The breakup. That escalated quickly...
Posted by tizianiPosted by evermourPosted by tiziani
"I don't want to see him but I still do want to be friends eventually"
^ Manipulation. If you're not good at it, don't do it. Otherwise this is what happens.
I was ok to be friends the whole time. I care enough about him.
But after the cheating thing, and how he tried to justify it...
I probably need some space too.
I DO need it.
Still care, want to be able to just hang out someday.
But hes still just trying to pick fights with me.
No manipulation.. It just hurts for him to try and fight and play tug of war with me.
I dont need it right now.. I have finals next week
Sorry that "manipulation" is such a dirty word around here but that is what you're doing. Plea bargaining for a new relationship with the guy whilst asking him to accept responsibility for the fact that it's over.
Which one is it? That you identify yourself as someone who's friends stay loyal to them? Or that this is how you would like to be treated and see a future in it?
It would be emotional mature to accept his behaviour towards you for what it is and either decide whether it's over or not. The half and half stuff is plea bargaining. People do it to avoid a loss they see coming.click to expand
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Posted by RomancingA
Pretty generic but some of it rings true........slightly.
Generic to Virgo or all signs?
@TrueCap
Thanks! It's hard...
@CapintheHat
I guess I thought I meant at least a little.
Thanks! It's hard...
@CapintheHat
I guess I thought I meant at least a little.
Oh yeah i get that. I do attract a lot of people who want help and advice and just someone to listen you know?
I think this is the reason I struggle with intimacy. The only girl i've ever dated was a Pisces! This person was one of the few people who didn't drain energy from me.
I read the Virgo forum on here, and thought it was funny how many girls with Virgo boyfriends found them undecided about love. I guess i'm one of those virgo guys and got into a right mess over this. Massive regrets.
I think this is the reason I struggle with intimacy. The only girl i've ever dated was a Pisces! This person was one of the few people who didn't drain energy from me.
I read the Virgo forum on here, and thought it was funny how many girls with Virgo boyfriends found them undecided about love. I guess i'm one of those virgo guys and got into a right mess over this. Massive regrets.
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My best aspected planet is Venus and my worst aspected planet is Neptune.
Both of these planets are dominants - Venus#1 and Neptune#3.
Neptune is in the 11th house of IDEALS & FRIENDS & ALLIES...
-being idealized, put on a pedestal, treated like a celebrity,(attracting obsession, attracting borderline personality types as friends)
-attracting jealousy, envy, betrayal (incessant attempts and outright admittance), I have zelophobia.
The 11th house bullets occur (square/oppose) when my 2nd and 5th houses are considered. However, the 2nd and 5th houses involve Grand Air Trines so, I've never been a fool about the 11th house issues.
I have a difficult time making friends but, my aunt told me something that gave me great peace, "women like you don't have friends" as I would often seek her counsel about attempts at betrayal and jealousy. My friends are not of my generation; they are often 10 years older than me. I often stand alone where my ideals are concerned and in general. This is the most disappointing house in my chart.
Making matters worse - Venus is in the 1st house of PERSONAL APPEARANCES...
"You are a likeable, magnetic, attractive, and charming person whose heart is often on your sleeve. Unless Venus is very challenged, you are easy to befriend, diplomatic, and warm in self-expression. You tend to attract others to you quite readily, and rarely come on too strong or aggressively.With your natural charm and magnetic personality, you have a way of winning people over to your arguments. You are probably physically attractive and will maintain this quality well into your later years. You have a deep appreciation for art and enjoy surrounding yourself with beautiful objects. Your love life is very important to you, and you feel a lack if you have no partner in your life. Your appetite for life and for love is hefty, and you enjoy taking the initiative once you are comfortable with a partner. You are ever so charming and attractive, and absolutely hard to miss, no matter what you look like. Your head and face are your most attractive features! This is because your Venus is in the first house of Aries, a sign that rules this part of the body." ---Cafe Astrology
Both of these planets are dominants - Venus#1 and Neptune#3.
Neptune is in the 11th house of IDEALS & FRIENDS & ALLIES...
-being idealized, put on a pedestal, treated like a celebrity,(attracting obsession, attracting borderline personality types as friends)
-attracting jealousy, envy, betrayal (incessant attempts and outright admittance), I have zelophobia.
The 11th house bullets occur (square/oppose) when my 2nd and 5th houses are considered. However, the 2nd and 5th houses involve Grand Air Trines so, I've never been a fool about the 11th house issues.
I have a difficult time making friends but, my aunt told me something that gave me great peace, "women like you don't have friends" as I would often seek her counsel about attempts at betrayal and jealousy. My friends are not of my generation; they are often 10 years older than me. I often stand alone where my ideals are concerned and in general. This is the most disappointing house in my chart.
Making matters worse - Venus is in the 1st house of PERSONAL APPEARANCES...
"You are a likeable, magnetic, attractive, and charming person whose heart is often on your sleeve. Unless Venus is very challenged, you are easy to befriend, diplomatic, and warm in self-expression. You tend to attract others to you quite readily, and rarely come on too strong or aggressively.With your natural charm and magnetic personality, you have a way of winning people over to your arguments. You are probably physically attractive and will maintain this quality well into your later years. You have a deep appreciation for art and enjoy surrounding yourself with beautiful objects. Your love life is very important to you, and you feel a lack if you have no partner in your life. Your appetite for life and for love is hefty, and you enjoy taking the initiative once you are comfortable with a partner. You are ever so charming and attractive, and absolutely hard to miss, no matter what you look like. Your head and face are your most attractive features! This is because your Venus is in the first house of Aries, a sign that rules this part of the body." ---Cafe Astrology
Posted by trashedblissPosted by beebee1073
What reason would there be for a virgo guy to fight his feelings for someone, or hold them back.
Do virgos even do this?
Just curious to know if there are reasons, sometimes, that virgos would do this?
As a Virgo with several Virgo male friends its because 1. They like someone else & don't want to hurt your feelings 2. They like you, just not romantically 2. They're testing your worth/value to their life.
Are you interested in one?click to expand
yes, I am. Curious little virgo. We get along as friends, and I'm fine with that since I'm responsible for my own feelings but he knows that I like him in the sort of way, or beginning to like him as I straight out told him, plain and simple.
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Posted by Jahlia
What's your best aspected planet and your worst aspected planet? And how do they effect you?
Very nice topic by the way!
I met my Sag on www.christianmingle.com two years ago and I married her a month ago, a beach wedding. Our relationship is still steaming hot. She's a teardrop from Jesus.
It doesnt bother me at all...but I will never let a guy go down on me during that time. It would gross me out and I may throw up lol
Haha I'd probably do that nowadays. This was going back 7ish years ago and I was like fuck it she can keep them I ain't going back to get them 
I also practice in burning all things related to that person, makes a spectacular bonfire of sorts!
I also practice in burning all things related to that person, makes a spectacular bonfire of sorts!lol i suppose! thank you for the help 
maybe i will update what will happen in the coming days.
maybe i will update what will happen in the coming days.