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Aug 03, 2006Comments: 73 · Posts: 3385 · Topics: 36
I think you may have made the classic female mistake. you have gotten way ahead of the game here. it isn't about choosing between honesty and playing it cool it is about appropriate level of interaction. you have had how many dates with the guy? you lnow he isn't looking for anything serious right now. so if you wish to interact with him you have to dial it back. or... if you are looking for something serious immediately then you must look elsewhere. he has been upfront about his level of availability.
this doesn't mean you have to be dishonest. it does mean if you like the guy you have to adjust what you expect from it right now.
who you must be honest with is yourself and what you actually want. you can't simply adjust when you know it isn't what you are looking for. he wants to keep things fairly open from what I am understanding of the situation.