Do I still love him?

or was it love?
So I was in a relationship with my aqua guy (now an ex) for the last three years. (sidenote: I'm gemini)
We got on well on almost every levels - we both loved talking, we talked away nights after nights. There was never an awkward moment or tension filled silence. He was the gentlest and nicest man I have ever met. So caring yet liberating, never tried to change me or forced me to do anything, he just let me be myself... but then there were some dark stories on my side from my past, and I could not really tell him those, because I was afraid of losing him should I do so. He was an honourable man with integrity.
The problem was that I was not attracted to him physically, sexually... the attraction, of course, was there in the beginning of our relationship. But then it faded away way too quickly - yet we got along each other so well and enjoyed our time together so much. We shared lots of common interests and beliefs. We talked lots, but then we did not really have to say a word to know what was going on the other's mind, because we thought alike and there was no need to explanation as in why and how we did this or that. Everything felt so natural and we did not have much need to compromise (yet we sometimes made compromises when there was need.)
We were like really good, best friends. There was devotion. Lots of it. Yet I'd say there lacked passion. And when I brought up the issue my aqua said 'sex is not everything,' - which I wholly agree(d), but then is it not essential to a romantic relationship, not to say a long and happy (even marriage bound -I had never thought about the M word before this man. This guy was the only one who ever made me think more than just now, the present, but about the future-) partnership?
I could not find any other man like him - on intellectual level, the faith, fidelity, the devotion, the same philosophy on life and so on. He was also the one whom I have stayed in a relationship with the longest.
Though lack of sexual attraction, tension and chemistry, I started doubting - whether I could really settle down with him for the rest of my life, or not? We tried to work on the issue. I had brought up the issue several times already, but in a playful tone lest he/or his pride as a man was intimidated and hurt - and maybe that was my fault, as he did not take it seriously.
But when I became serious, he did so, in fact, way too much, and the issue became too hard to handle for both of us.
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