What am I doing wrong?
Posted by TheCharmer8
how can she be done if she's still willing to hangout, sleepover sometimes, whenever we hangout.. theres some kind of vibe that she mentions that theres future times to hangout... I'm not saying get back together.. but i can feel shes trying to let me know there still migh be hope but give me time... or else she wouldn't be hanging out with me those last few times?
Oh people will hang out with you, spend the night with you, spend your money, have sex with you & use you up for all you've got w/o having a single shred of feeling for you
Newsflash: That's how women end up getting hurt by men all the time! They're at home using the same mindset that you are: "I know his actions don't match his words, but if he didn't like me, he wouldn't have came over last night."
When you see females making excuses like this for the men they are dating, you shake your head & just want to shake them into reality, right?! The same is true for women
If a woman or a man wants you, they'll chase you.
There's no doubt that she likes or maybe even still loves you. The million dollar question though is does she love you ENOUGH? "Enough" is the key word.
A person can like you a lot BUT not like you enough to want to be with you, try again with you or spend their life with you.
Should you just lay low? YES! Why? B/c what you're doing isn't working. Laying low may not be the answer, but surely you chasing her in the passive/aggressive way you've been doing isn't working either so you can't defend what doesn't work.
Don't lay low as a manipulative tool to get her to react or want you more. If you do that, sure she may fall for the reverse psychology & come back to you, but it won't last long b/c as soon as she feels she's got you "back," those very reasons she left you will resurface & she'll just end up running off again.
Lay low b/c it's what's best for YOU. Lay low b/c chasing someone who doesn't want to be caught (for whatever reason) is not productive & once again, just leaves even MORE room for the person being chased to become more annoyed with you.
If you're who she truly wants, trust me, she'll be back! That's the best scenario b/c if she comes back in that way, it'll be b/c she wanted to & not b/c you played mind games or had to guilt, pressure or manipulate her into coming back (there's no victory in getting someone back b/c you had to st
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Posted by bakedbabyPosted by msXPosted by bakedbaby
thx for all the responses!! the new guy I'm dating is a sag with a Venus in scorp and mars in lib. I'm a cancer with venus in virgo and mars in cancer. Just taking notes
your new guy has my exact placements and you have my ex-husband's placements.
that was a relationship i couldn't WAIT to escape!
interesting... well love to hear anything you want to tell, relating to the placements and all.click to expand
of the top, cancers and sagittarians are not compatible. at all. initially, yes...but it will come out. cancers are introverts and homebodies and will retreat and avoid confrontation. they are the type that wouldn't mind going to bed angry and holding a grudge. they have secrets and will hold on to something or someone longer than they should. this is everything a sagittarius is not. mind you, all of this is on a general scale.
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Just want to add to that: I??m currently chasing like crazy after a guy. And I??ve always thought, that was something, I would NEVER do, like EVAAAARHH! But now I??m feeling kind of empowered by it, ??cause I??m at least staying true to my own feelings. But I don??t know, maybe the guy is just good at being chased (and never won, ha ha)
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Posted by bakedbabyPosted by msXPosted by bakedbaby
thx for all the responses!! the new guy I'm dating is a sag with a Venus in scorp and mars in lib. I'm a cancer with venus in virgo and mars in cancer. Just taking notes
your new guy has my exact placements and you have my ex-husband's placements.
that was a relationship i couldn't WAIT to escape!
interesting... well love to hear anything you want to tell, relating to the placements and all.click to expand
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sorry...i didn't know it had been cut off.
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I need help understanding the things that he does. Do I still have a chance with him?
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I just couldnt understand why after pursuing me for so long. I have three theories.. 1) Because he's going to the military in a year and he's working hard to be in shape for the military and doesnt have the capacity to be in a relationship 2) because he only wanted sex 3) because he just liked the chase. He really made it seem like he really liked me, and afterwards we kept on talking and kept friendly. He still did sit next to me everyday all throughout.
Eventually a month later I told him I like him, he didnt respond. 2 days afterwards he tried to talk to me and I pushed him away feeling embarassed. Eventually we became very distant, we barely talked but for some reason I would always see him watching or observing me from a distance. One day I decided to spontaneously say Hi to him and he blushed immensely.
This continued for 1 month and by the end I was over thinking everything, afraid of talking to him I just pretended that I didnt like him. Later I gave him a letter stating how I just dont want to lose him, how I hate how we're awkward, how I miss his amazing hugs and what not.
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I just dont get how he could pursue me for 5 months and then after I push him away, he just watches me. I understand that he's never been one to use words but rather actions.
This once particular Capricorn pursued me for 5 months straight and we ended up kissing after he opened up to me about his past and WOW was it loving. He used to sit next to me everyday, offer me his jacket, help on work, caress my fingers discreetly, and constantly text me. The ironic part is the fact that he's an awkward and shy person that actually openly pursued me. My friends thought he liked me. So anyway after a month after the kiss, he and I almost had awkward sex. That night ended with me calling him and him texting me about our relationship and he suggested fwb. I asked him if there was anything more and he said he's not sure if he wants one right now.
I just couldnt understand why after pursuing me for so long. I have three theories.. 1) Because he's going to the military in a year and he's working hard to be in shape for the military and doesnt have the capacity to be in a relationship 2) because he only wanted sex 3) because he just liked the chase. He really made it seem like he really liked me, and afterwards we kept on talking and kept friendly. He still did sit next to me everyday all throughout.
Eventually a month later I told him I like him, he didnt respond. 2 days afterwards he tried to talk to me and I pushed him away feeling embarassed. Eventually we became very distant, we barely talked but for some reason I would always see him watching or observing me from a distance. One day I decided to spontaneously say Hi to him and he blushed immensely.
This continued for 1 month and by the end I was over thinking everything, afraid of talking to him I just pretended that I didnt like him. Later I gave him a letter stating how I just dont want to lose him, how I hate how we're awkward, how I miss his amazing hugs and what not.
It's been 2 months since then. I tried hard to move on and get over him. I thought I had, but the second I saw him four days ago.. everything came rushing back to me. When we saw each other, we had this moment where we just paused and looked at each other. He's in two of my classes and I havent said hi, I havent smiled at him, I havent done anything.
I just dont get how he could pursue me for 5 months and then after I push him away, he just watches me. I understand that he's never been one to use words but rather actions.
I really miss him, I still care about him. I just can't help but to protect my self from getting hurt.
I dont want our mutual friends to have to go back and forth between us just because we're acting this way.
Do I have a chance with him still? I've heard that capricorns are all about one strike and youre out.
I feel delusional for thinking that him looking over at me multiple times means that I might still have a shot at making things work out.
Please tell me what you think!
I dont want our mutual friends to have to go back and forth between us just because we're acting this way.
Do I have a chance with him still? I've heard that capricorns are all about one strike and youre out.
I feel delusional for thinking that him looking over at me multiple times means that I might still have a shot at making things work out.
Please tell me what you think!
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No it isn't... Not when I am here
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I think I'm pretty easy to annoy if certain buttons are pushed but I'm always down for a game of make the aqua angry.
I'd just plant one on ya and that'll diffuse you real quick _???
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not bring up the past?
my question is, how do i make sure i dont make her mad again?
not bring up the past?
To be fair to the opposite sex, Yi Xing(stage name Lay) from EXO, especially when his hair is darker. Pretty damn good looking kid. I want to poke the dimple on his right cheek.
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HE SEEMSdid TO BE TEH LIBRA STEREOTYPE!!!!!!!!!! @_@ Anyway, I don't know how to add pics. :/
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Idk, I think she's cool.