Correction, we would secretly want to gift our sense of control to another, in such cases as relationship and sex, a man whom we could trust entirely and whole-heartedly. Frankly, it is tiring to be in control of oneself 24/7, it is a constant project which requires nurturing, this level of self-restraint and self-containment, at worst if we allow it to consume us we become 'Control-Freaks' for a lack of a better term. Sometimes, it would be nice to take a holiday from ourselves and this is but one way for us to achieve so, a release, a temporary escape, a relief.