely understandable if he doesn't.
The worst thing you can do is attempt to create an instant relationship out of a sexual encounter. The worst thing you can do is wait on a man that drove through your town to meet you to get a side helping of sex because you'll only grow impatient, possibly feel used or maybe hurt over his lack of action so to avoid all the usual pitfalls so many women fall into, relax, no worrying, no waiting, go live your life as you always have.
In my honest opinion when he said he was heading your way without actually having enough time to spend with you that was BOOTYCALL talk. It was your queue to either say no another time since it was last minute or just not have sexual relations until he could make some real one on one time with you. Let the chips fall.
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I like your threads. Very interesting stuff!
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Before I fell in love for the first time, I actually preferred to think about living my life alone. I didn't need relationships and people pretty much annoyed me. But, then a little scorp sneaked into my life and I have since changed my views on that. I want the right partner. I go in and out of relationships a lot, it seems, but I really need that one person who will tell my venus in aries to calm the fuck down and stick with something/someone. I feel like finding that person is an important step to stabilizing my life. In a more spiritual kind of sense...not 'I'm so lonely I need someone to be with forever and if not I'll be a sad mess.' But, there's nothing wrong with not wanting to be with people. If you want to change...and you find the right person, I don't think it'll be very hard, imo. And, if you don't find that person, at least you'll be content that way, also.