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I understand exactly what you mean. When he wants to do something for her, whenever he feels generous, it should be what she apparently likes. I had a guy that liked to go out to eat. I don't particularly fancy eating out but he wanted to act like he was doing something for me and was rather obnoxious about it.
I've had men approach me, sometimes barely acquaintances, thinking that I am high maintenance but, I do it all myself, my hair, my nails, etc. and I don't wear make-up. The one's who say high maintenance, I add at the end of getting ready that if I wore make-up, I wouldn't be ready this fast - to prove my point to them.
So, as you were saying, if he likes what he sees, he should feel inclined, whenever he feels generous, to do something for her that is apparent that she likes. If you see I like jewelry, make-up, nail polish, shoes, etc. then why do something else?
If a man likes nice $ 100+ jeans, tennis shoes, or likes to eat out, I don't interpret it as high maintenance... unless, I'm a cheap-ass or he can't afford his own life style ; then, it no longer feels like a gift but a burden. I peeped his style and liked it so?
Also, they don't think about what you spend in clothes, perfume, etc. They just like what they see and smell. And that is where the issues come up in marriage if it goes that far.
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Very true! Yup Yup! I can honestly say, I always try to step back and look from the outside in, every time there's a setback in my life. I've tripped and fell more times than anyone can imagine, trouble has a way of finding me FOR REAL! But its what builds character at the end of the day. I have zero regrets! Would I do things differently in any case? NOPE because at the end I'm being true to myself! I'm very spiritual though, and believe do unto others as you'd want done to you. But lately life has given me some really hard blows, almost to the point of me thinking WHAT the FUCK did I do in this lifetime to deserve this? I've bared my soul on here and have been called "insecure" "needy" and a "bitch"! Well we all can be the best or worst us at any time, its what you move forward with that matters.
I read somewhere that the last 7 years of my life have been based on things that I began 7 years ago, and the same would apply to the future 7 years, starting now. Soooo I will definitely keep in mind that what I put out to the universe I will indubitably reap. I'm more mature now anyway, and don't believe in that 100% . But I'm a happy soul through it all, and live my life accordingly, always wanting to "better" myself and the world around me.
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So ive been talking to this gemini girl for the last couple of weeks and i swear its the most frustrating thing ive ever experienced...its seriously like dealing with the female version of myself she loves to play games, shes self centered, beautiful, and completly aloof to the point where i doubt she even likes me even though everyone assures me she does.yet im crazy about her even though ive recently backed off of her for a bit feeling im putting in too much work she texted me today and i didnt respond not that im playing games or anything i jst dnt how to pursue the situation further or if i even wnt too :/
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