Expression of Grief
This about us Aquas is 1 of our biggest strengths & biggest weaknesses
Every situation needs a cool-headed "non-crier" when things get crazy
Then again, as humans, we are not designed to keep all that grief, anger, sadness & raging emotions in but for so long
Our problem is that we are so strong when we are holding them in & we continue to do so once we get the acknowledgement from others that we are so strong. We love being told that we are strong!
Problem is, after too long, people stop believing that we are necessarily strong, & start thinking that what they only "thought" was strength is actually just weakness & bottled up emotions in disguise. People start to get annoyed that we're trying to be superman/woman when they know that we are just as human as they are.
It's def. not healthy to explode & allow our emotions to consume us to the point that we impulsively react to every single emotion we're experiencing.
BUT it's also just as unhealthy for us to hold everything in b/c doing so means we're running from the problem, & therefore prolonging the healing!
So yes we do cry in the dark. We do not grieve in the way others do or "want" us to. I've been told before that it's odd how I can be the only dry-eye during a funeral. True, but little do they know, I'm an emotional wreck & fall apart when I get home lol
And b/c we are like this, we make it harder for others to comfort us & show that they relate & that we are not just alone. But b/c we are so obsessed with appearing to be strong, we fool ourselves into believing that others aren't being there for us b/c they don't care, which just leads to a deeper depression.
But the truth though is really that we put up a shield that's too high to let anyone in.
We as Aquas have to do better! Crying or showing emotion doesn't always mean weakness. Admitting that you're human & that your emotions work like everybody else with a pulse, is truly what having strength means!
Every situation needs a cool-headed "non-crier" when things get crazy
Then again, as humans, we are not designed to keep all that grief, anger, sadness & raging emotions in but for so long
Our problem is that we are so strong when we are holding them in & we continue to do so once we get the acknowledgement from others that we are so strong. We love being told that we are strong!
Problem is, after too long, people stop believing that we are necessarily strong, & start thinking that what they only "thought" was strength is actually just weakness & bottled up emotions in disguise. People start to get annoyed that we're trying to be superman/woman when they know that we are just as human as they are.
It's def. not healthy to explode & allow our emotions to consume us to the point that we impulsively react to every single emotion we're experiencing.
BUT it's also just as unhealthy for us to hold everything in b/c doing so means we're running from the problem, & therefore prolonging the healing!
So yes we do cry in the dark. We do not grieve in the way others do or "want" us to. I've been told before that it's odd how I can be the only dry-eye during a funeral. True, but little do they know, I'm an emotional wreck & fall apart when I get home lol
And b/c we are like this, we make it harder for others to comfort us & show that they relate & that we are not just alone. But b/c we are so obsessed with appearing to be strong, we fool ourselves into believing that others aren't being there for us b/c they don't care, which just leads to a deeper depression.
But the truth though is really that we put up a shield that's too high to let anyone in.
We as Aquas have to do better! Crying or showing emotion doesn't always mean weakness. Admitting that you're human & that your emotions work like everybody else with a pulse, is truly what having strength means!
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