Cap guy hurt from the past, what do I do now?
he said he was gonna take me home. I said since we are so close to ur house can we just drive by like he said he would show me. He then got really upset and said if I insisted on going then we would never hang out again.
He had said many times to me that he thinks he is bipolar. He said he didn't think his house is real and that he feels dead on the inside, he would say things like he doesn't care about a lot of things because he doesn't feel anything. Couple weeks ago when I brought up how I felt like he was indifferent whether I was in his life or not, at gust time he said he doesn't feel a lot of things but my presence felt good. But on Saturday night he said he doesn't feel anything anymore and that he feels there's no difference between me and this other girl he started seeing about a month ago.
He knows he will still want to meet other ppl. He perhaps does it just to feel something new because he has a hard time feeling things. He said he would cheat on me and I should leave before I get hurt. But I told him it's not cheating because we were never official. I had asked him if he's ok with me hanging with other guys at the same time he said it's ok bc we r not exclusive.
I know this may sound crazy but compared with the other guys out there who are also dating multiple girls at a time, I felt that he's at least honest enough to tell me. He said he hasn't had sex with the other girl yet but I don't know how involved they are. He said he would need to stop seeing the other girl too for the same reason- that he is unable to love anyone because he can't love himself. I feel like he is just in a downward spiral and maybe he really is bipolar and just so happens to be stuck in the dark side for now. And I think he probably goes through this often where he would get overwhelmed by negative emotions so much to the point where he doesn't think he is capable of being serious when just two weeks ago he said he was willing to try. I jut can't believe that he was faking everything for 2 months straight considering how much time and the type of conversations we've had.
Sorry for the long post but anything helps. Thank you!
He had said many times to me that he thinks he is bipolar. He said he didn't think his house is real and that he feels dead on the inside, he would say things like he doesn't care about a lot of things because he doesn't feel anything. Couple weeks ago when I brought up how I felt like he was indifferent whether I was in his life or not, at gust time he said he doesn't feel a lot of things but my presence felt good. But on Saturday night he said he doesn't feel anything anymore and that he feels there's no difference between me and this other girl he started seeing about a month ago.
He knows he will still want to meet other ppl. He perhaps does it just to feel something new because he has a hard time feeling things. He said he would cheat on me and I should leave before I get hurt. But I told him it's not cheating because we were never official. I had asked him if he's ok with me hanging with other guys at the same time he said it's ok bc we r not exclusive.
I know this may sound crazy but compared with the other guys out there who are also dating multiple girls at a time, I felt that he's at least honest enough to tell me. He said he hasn't had sex with the other girl yet but I don't know how involved they are. He said he would need to stop seeing the other girl too for the same reason- that he is unable to love anyone because he can't love himself. I feel like he is just in a downward spiral and maybe he really is bipolar and just so happens to be stuck in the dark side for now. And I think he probably goes through this often where he would get overwhelmed by negative emotions so much to the point where he doesn't think he is capable of being serious when just two weeks ago he said he was willing to try. I jut can't believe that he was faking everything for 2 months straight considering how much time and the type of conversations we've had.
Sorry for the long post but anything helps. Thank you!
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No it's not a test. You have to be gay (not homo offensive) to do such things.
And I have come to know through DXP that lots of Cancer men are bitches.
And I have come to know through DXP that lots of Cancer men are bitches.
Posted by tw1nk1ePosted by CluelessCancer
"But Libra men do like happy! always positive! collected! women"
all men like this women, and they get her, until three weeks after the weddingThan the real woman arrives. lol
happy? that sounds like a disease
positive? What about? Life is not positive, it's mostly negative, where you have to look for few positive moments within your day to be slightly happy
Collected? I got 5 leo placements, collected, but if you push me, i'll Chernobyl..
Libra men to me are way too laid back, i can't deal with that, i need someone whose more passionate.
Of course men like positive people. Everyone likes positivity. But Libra men can't handle the grey, let alone the dark.
I've dated several Libra men, but they've never made it past a first date because they were as deep as a mud puddle. :x This coming from a Gemini.
I asked one of these what his dream for his life was.
-Take over father's company
-Have a beautiful wife
-Have beautiful kids
I kept waiting for something more, but there was only 2 minutes of awkward silence.click to expand
I've noticed there's PLENTY of libra/libra relationships, and it's also top 3 marriages. But i also notice that in my family, my Aries sister chose a libra man, and my mother did NOT warm up to him at all. Thought him a suspicious suspect. He didnt exemplify all those traits a man should have. She warmed up very much /immediately to my husband. Because my husband exemplified all the manly things that she looks up to. And I agree with her, i love manliness. But my sister's choice was her own and just because he isn't the Atypical manly man, he IS good to her. Isn't that what it is all about? if the woman chooses the man because she needs him as a supporting role for her? It is different with everyone honestly.
Is there anything I can do to improve my situation, coz I would love be with him.
Is not texting or calling n giving him space making the situation worse, or should I text him every now n again just to say hi, I'm still interested?!?
Unsure whether I've lost him for good
Is not texting or calling n giving him space making the situation worse, or should I text him every now n again just to say hi, I'm still interested?!?
Unsure whether I've lost him for good
Posted by gemini64
... the subtle jabs and low blows in comments; comments which were out of the norm and didn't make sense at the time. Even to the point of being interpreted as disrespectful. However, they were not so obvious and bold attacks that others around me who heard them understood the impact they made on me.
Of course. Virgos do this even when together with a person.
Typically, a Virgo is a go with the flow kind of person when in a relationship ... or at least, this is how they want to appear. Underneath, they are very controlling - but, their very nature of being accommodating and cordial won't allow them to be demanding of their partner.
How this manifests is in being passively aggressive .. it is the whole basis for the fussy, naggy, critiquing aspect that you see.
They know what they want to do, but won't state it because they want to be pleasing to you, so it's left up to you to decide what to do ... and if this doesn't coincide with what the Virgo wants, then the sarcastic comments erupt because you're not doing what they want to happen, eventhough you were never told what they want to have happen.
Posted by scorpioglitterPosted by David13
You might not like this... but him not seemingly 'taking her feelings into consideration' is due to his belief that there are no feelings to consider... she has not made herself understood in the language he understands... remaining oblivious. No REALLY... HE doesn't GET IT !
There is no need to consider HIS feelings at all... as they have not yet been awakened... a woman is just another woman on the 'just an acquantance' list until she makes herself out to be otherwise. One can only reach a Taurus man through his senses... otherwise her message will not be understood.
To spell it out... Taurus does not consider himself as the other half in a couple until he has slept with her. His endurance for another to complicate matters before this has happened is next to null.
In THIS case... two months is too long. If she wants to get to know him as she has said... just 'talking' will never suffice. Many a Taurus have had platonic relationships that became nothing more... due only to the message being understood too late. HE has moved in for the kill twice now (see OP)... now he receives message from her once per week... as she waits for HIM to ask to see her. He WILL act... but NOT until she becomes more than just another sms 'buddy'. SHE must first become TANGIBLE.
yeah...probably should have added that we slept together the day he came over for dinner. That changes things, no? and by the way, it was really intimate, when i woke up he was watching me sleep, and he stuck around until the afternoon (of the day after).
he's abroad for the weekend but yesterday i texted him and told him he better find some time for me next week, otherwise i'll annoy him until he does --- to which he replied, that he'll see what he can do, but as a lot going on at work.
what are your thoughts on that?click to expand
OH.
YOU and you Scorpios with your not mentioning the crucial. *SMH* I SHOULD have known BETTER than to believe that you would have NOT left something out ! I cannot give you my thoughts on this until I see ALL of your cards laid flat out on the table... and YES... the ones you are hiding too !!!
So... TELL ME SCORPIO-GLITTER...
WHEN did this happen EXACTLY ?
HOW long ago ?
ABOUT what time did it start... and about how many hours after he came to your place ?
HOW did it happen ?
Did HE start it, or did YOU ?
WHAT did you talk about at dinner ?
HOW did you feel all that night ? Comfortable ? On edge ?
WAS HE, YOU, or the BOTH of YOU drinking ? HOW much would you say ?
HOW did he leave you the next day ?
HIM watching you sleep the next day is a GOOD thing. His answer to you yesterday... "[I]'ll see what [I] can do, but [have] a lot going on at work." is CRAP... but DON'T call him out on it... now is not the time. But the fact is: If he wanted to see you... nothing... and I mean NOTHING would stop him.
This leads me to believe that something has gone wrong since your escapade. Now answer me these...
WHAT do you think this could be ?
WHAT has REALLY been said since then via sms and/or in person ?
In reflection... is there anything that you think you should not have said, or should not have done ?
Is there any substance to your communications since then ?
Has he ever invited you to HIS place ?
Well... that is all the questions that I can think of for the moment.
I don't think this is finished... but I still think that you are going to have to be the one to pursue for the time being... even if it is only covertly. It can be a little like Cow-Tipping... most of the time cows just stand there... they tend to move away when you approach them... but... you CAN knock his ass down when he doesn't see you coming !Don't expect him to 'find some time for you' when he returns... you gently left the ball in his court again and he doesn't know what to do with it. Should he throw it back ? Should he just watch it roll around ? No... next time you need to bounce that ball right off of his thick head !!! If that doesn't work... use a bowling ball ! If THAT doesn't work... use a wrecking ball ! Belive it or not... THAT wrecking ball WILL actually bounce !
Posted by PurrrrrrrrrrrHisssssssssss
I "disappear" when I need to be alone. It's not a test. I just need my alone time. If I don't get it, I get irritable and bitchy.
The alone time thing is different, right? You wouldn't do this at the beginning of a relationship to make the other person skittish and uncomfortable, would you?
And damn, how many Rs and Ss are in your name now? lol
What the hell?
You know it's booty call, you even stated that you hadn't had sex for a year and that it's 2013, which is you making the implication that it's ok for a woman to fuck without a commitment.
Then when people notice that you have unrealistic expectations ... you get all pissy with them.
Sounds like the only person here who doesn't recognize the truth ... is you.
Unsure .... somewhere in the ballpark of 160, give or take a dozen
Yes, I cannot even operate the TV's remote control ... I have to call my husband everytime I want to watch a show to turn it on .. and then again later to turn it off.