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Apr 27, 2013Comments: 0 · Posts: 195 · Topics: 27
My Virgo ex seemed to have beaten my Aqua boyfriend in the element of surprise for my birthday... Why did this happen?
Well, first, aqua greeted me at 5AM and he was the first one... So I was impressed. However, he just greeted me and sent me cutesy pictures. Now, I was surprised as my virgo ex pretended not to remember my birthday and got me so annoyed... Only to find out that he had actually planned to send me an e-card for my birthday. So I got the e-card he made and I was impressed at the effort although it was a very simple one. He was my ex so I wasn't expecting as much effort. Actually, I was expecting just a "happy birthday!" Which, I unfortunately got from my aqua. I do know aquas are detached beings like gems. I've got no problems with that... But I was surprised at the way things turned out. Now I wonder if me and the aqua are getting too comfortable that we don't feel the need for romance or if it's just normal. I mean, not really a big deal... It was just my birthday. I have it every year. Just wondering and wanted to know what to expect or not to expect from an aqua lad.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
You are worth it, but I think you tried too hard.
I am wondering if perhaps you have built her up so much in your mind and imagined what things could be like and now you're disappointed things don't work out. Don't put anyone up on a pedastool, no one can live up to it and you will only be disappointed when you discover they are not what you thought they were.
In the future, I suggest not letting your feelings out so soon and so passionately. A little at a time as the relationship builds is ideal, but not all at once. It's overwhelming to someone when you do that and it comes across as needy, clingy or creepy. Give them space to build and process so they can gradually examine what their own feelings are. Don't over do it.
She just wasn't the girl for you and when you find the one who is, she will appreciate who your are and your romantic ways. Then, when you find that one, you'll be able to look back and you'll wonder what you ever saw in this girl in the first place.
And honestly, though we say we want a sensitive guy who isn't afraid to show their emotions, we are really attracted to manly men who are aloof about their emotions. It's a double standard, but for the most part I think that's what women are attracted to, what excites women and keeps us interested. But I can't speak for everyone. *shrugs*
I hope that helps. Don't beat yourself up, just slow it down in the future.
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Apr 27, 2013Comments: 0 · Posts: 195 · Topics: 27
My Virgo ex seemed to have beaten my Aqua boyfriend in the element of surprise for my birthday... Why did this happen?
Well, first, aqua greeted me at 5AM and he was the first one... So I was impressed. However, he just greeted me and sent me cutesy pictures. Now, I was surprised as my virgo ex pretended not to remember my birthday and got me so annoyed... Only to find out that he had actually planned to send me an e-card for my birthday. So I got the e-card he made and I was impressed at the effort although it was a very simple one. He was my ex so I wasn't expecting as much effort. Actually, I was expecting just a "happy birthday!" Which, I unfortunately got from my aqua. I do know aquas are detached beings like gems. I've got no problems with that... But I was surprised at the way things turned out. Now I wonder if me and the aqua are getting too comfortable that we don't feel the need for romance or if it's just normal. I mean, not really a big deal... It was just my birthday. I have it every year. Just wondering and wanted to know what to expect or not to expect from an aqua lad.
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Mar 15, 2011Comments: 59 · Posts: 1755 · Topics: 94
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In my case it was always work when I contacted him and still keep warm the text with him. Then he text to me back. It seem like he likes this , because he was always difficult to take a decision even for a simple text. So sometimes, if you wait too long, you can just make him more easy to forget you. If you wait for a while and then you appear first, even he still not until then, and if you come with a warm message, he will reply back . Anyway, I don't know how is good or right, I do as I feel. When he disappear, he also do as he feels, right ? So follow your heart and feelings for the moment.
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Feb 14, 2013Comments: 16 · Posts: 2225 · Topics: 3
Rocky knows I love her!!! Grey!!! Heyyy!!
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
LIL, we've all been there so we understand! Hope things get better for you soon!!
and we're all always here to listen!