Grrrrr. When will these emotions end!
Posted by memyself
i don't know, but things like promise you won't talk to another girl or boy would drive me nuts. not that i will not be jealous/upset/angry/fighting/arguing over it, but someone saying to me do not do this, will not go down well with me. you do/act the way it is right for you as a couple to act. but verbally setting restrictions i don't think anyone will take them seriously or follow them. you have every right to be sad or upset if he wrote to that girl, and you did what you wanted to by mentioning it to him, but he will not stop contacting others because of any promise.
i didnt make him promise i said to him "do you think its a good idea for neither of us to talk to other people while we try sort this out" and he replied with "yeah i think thats a good idea"
ANYWAY...
i have not contacted him once, you can all think whatever you want but i truly honestly AM finally trying to just move on hence why i have not replied to any of his attempts at conacting me etc. i do want to show you his message he sent me today:
"I think one of the bigest flaws in our relationship was me trying to still be so independant, i didnt let u in! Guess i was to afraid if being hurt!
We never realy developed into a proper relationship i feel, we both had good morals but i feel like i was living the relashionship like it was only going to be temporary!
Ther could hav been a lot more sharing n caring involved and i should hav been more romancing n lovey dovey things wich are all things i realise now i miss doing! I kinda knew b4 but now im realising all the good things we had n could of had and i feel a lot of regret!
I also realise now that i needed some space, i felt trapt in a way n needed time away from u to help me realise what i had with you! Me n u were pretty tight at one point!
Uve been on my mind non stop the last couple days and i cant help but think that our jorney together was ended far to soon! I think if i pulled my head in we could have had a great life together!
Part of me wants to chase u down n tell u i love u n that i need u n want u back n the other side of me wants to love u n let u go!
Towards the end ther the past few weeks i kno u tried so hard n ur heart was under so much strain, i feel so bad!
I want u to kno u havnt done anything wrong and that ur perfect the way u are, u dnt need a better job or bigger boobs or any of that shit
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