Like/dislike cancer ?

Posted by wildvirgo
I'm a Virgo woman in relationship with wonderful Cap man. We live together. He repeatedly complains he doesn't feel we spend enough time together, and I feel he is basically married to his family, which prevents us from doing so. It doesn't help that, despite being lovely people, everyone in his immediate family lives on their own, doesn't have a romantic relationship & is somewhat lonely.
He complains about not having enough time to rest (sleep, work-out, read/ go to the cinema) & see his friends and me, & yet seems to have difficulty saying no to things, in particular his family. I have no issue with him seeing his friends & family, I myself am busy socially, but it seems to be to such an extent that he is exhausted. Taking this week as an example, he saw one family member on Monday which meant he had to work late, helped a friend out on Tuesday which meant he was late for a meal organised with my friends, saw an elderly relativ all of Wednesday afternoon and evening which meant he had to get up super early to get his hours in, will be seeing another relative this evening meaning he'll be home at 11pm, and despite this he expects me to be available when he's available. I should add that the week before we spent a week together 'on holiday', yet even that was constantly interrupted by his family. I feel like he has no sense of boundaries.
I like being at home with him (having sex, taking a bath, reading together or simply doing our own thing but knowing the other is around) but that doesn't mean I don't want to go out. I have told him this. Instead of inviting me on dates, he just invites me to family stuff now (e.g. this weekend - rather than thinking of things we can do together, we have yet more family things planned). He says this reflects how serious he is about me. I will not, however, stay with someone who is this married to his family, it is suffocating.
Other than that, things are fine. We instinctively 'get' each other, are able to laugh & have serious conversations, have similar ideas. It is the family thing in particular which I feel is a big issue. I am not this bound to my family (though I get on very well with all of them, especially close family) and have no intention to ever become so bound to family, his or mine.
We have talked about it but he doesn't seem to change his behaviour. Please help!

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Posted by wildvirgo
I'm a Virgo woman in relationship with wonderful Cap man. We live together. He repeatedly complains he doesn't feel we spend enough time together, and I feel he is basically married to his family, which prevents us from doing so. It doesn't help that, despite being lovely people, everyone in his immediate family lives on their own, doesn't have a romantic relationship & is somewhat lonely.
He complains about not having enough time to rest (sleep, work-out, read/ go to the cinema) & see his friends and me, & yet seems to have difficulty saying no to things, in particular his family. I have no issue with him seeing his friends & family, I myself am busy socially, but it seems to be to such an extent that he is exhausted. Taking this week as an example, he saw one family member on Monday which meant he had to work late, helped a friend out on Tuesday which meant he was late for a meal organised with my friends, saw an elderly relativ all of Wednesday afternoon and evening which meant he had to get up super early to get his hours in, will be seeing another relative this evening meaning he'll be home at 11pm, and despite this he expects me to be available when he's available. I should add that the week before we spent a week together 'on holiday', yet even that was constantly interrupted by his family. I feel like he has no sense of boundaries.
I like being at home with him (having sex, taking a bath, reading together or simply doing our own thing but knowing the other is around) but that doesn't mean I don't want to go out. I have told him this. Instead of inviting me on dates, he just invites me to family stuff now (e.g. this weekend - rather than thinking of things we can do together, we have yet more family things planned). He says this reflects how serious he is about me. I will not, however, stay with someone who is this married to his family, it is suffocating.
Other than that, things are fine. We instinctively 'get' each other, are able to laugh & have serious conversations, have similar ideas. It is the family thing in particular which I feel is a big issue. I am not this bound to my family (though I get on very well with all of them, especially close family) and have no intention to ever become so bound to family, his or mine.
We have talked about it but he doe

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Posted by BlackCanary
Damn broncos won't let up. I'll be for the niners if that prediction comes true.
But until then, go Patriots!

Posted by JustALeo
Ummm first let me ask...if you know that he thinks you're untrustworthy, basically controlling (wanting his cake and eating it too), anger issues, really sick sense of humor (-_- like really, if you died it would make him laugh?) sounds like you 2 argue a lot, etc. why even put up with it? You're making yourself sound like a helpless person and letting this person run all over you...a guy who only wants to be FWB means he just wants to fuck and that's

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Posted by Sn1p3r187
I've dated a Sag, but she was a bit to loose and around the block if you catch my drift. Overall though, I liked her.

child, please.
i know of no cap men that aren't cheating.
funny thing is, the older they get, the looser and more promiscuous they get.
it's so unfair to their wives and children and all.

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Posted by PhoenixRising
Compatibility isn't based on the Sun sign alone.

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Posted by Nala13
At an aquarium staring longingly at the glass while simultaneously clicking their heels together muttering some ramblings about "there's no place like home". .

A few years ago, I walked into a Wal-Mart to buy some gardening supplies. I walked passed the fish tanks on the way to the gardening section, and there was this guy in a hoodie sitting cross legged on the floor in front of the fish tanks mumbling to himself.
Walked past him, but on my way back, he called out my name- turns out that I (BARELY) knew the dude through his girlfriend. Or rather, his ex, cause when I asked him what he was doing he told me he had just been dumped and he was trying to find solace among the fish.
He was Pisces lol

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Posted by TaurusNikki
At the end of the day, libras love drama

They swim in it, makes life worth living huh libs, lmao

Lol we don't like emotions and there are way too many negative ones flying all about here

That's weird because some libras create the very same situations they claim not to like. Reason why I find it hard to deal with this sign on a personal level. Some of you bring up these really fucked up situations & when the other person gets real on you then you either don't want to discuss the matter anymore or you want to pretend it doesn't exist. That's one of the things I can't stand about this sign because I like to face issues head-on, I'm not good with pretending something is not there when we both know it is. I don't try to change that about libras though, I simply stay away or keep things impersonal because I'm not about to be frustrated by a person who doesn't want to face reality.

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