It happened almost three weeks ago now.
I've collect most of my stuff from her house as I used to spend alot of time their.
Then no contact for two weeks till the other the day when she text saying she never ment to hurt me, etc, it wasn't working, it been hard not to get in contact but my some of my stuffs still their ready to be collected.
So I went round and got my stuff.
We had a couple of hrs togther, it was emtional at first, she kept saying she couldn't go back & it's such a shame because we could of been good etc.
when I left we had a long cuddle and a kiss on the cheek.
She didn't want a cuddle but I knew she did.
I told her that I love her & her daughter & we could work thro out faults, am not perfect & I have been working on them.
She is a bit mixed up due to her past.we do have a history f her not being honest with me etc.
it's sad as I am the only person she's ever met he did love her, she says I Tick all the boxes accept one.. Which is my moodyness.
It's drove her anyway. I understand that & am taking steps to sort it out
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Jan 21, 2013Comments: 1412 · Posts: 11166 · Topics: 154
@ PR
Ay, in hindsight, yes you are right, the way I had expressed my thoughts might have read that way (did not proof read I wrote as it came, it may have been experienced colored too but then again hardly intentional on my part, truly), but what I was trying to do, was to show, if there is 'one extreme' as the OP had put it, there is just as well the 'other extreme', two sides of a similar coin.
In regards to sticking through the thick and thin, I do not mean sticking through abuse, hell no, I mean to stick through our difficulties and worser days (fighting demons), not ditching us to the wind the day the 'shit hits the fan' as the expression goes, but to stay long enough to work through it together because we are rather fixed, as Elle provided examples in another recent thread, when we stay, we will be by your side through the thickest of thick and thinnest of thin, what I talk of is reciprocation, which is healthy and a realistic expectation, not for one to manipulate, undermine and use the other, that is taking my sentence to the polar end but if one must take it to that polar end, then yes, I'd agree.
If you read my prior post to this longer one, you'd already seen were I stand in regards to assuming responsibility and my stance is 'exactly the same as yours'. Where two sane adults should never pose the blame, but gather their own respective balls to own up to their own part within the catastrophe, to communicate, to compromise (if deemed rightly so by both parties), to make appropriate changes to ensure a healthier and more stable journey unto the future.
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