Hard to figure out. Thoughts?
Posted by GetMistedPosted by GetMistedPosted by Agentgem24
Haha AS.
I think we decided we are "dating". I've decided to be more relaxed and easy going too, not push for exclusivity right away and be all clingy like usual? I feel more free flowing with this one.
He says there are a few girls he is "talking to", as in keeping up communication. I get it, you don't want to put all your eggs in one basket and want options until you cross the exclusivity line with someone. If you were talking to someone, but found someone you liked more and told the other you couldn't talk anymore because you liked someone else, you would just look like an ass if it didn't work out with your 1st choice and you tried to go back to the 2nd etc. I'm "talking" to a few others but I'm not actually dating them, I'm "really busy." And pretty much the same for him, he says I'm the only one he's physical with and that comes over etc. I was saying being exclusive comes before bf/gf but he was asking what the difference was, and this is something my friends told me before. There is none. We were making a joke because I said when sex happens I generally like to be exclusive and he was joking like, "well when we finally have sex, I'll have to tell them other bitches to stay back" lol he's just really funny and we are silly together.
I spent pretty much all weekend with him. I spent thurs night-Friday morning just watching movies, cuddling. Then I came over at like 8:30 Saturday and we walked around the mall, he took me to dinner, and we went for dessert wines at a really nice hotel lounge. He made me breakfast in the morning and I didn't even leave until 4 pm Sunday.
He already invited me to a big cook out with him and his friends this Saturday and he wants to do something with me during the week. He had already mentioned we could hang out during the week, and do a full sleep over during the weekends etc.
Hmm what do you guys make of this?
What do I make of this?
He hasn't decided yet, which bakery makes the best milk and cookies.
Reread what you said from a prior thread. A title means commitment. He's still checking out what the rest of the buffet has to offer.click to expand
Then how come he's agreed to be exclusive and not ta
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This is guess work but i think when they spend more time with you. They value there own space and when they let you in, talk more, link up more thats them showing interest in you alot.
Not every Aqua is the same.. but i feel its how they behave around you. I've figured out my Aqua guy but i dont think hes figured me out. Distance and him being aloof doesnt help at all
Shit!! I miss him
Yes! I don't think my aquas figured me out either because I don't open up to him (because he's so confusing). I cant decipher general interest from commitment interest.
Hey Cancerlady, just because he comes back, it doesn't mean you have to give it up! 
Posted by CluelessCancer
Lisa, well i'm coming from an immigrants point of view. We came here on a plane with nothing but our clothes on our back and our shoes. WE HAVE NOTHING.
You feel me. Life is totally different from this perspective. Of course some were smart enough to get educated and now can afford to take care of financial needs of their children...others tho are the lowly janitors in your hospitals, the parking lot attendants...
really its a miracle people buy homes and own them, most work like 3 jobs just to afford them...always working...crazy tho they pay off that sheet in like 15 years..the smart one's.
My relative works all the time ...he makes maybe about 18 $ -20 in both jobs (Which is good paying, because in this expensive city many are making less)-this guy paid off his house in 5 years and has homes in Africa.
So when children see their parents working so hard, if they're GOOD KIDS, want to pick up and help out....
Thanks for explaining, CC. this thread is really good insight & perspective from others.
Omg you guys, get a grip! What's the big deal? She reacted physically to his verbal diarrhea, he's a grown man and probably bigger and stronger than her anyway, he should be able to handle it.
What I want to know is what the fight was about, to cause such heavy reactions? lol
What I want to know is what the fight was about, to cause such heavy reactions? lol
He probably likes you and likes spending time with you, but you're just not "the one".
He blurs the lines/boundaries because you allow him to.
If you move on again and say you'd rather just be friends, then prove it to him by not having sex with him. REAL male/female friends only don't normally have sex. Show him next time that you're not going to keep letting him repeat this pattern, because honestly, it's just not good for you because you start having feelings and get confused every time.
I'm not trying to fuss at you, I'm trying to help you see.
He blurs the lines/boundaries because you allow him to.
If you move on again and say you'd rather just be friends, then prove it to him by not having sex with him. REAL male/female friends only don't normally have sex. Show him next time that you're not going to keep letting him repeat this pattern, because honestly, it's just not good for you because you start having feelings and get confused every time.
I'm not trying to fuss at you, I'm trying to help you see.
Great choice CC----
Love Gibran!
I referenced a section from the poem "Reason and Passion.".....as a Facebook quote for favorite quotations.
Love Gibran!
I referenced a section from the poem "Reason and Passion.".....as a Facebook quote for favorite quotations.
LOL- I know it's a weird ass question but I'm serious! Wewe!
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Hey Cancerlady, just because he comes back, it doesn't mean you have to give it up!
Yeah, I know. We don't have sex every time we see each other. And when he shows me that he needs space, I give him space and also take space for myself (A LOT of space); and when he returns I make it a point to abstain from sex with him for awhile. I should probably never have sex with him until I get a commitment, but... But you're totally right!