Posted by tiki33
I see a few red flags which may be contributing to his low sex drive ie you're turning him off with being competitive as in doing that tit for tat dance so many women do and get dumped for.
He's already talking in male code in hope that you will get the HINT
" He feels im doing too much for him. Last night I offered to get him a beer (because I was closer.....)"
"and he said I dont need to wait on him. He said the time I offered to bring him lunch at work wad weird. He doesnt want me to feel I need to be a 1950s housewife. "
You are doing too much. LISTEN to him when he says this to you because what can happen is you're going to think, feel, believe everything is fine when it's not. He's telling you to stop doing too much for a reason.
The offering, the giving, the doing is his part of the relationship and when you pick up and do that tit for tat match for match, he did this so I'll do that it begins to feel like a PRESSURE cooker, it can feel off balance, notice I said FEEL, he's going to go by how you and your behavior makes him feel.
If he's feeling as though he has to get used to you, if he feel as if you're doing too much this will be a big contributing factor for low sex drive and inevitably him rejecting that icky feeling which entails rejecting you. This is coming soon. You have enough time to stop the contributing behavior that is causing him a bit of emotional discomfort.
What you have to do? Try thank you, men want to feel appreciated and scale back on the giving, the giving behavior points to you desiring more than what he's prepared to give.
He know if he has a lot of sex on a platter with you he'll be pressured into committing even more of himself to you.
I have a gut feeling this is why he's opting to not have too much intimacy with you. You're already displaying how deeply attached you are to him and that's a bit scary.
Stop competing with him, in other words stop returning the favor, it reeks of being either desperate and/or insecure, instead try to demonstrate gratitude by letting him know how happy he makes you feel when he's cooking and putting food in your belly.