If You Were in my situation, what would you do?
Posted by Aria
@gemeliorist: thank you so much! That is very inspirational. Yes, I should also consider myself. My happiness. ME. What is right for me. I am again at my less emotional state right now and I'd have to admit that I am thinking and thinking all day. He went out, I didn't send him a message. He got back and asked how my dinner with my mom went and now he's on the phone with his dad. Ignored his message for 2 hours since I wasn't really into talking to him so much today. But then, I can't resist. I'm feeling that he is also sad about what is happening since before this, things were going perfectly. He told me last night that for once in my life, I should not walk away. I should not leave him. Poor us getting in this situation. Yes, probably a bad timing now. We love and respect each other because if not, we would have done things differently.
Everyone so far has given you pretty good advice. You are not his crutch/rebound. You can be supportive while maintaining some distance if YOU choose to. Can YOU handle things? Divorce often gets complicated it's rarely as simple as I don't want to stay married to you anymore. Anyone can lose it on any given day for any reason and things can come out even if one did not realize it was even there. People can change their minds and have a right to do so and since there's also a child involved...too many variables. Time can/will reveal many many things and timing is not only about his marital status, it also pertains to the space and place YOU are in. Don't lose yourself...
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My opinion?
I'm the adult, you're the child, you do what I ask you to. Period. Pretty simple.
There's far too much coddling these days.
I have a 16 year old with all sorts of behavioral problems that my wife and I adopted. It works with him
Hey everyone... check this out - "I am the adult, you're the child, you do what I "ASK" you to"
looks left, looks right....
Rabbit, go easy on you're kid... you might kill him.
To hell with my punctuation!
That does make sense. Saying fresh meat wouldn't have scared me.
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Posted by leoliza
I love drama! Just the positive kind...Like acting silly in public, the stage, shiny things haha
Yes.
There is a difference between being dramatic, and engaging in "drama."
LEOs have a flair for the dramatic, but the "drama" is something we can do without, thanks.
Hello KM,
A friendly welcome to DXP, eventually you will be initiated as we all do here upon the land of insanity, sometimes madness too but if you do not venture far beyond the green grassy pastures of Goat-land then you would do just fine, no grains of salt shall be thrown at you that is
Otherwise have fun!
A friendly welcome to DXP, eventually you will be initiated as we all do here upon the land of insanity, sometimes madness too but if you do not venture far beyond the green grassy pastures of Goat-land then you would do just fine, no grains of salt shall be thrown at you that is
Otherwise have fun!
Addictive can be good except when I'm supposed to clean. So with my chart my Moon would be Aries
Honestly, I think we're all self centered. It's a matter of degrees. I definitely agree with the moods being hard for others to take. Yup, got that problem and my response to it is to shut myself away from people. I really hate people seeing me down. I don't want to drag them down either. But I also got out of a rela. where I financially and emotionally supported a man for 8 years. That's hardly self centered but it wasn't entirely self-less either. I wanted his love. I wanted to save him. I wanted to make it work. And I couldn't. But I still love him and always will. I'm a true believer that we get the love we send out, which is not a selfless act. Again, I think we're all self centered. It's just whether we understand that our self interests actually coincide with others. We might be crabs but we're not hermits and we need people in our lives.
Well done !