Two people who won't move on... WHY?
Airess, I understand how you feel. I go through those feelings as well. My break up wasn't over infidelity but it happened. I feel awful because my kids farther isn't even in the country anymore and at guilt stricken. I think it is natural to feel it. My question to you, is it your kids or your own feelings? You are not in predicament that you are used to and makes you feel dependent and inadequate. Is it also your ideal of what you children need? A farther and mother together.
First, you are strong in doing what you choose to do. And crap is hard now but it will not always be. Two, are the children really benefiting from a home that is not happy? Children are more perspective then we think. When those feeling get to me, I look back several months to where my children really were emotionally to where they are now and I know I made the right decision for them. I will continue to struggle as I have to as a single parent for them. And really, I am more happier which makes them happier.
First, you are strong in doing what you choose to do. And crap is hard now but it will not always be. Two, are the children really benefiting from a home that is not happy? Children are more perspective then we think. When those feeling get to me, I look back several months to where my children really were emotionally to where they are now and I know I made the right decision for them. I will continue to struggle as I have to as a single parent for them. And really, I am more happier which makes them happier.
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haha I love pulling this line out LadyScorp! Yep we are insane.
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haha I love pulling this line out LadyScorp! Yep we are insane.
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Haha, I love that word 'bonkers'.
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@ moody: you are not the bearer of bad news, you just confirm what my reason tells me. But you know...hope dies last when you are feeling hurt by rejection. But tough for me I guess.
Posted by Julya22
He just wants to show to you how much you are wrong now... he just wants to show to you that yyou never ever loved him in fact... If you would love him now or ever, you could forget his cheating on you and keep him near by you exactly as he do everything to keeps you near by him now. It is just a clever Libra's way to show to you how much you wrong now. Even you will come with other man in that house, he will be there , you know why ? Because he lovd you and in on day he wants show to you that you really lost him. And that day will be when you will get hurt probably by the other man and then you will see what you lost. At that time, your Libra will go and move on , leaving you just thinking what you was wrong sending him to go away of you.... Now he humilate you a little , only that's way, to makes you make a mistake in your angry time now, so he is waiting for you to move on and when you will suffer from other man, he will leave you. So, better you think 2 times before to say "goodbye " to him , because you will never find a better man than Libra are ! At least he told you he cheated with other woman, but another man will not tell you this, even he cheat too, and you have to know, there is no man to not cheating !
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Wronged for what? She didn't do anything wrong, only loved him for who he is. Accepting his mistake saying it is okay? It is more in the sense of placing standards accepting value for being treated just for being you. You value what you accept which you think it is okay. What she thinks it is okay is by leaving him for cheating because it is acknowledging disrespect replacing for respect in knowing what her values are.
Her saying bringing another man to the house is proving him she's done and over with him. There is nothing wrong with that after a breakup if one already proved themselves disloyal to a significant other.
Accepting who you are is valuing what you think you deserve in how you want and would like to be treated.
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*sigh*
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Im like this proves my point!!. I told him "i apologize if i offended you. I tried to be honest but that never gets me far. As it unravels, maybe you will see what i meant"
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I just have no more hope with this situation.
Tough one
If you haven't done so already, maybe give him a call when you get a chance. He may just need a cooling off period to reflect and will answer. If that doesn't work, you could always send him an email, not as personal, but it will give you a chance to say your peace.
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Thanks lildol
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