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Jun 05, 2013Comments: 0 · Posts: 311 · Topics: 29
Hi ellesque! Yes, I think you totally hit the nail on the head. I am putting way too much thought into the type of friend I am to people and comparing myself to the "Bobs" out there. Then getting upset at so and so, for those reasons. I'm not in there head. I remember once, I spoke to my friend about it. I told him that sometimes I feel that I'm sensitive or come across a bit bratty when he brings up "Bob" because I feel that he isn't half the friend to you that I am, but you go out of your way for him to do things for him that are nice and thoughtful and I get the short end of the stick. He told me that just because he does things for someone, doesn't mean they are more important. This was helpful to me, because the way I show that someone is important to me, is by doing things for them. It reminded me that I can't assume someone feels or doesn't feel a certain way about our friendship, just because they don't express themselves the way I do... we all have different ways of showing someone we value or care for one another.
Yes... I will make an effort to not look into things, to stop comparing, and to just let things go... unless it's a big offense of course. Thank you for responding while you're on the go!